8 Ways Narcissists Discard (And What It Means For YOU!)

In this video, we explore the different methods that narcissists use to discard their partners, from the silent treatment to gaslighting and smear campaigns. We'll also explore the reasons why narcissists discard, such as a desire for control and a need for new sources of narcissistic supply. If you're wondering why you've been discarded by a narcissist, or you're looking to learn more about this behavior, then this video is for you.

🔥 *One-on-One Coaching With Christina*

✅ *Ready to MOVE ON from the Narcissist for good?*

💻 Need a licensed therapist? 💻
----------------------------------------------------

I receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp, but please know that I only recommend services I know and trust.**

*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[AFAskygoddess]

The emotion one should ever feel after being discarded by a narcissist is gratitude and relief.

[williamthurman]

It really is all about them them alone

[lynylcullen]

Even after the discard (& this has been a very LONG process!) it still helps to reflect on an all the ways that the discard happened. And remember we do not have to keep asking “WHY?” .. which was a big one for me the last few years.
There is no why. They are not like us. I’m an empathetic and generous person who could never treat anyone the way he has.
There will never be closure other than NO CONTACT! Thank you for all your videos!

[peggyeldridge]

I was discarded for the third time so he can go back to his ex wife. This was the final discard, I am done.

[Mad_Mollie]

I took my narc x back several times. Each discard was worse than before. It was emotional hell and the first relationship I got into after getting with an x narc of 10 years. I have had enough of the abuse from him and the abuse it inflects on my mental well-being. I have to shut down all communication. He has me sitting here tonight, waiting for a text that might ever come, about dinner tonight. Well, I think I just made myself unavailable. I don't need to wait around for that kind of mind game and manipulation. I deserve and am better than that.

[briancorrer]

My ex wife discarded me, the children, the dog, the cat and the birds to disappear across the country to southern Florida to be with some new guy. Here I am a single dad of a 5 and 7 year old doing my best to heal us all with therapy and she was clubbing and in love in a week. She was abusive, to all of us, in a lot of ways, so I guess I should have seen the eventual discard coming. Doesn’t make it hurt less, who can just up and walk away from the children they carried to term? It’s almost unbelievable if it weren’t completely true….

[FallenMonk]

My narcissistic ex would say things like I was her soulmate, and she loved me with all her heart and soul. Then discarded me like last week's newspaper. Emotionally detaching after being treated like I dont exist to her anymore was the biggest challenge of my life....

[christopherleubner]

Problem is that it is rarely just a discard, they will destroy as much as possible during the discard, doing the smear campaign in advance. Like a game.

[alexrodriguez]

Thank God I Finished That Toxic Narcissistic Relationship I Was In. Thank You My Lord For Giving The Strength To Terminate It. Please Keep Her Away My Lord It's Done Father God. Done! Nothing She Does Will Ever Affect Me Anymore.

[TDINGA]

Wow! My ex discarded me, about 2 months ago, after 7 yrs. I’ve watched about (sadly) 1, 000 videos looking for answers, and this video nailed it in the first two sentences. My head was left spinning and looking for answers, and this video hits it, with its not about YOU; it never was. Sheeeesh

[louno]

I found out he was doing smear campaign before discard when his best friend treated me poorly, and he justified his behaviour and didnt support me. Said I was trying to be nice to everyone and nobody has the obligation to like me (gaslighting). Also he slipped in a conversation saying his friend told him I was rude in that ocassion. I responded with a cold "tell me how I was into that conversation in the first place" and he brutally changed the subject. I said that bc I side of me I felt something was shady. Everything was shady and secretive around him. Now I know why.

[meiw]

Thank you for your teaching. My so called husband is a grandiosity narc, and you said everything in narc abuse I have experienced, now till the point I am feeling I am going crazy in the point of collapse, the abuse words out of his mouth in my mind over and over couldn’t sleep, my hair fall when I am very angry I cut my long hair . I do not answer call s or texts, then he came to my house yelled : I thought you were dead. I told him to leave my house. Now I am going to see psychologist make record, I will still do no contact, the destruction, lying, chaos, toxic, endless of arguing costs me got breast cancer and neutropenia, I know if I want live a quality of life I have to cut him off . I am living alone away from this monster.

