Confessions Of A Former Cheater! Signs Men Give Before They CHEAT & Women Miss-Laterras R. Whitfield

I’m sitting down with Laterras R. Whitfield for a candid conversation about cheating, which I’ll admit is going to be a bit triggering for some of you. We delve deep into the reasons behind Laterras’ infidelity and get valuable insights for women dealing with the aftermath of the painful betrayal.

Laterras R. Whitfield, the author of 'Dear Future Wifey', opens up about his personal experiences of cheating multiple times on his ex-wife. He emphasizes that his cheating was never about her, but rather a reflection of his own lack of integrity. Together, they explore the factors that contribute to cheating, such as unmet needs, contention, and the misconception that sex with other women means nothing to a married man.

This conversation touches on angles we rarely think about such as the failure of counseling and the lack of open discussions about what sex truly looks like within a marriage. Laterras R. Whitfield shares a heart-breaking story about a feather that taught him a valuable lesson on intimacy and unmet needs (and ladies there’s a powerful lesson in it for you too).

Ladies, I know this episode may be triggering, but my goal is to provide healing and foster better conversations in the future. I want you to be able to spot the signs of cheating and take action accordingly, with absolutely no judgment if you stay or decide to leave that relationship.

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[lessismore]

I’m not a fan of when people say men are physical creatures. Woman are too. It’s called integrity, discipline, consideration. I don’t think it has to do with gender. I do think society gives men an excuse to indulge sexually

[STURNER]

When my husband and I were dating, he said a man that will cheat while dating, will cheat in marriage.

[Seth_opinion]

I love how the host called him out saying of course she never gave you herself fully, you cheated on her, so trust was broken. He should’ve been earning back her trust and not expecting her to risk destroying her whole heart, mind, and soul with a cheater who couldn’t get his side piece off his mind.

[karynmartin]

He cheated when they dated, so there was no foundation of trust.

[UpdatedView]

As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾

[marie]

Cheating is selfish, childish and extremely hurtful. The innocent one suffers.

[rashida]

This is so messed up. Women need to protect themselves.

[sennaeddiepalmer]

"What you practice when you're single is what you carry into your marriage '.❤

[chasity]

A person of greed, no discipline, no self control, and no boundaries is a person who cheats

[jessicathompson]

It’s ironic that we can’t talk to our partners but we can tell the internet.😂

[lovely]

Cheating is the most painful act a person can do to his spouse. More than a year after we settled the issue of betrayal but still the pain and anger lingers on till now.

[belle]

I think his wife didn’t desire him sexually because of his poor character and lack of intimacy i.e ignoring her needs and prioritizing his own, but he got offended and resentful instead of trying to find out why she didn’t desire him and fix it so that they could have a great sex life. Seems like she gave up on him because of something he’s not telling. He wanted to hurt his wife because he felt neglected and he knew the other woman would tell her again. He knew what he was doing. It was calculated. If he wanted to divorce with grace, he should have divorced without cheating. He sounds very dependent on women for fulfillment and purpose. He speaks a lot about his needs his needs his needs

[lesareid]

Cheating is the lack of self worth, self respect, inadequacy and being selfish. The person who has to cheat is broken and has a lack of integrity. One who lies can’t be honest; one who betrays can’t be loyal and last but not least, one who is experiencing an inner battle cannot give you peace.

[Toikag]

I do love that he said he wont give her the same level of grace if she had cheated. It is important for women to know this when they are deciding to give men a million chances. If we live by the golden rule of do unto others as you would like them to do unto you the world would be a better place.

[AnaEliNoble]

They should have never gotten married. Six years of dating and he showed her who he was/is. A cheater.

[christinemarie]

I was married for 16 years, my ex husband cheated on me for 13 years. He was the one that never wanted sex, I have never refused sex. So the lack of sex is not the reason. He had a lacks of confidence and having other women flirting with him made him feel good about himself. He was very handsom and intelligent but he felt like I was more beautiful and more intelligent than he was. He cheated with women that were not intelligent and not too beautiful so he felt superior and good about himself. It was not because his sexual desire was not met.

[tee_aj]

I was with him until I heard his contradiction about his wife not fighting for the marriage because she never fully opened herself to him. Earlier on, he mentioned how being a husband is the head of the home so isn’t he to blame for the wife never fully opening up? How do you expect your wife to fully open up to you when you cheated on her prior to your marriage? As the husband and the head, how did he lead with vulnerability and trust that made it easier for his wife to truly be vulnerable with him? His wife was smart to never have fully open up to him. Men like him can destroy women.

[MindfulSimpleSolutions]

Cheating is a lack of self-love and self-respect. We must do the inner work and continuously walk the path of self-development and spiritual growth to live a harmonious life with one another ✨🙏

[yebosuwa]

Sorry but he threw me off when he said, it's time for divorce, and she didn't fight for me. You betrayed her by cheating before marriage. Once that trust is broken, you'll never experience her the same again. But she still chose to move forward with you, and you broke her again simply because YOUR needs weren't met. There was nothing for her to fight for. You fought against her, and not for her. There is such a big disconnect in how men and women think.

[fifilafleur]

I’m so grateful to be out of my marriage and 2 relationships since as a divorcé. I don’t miss any of this. Same old $hit…