Afraid of rejection? Do this first

Fear of rejection is probably a bigger cause of failure than ACTUAL rejection is... but that doesn't make it any easier to overcome. However, this video DOES.

[salv]

For any guy out there trying to do this, I want to share my story:

I saw a girl with a bday sash…

I said happy birthday

My line was then “where is your boyfriend” so she can let me know if she has one or let me off early…

She said she didn’t have one.

Told her I wanted to dance with her.

She was cool with that.

Fast forward, we’re happily married.

Go get some!!

[henrikanchelia]

As someone that has worked as telemarketing salesman every single word said in this video is totally TRUE.

[dandangalodangalus]

I started pretending (in my mind) that Todd is with me when I do approaches. Sounds silly but I do the same thing when practicing Muay Thai outside my gym. If I pretend my coach is watching I go harder and I don’t cheat myself.

[vtmegrad]

Honestly, the bulk of this advice applies to A LOT more than just dating and approaching.

[badgerproductions]

See it's the embrassment that I'm more worried about. It's the embarrassment that comes with it. Also it's the yes because after the yes most of us have no idea what to say.

[gabrielgray]

I've followed Todd's development and methodologies for years and it's helped me so much in some of the most important ways possible. Phobias turn to strengths and strengths build a better life. I appreciate you Todd and all that you do for us 😁🙏

[flashpeter]

you're an amazing teacher, Todd! I know you've done this for decades now, but your ability to break down a concept and give a step by step guide on how to tackle a problem is just incredible!

[pajugarline]

this is my biggest barrier honestly. thanks for the video

[STRAIGHTUPSTEAM]

Todd I love the fact that you no longer add those camera shutter/flick effects to the videos. Massive upgrade ❤

[jameslawton]

Great video. I work in sales and am amazed at how many people avoid the approach in fear of a NO leaving so much on the table for others with confidence to swoop in.

[danielsp]

King todd, I really felt the last bit of advice. Thank you for being so authentic in your way of teaching.

[Bom-pff]

Todd! Looking younger and healthier these days. Keep it up 👍

Also, gold content as always!

[viraj__shah]

I'd like to get better at decoupling this from my self-worth. That's the emotionally charged part of this. Sure, one "rejection" isn't going to dictate that but carrying that seemingly long history of "rejection" or not being seen - that's what I can't seem to shake.

[samytheman]

I think for me (and maybe for others) is that I associate stress as a bad thing. I think due to my upbringing (dad specifically) some stress has always resulted in me shutting down rather than finding healthy to deal with it. For me now when it comes to approach anxiety (mind you it’s not perfect) I accept that I’m stressed and worried in the moment but still do it anyway. For eg. Whenever I have doubts (“no way she’ll like me” or “she has a boyfriend”) that’s a signal for me to carry on. The worry will NEVER go away so you have to treat it as if its like a permanent backpack but it’s weight will become less as you approach more through the day.

Ofc we want to have the perfect approach but as Todd says (or implies rather) anything is better than nothing - so if you have crash and burn at beginning just remember it’s part of the process.

[MaccusFNS]

My thing is: what can they even do? the worst that can happen is getting kicked out of the club, but you really have to deserve it.
It's a mostly free world, so the girl can choose who she sleeps with. It'd be so messed up if she couldn't reject you. Every girl would have 100k body count.

[blkabdullah]

Todd Is the best at this dating shit. Fr

[jialian]

I’ve gone past rejection anxiety and I’ve had a few successes but the extreme amount of rejections makes it hard to keep going back. It can be a lil bruise to the ego if it happens 20 times in a row. Getting numbers and instagrams is easy but they just don’t reply back. Nowadays I only approach when I’m doing my tasks and walking around but I don’t walk around just to approach

[dariotarantino]

I've been doing cold approaches since 2015, and to be honest, I've always struggled a bit.
However, over the years, I've still had more success than the average male!
Moreover, I met my current girlfriend in 2020, someone I truly love and who fits my type perfectly, just after a 10-second conversation... And everything seemed to go wrong, according to my interactions standards!
It turns out I may have had too high expectations for myself, or she simply liked my approach despite its flaws.

So, guys, you know what you have to do💪🏼

[thomesc]

I am 44 feel quite embarrassed to go up to someone much younger looking needy and old.🙁

[jesusalejandrogonzalezrodr]

Hey Todd, love your videos and your content. Would be great if you could make also a video exploring rejections after you’ve actually had a good interaction with a girl, dates, kissing, etc.
It’s easy to get over a rejection if the girl doesn’t know you and it was a short interaction, but I’d like to hear your philosophy on rejections once the girl actually does know you, you may have even kissed, had sex, etc. I think it could be very useful for everyone. Thanks man!