[ComplimentsOfMae]

I walked out after getting tired of the gaslighting, the breadcrumbing, the manipulation and I was so hurt and tired emotionally. Now, in the past, I have been so quick to forgive and forget but this time I took my sweet time deciding if I wanted to continue on with him, meanwhile he was begging and begging for forgiveness for days, buying tickets to shows, telling me how he would step up and be the man I needed him to be. Finally I decided to forgive him and give it another try because I just hoped in what he said was finally going to be true. 2 days later, he discarded me unexpectedly. I was completely blindsided because he had done and said all of these sweet things up until that point. He gave me the excuse that “he didn’t wanna hurt me anymore and it was best he do it now” I told him I felt like there was someone else, then days later, he said “that’s why I’m ending it, before it got to that point.” Then another day later, he said “it was over for me when you said I should disregard my son to spend time with you.”

That’s something I never ever said but he twisted what I did say to try to gaslight me and keep blameshifting. I decided after that to just go full No Contact and block him because I realized that everytime he said something to me, I would reply and try to defend myself but I was really just giving him Supply in seeing me defend myself and my character in sort of a begging manner.

[etaokha]

Was discarded for the second time and the reason is unbelievable. They are bullies and I called him on his BS and he strunk like a little boy seeking his mother

[markcapestro]

I think the worst part of the discard process is the lack of closure.

My ex, whom i would never give that opportunity to come back, just up and left one day. She wouldnt tell me why. She wouldn't say what i did wrong. She didnt tell me anything.

Id like to be clear. I wanted her gone. Amongst MANY reasons, i wanted her gone the most for her suicidal threats. I was terrified that id come home and find her dead.

But with no closure, it has taken me 5+ years and a lot of videos like these to lay those bones to rest. Its hard!! You feel like a complete failure EVEN WHEN you get what you wanted and you know you are right. It still sucks. I'd be a liar if I didn't admit to praying for Karma to pay her a much deserved visit tho!!😁

I have since moved on and am very happy.

[garygandy]

Dealing with this right. This whole week has been insane. They are already dating someone else. Everything was normal 1 week ago. This is rough.

[yabetabe]

I caught my narc ex cheating and lying. When I confronted them and ended the relationship they were furious that it came from me and not them. They said how dare I do this to them and shifted the blame onto me as to why they cheated. They said that they had already planned on leaving me on Valentines day and it wasn’t fair that I beat them to it. C R A Z Y ! ! !

[stoplayin]

Hey guys I just been loved bomb and discarded. However I know a thing or two about Narcs. I will NEVER reach out to him! He does not exist anymore. That’s the only thing victims have is their dignity. Act like he never existed. That’s it.

[danielchallenger]

The discard phase happened by her becoming very distant from me. She was always coming up with excuses for being distant which always centered on the fact that she was not over her ex. She could not do couples counseling because she needed to focus on healing from previous trauma. She had to withdraw all emotional and physical intimacy because she could focus on healing from her previous trauma. The way how she would talk about her ex indicated that she still missed him. While claiming to be miserable, she was acting very happy pushing me away. She would see me having mental breakdowns, walk away and I would hear her laughing her ass off. Many times when I was trying to have a serious conversation with her about how her behavior was damaging me, she would start playing video games. This did not stop until the relationship ended. I can understand if her healing from previous emotional trauma was causing issues with her. However, if she actually cared about me, she would have at the very least had empathy for me.

[alysiahite]

I left almost 5 years ago. Been through it all with my ex husband Covert narcissist of 32 years. So done. Been done and thriving.
Had to leave for fear of being killed. I believe he had a plan and I knew what it was.