Why People Cheat On You

There are few betrayals which cut as deep as infidelity. It feels like your heart is being ripped out of your chest. And yet, despite this, we do not often ask why people cheat, even in relationships we would view as perfectly stable and satisfactory. So, let's explore why people cheat on you, with the help of Gustave Flaubert and Esther Perel.

00:00 The State of Affairs
03:26 Imagination, Expectations, and Dissatisfaction
11:30 The Thrill of Transgression
17:19 Laundering Morality
23:58 Existential Adultery

[Cattrapper]

My woman(27)of 11 years whom we share a wonderful 6 year old little boy cheated with and eventually moved in with my 48 year old brother. He was my best friend we spent almost every day together. Everything I told him in confidence over the year he used against me to fuel the infidelity. Having to pick my son up from my brother's house while my Ex stood on his porch smiling does something to a person It hit me like a ton of bricks, and I'm ashamed of how i let myself go. That was almost 2 years ago, and I'm better now, but I still think about that bastard daily.

[kuza.the.artist]

This begs the question; what is love? (Baby don’t hurt me)

[nikolamanojlovicci]

I've been cheated on twice. One of those was by my ex fiancé which resulted in me attempting to end my life. I wouldn't wish the pain of adultery on anyone.

[TadanoCandy]

I take pride in my loyalty, so breaking that loyalty would hurt my pride. Hence, I will always break a bond before moving on, instead of betraying anyone

[StratfordWingRider]

I’ve been cheated on twice in serious relationships. It’s is soul shattering.
I wouldn’t wish it on anyone

[kristakemp]

Cheating is practically glorified and encouraged in our society. It would stop if there was actual consequences

[jazzo]

Feels like the idea that the "grass is always greener" tends to enable rash decisions and to live for that thrill

[Rope_Adope]

Same reason as any. They’re trying to fill a void

[israelmasson]

My mother did that, my father was a farmer hardworking and kind, but boring whit the romatic aspect. She left him and found 10+ boyfriends and now live alone at 65 years. I love my mother but when i start rethinking about it i feel sad for my father

[wantedkia]

I’ve been cheated on before. There’s no pain quite like it. It’s like writhing against the passing of time, begging to go back to happier times prior to any heartbreak. This has caused trust issues for me toward most people in my life. This is helping me understand why someone may feel as if they aren’t a bad person when in strong opposition I believe them to be reprehensible. This video and many others by you are absolutely fantastic. Please keep them coming!

[john.]

This is a great video. But holy shit being cheated on in my last relationship and listening to this video is giving PTSD/flashbacks to where all my overthinking was right while at the same time explains her actions. This is the only video of yours I was unable to finish, hurts too much to finish, probably will rewatch in a couple months. Great video so far though

[شهریارصادقی-تز]

babe wake up new unsolicited advice dropped

[keddy]

My favorite read in high school was Madame Bovary…the tendency to self-destruct was very compelling and the idea that a partner can be all things speaks of emotional immaturity. I loved this upload! Thank you!

[ionceexisted]

I often ask myself this: Do I love the idea of love? Do I love the idea of loving this person? Do I love the idea of this person? Do I love the faint reflection of myself in this person? Or do I actually love this person for who they truly are?

By the time that’s answered, the guy bailed on me. 😢 😂

[darkmessiah]

Emma IS in love with the idea of love more than actual folks

[harkamelrandhawa]

I would be enabling to say narcissists are more likely to cheat as they are driven by what makes them happy

[Kyun]

back then i hate philosophy classes so bad, now im just enjoying it through you!

[WaffleToffleRoffle]

I really want to watch this but the wounds are still fresh. I'll be back when my heart has healed a bit!

[JustInTimeWorlds]

I have no idea how I ended up here, but I thank the algorithm for it :)

[pauloperes]

Infidelity is very very common both for men and women. Better just to assume most people will cheat at some point and talk about your desires. My not philosophical answer: a lot cheat because it's thrilling to act unpunished, others cheat because they want to feel younger or desirable, others because they just dont know what they want but dont want to let the opportunity go, and so on