NARCISSIST'S FINAL DISCARD: 6 Ways to Begin Healing

🔥 *One-on-One Coaching With Christina*

In this video, I'll talk about why it's so difficult to heal after the narcissist's discard and share 6 things you can do to get closure and begin healing after the final discard.
✅ *Ready to MOVE ON from the Narcissist for good?*

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0:00 Intro
01:35 Why discards are harder than typical breakups
5:26 First step
7:46 Second step
8:54 Third step
12:41 Fourth step
15:52 Fifth step
16:15 6th step

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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[easylife-fyim]

it's almost a year now and i still cry myself to sleep sometimes.. it's hard but i am healing..

[spectry]

It hurts so much. She changed on me out of nowhere and I kept trying and making excuses to justify her behavior. It aggravates me that my mind is showing me all the red flags I missed. All the signs that pointed to cheating. The gaslighting. All I did was love her. Now I’m in therapy trying to figure out and remind myself that I’m not a narcissist. But not being sure from all the projection she did. Her telling me I was verbally abusive when I didn’t even get a word in. But she kept getting mad at me when ever I tried to voice my feelings. And yet I still miss her. I hate this so much. Crying over someone who doesn’t exist. Paranoid that I’ll run into her even though I live in a big city. I don’t know who I am anymore. 1 month since the discard. I used to love mornings. But now it’s a bad record that starts over everyday.

[LittleTaiChiMermaid]

Tomorrow is my divorce court. Once I stumbled on to the information of what a Covert Narcissist is, I implemented a firm boundary. He responded with a 9 month silent treatment. I used that time to plan my exit. In reality, he discarded me years ago, but I took the initiative to get a divorce, which surprised him. I think he thought I'd keep accepting the pattern. I'd have gotten out of the mess sooner if I knew what I was dealing with. These videos on Narcissist abuse, have saved my life.

[mairimillar]

People advise you to simply forget these evil people and move on but it helps so much to understand it. Christina, very grateful for your insightful and gently-delivered advice 💕

[playalot]

I've been no contact for over 11 months now and yet still think kind thoughts about the narc even tho the divorce process has been abusive and devastating. It's like my brain can't hold on to the truth of who he is. We were married for 27 years and the discard was unexpected, brutal and financially ruined my present and my future retirement... and yet part of me thinks about him kindly. It sucks and I wonder if I'll ever be free of all of this

[thebigh]

The scariest thing in retrospect is just how hooked I was, to the point where they defined my decisions my truth, and even my reality ! A year on post discard and I am still suffering with a kind of weird toxic hangover ! I still feel and hear their opinions and thoughts on everything that I do and every choice I make, it's like they are still sitting there on my shoulder, like an old devaluing ghost parrot 🐦 🙄😝, but it's not them, just their influence still haunting me ! You have to realise they really ARE gone, they are getting on with their routines on someone else, and now you are free to live your life, and send that damn bird of self doubt away 😜💋x

[Leona.luna]

What keeps me stuck is trying to understand them.

[triplekids]

I finally snapped on August 28/2020 I left all the toxic people in my life, I’m finally healing, I thank God for removing me, from there

[new_hampshire]

I was discarded two weeks ago, and I hadn’t stopped crying until I finally figured out what happened and then it’s not my fault and I’m trying to get my self-esteem back and trying not to love him for the good things that he was for me

[gerberdaisy]

This was/is spot on for the push/pull dynamic -- people that haven't experienced how dramatic it can feel in your wounded/broken self ... IT IS an addiction. Thank you, btw, for all your work, you are helping me to heal.

[loveablewomen]

Going no contact sounds like the best thing, but when u have children it’s awful. I have no contact with him now but even just him speaking to them on the phone gives me anxiety. He still puts me down to them and calls me pathetic. I just want to run away and times. I don’t think it will ever end

[angelar]

Needed to hear this so badly! Thank you for this video. I’ve just literally had my world overturned by a narcissist and I’m still so raw and drained.

[anwarallie]

Very difficult to heal. I thought I was healed. Clearly I'm not. A year and a half later and I'm still struggling from the abuse. Simply because she hoovers and I fall for it each time. It's like I'm helpless to resist. I know all the reasons, but my mind and heart are in conflict.

[dinab]

This YouTube channel is a life savior!
🙏🙏🙏

[monmonz]

Thank you Christina.

10 months, no contact.

[allysiren]

omg yes. i need to remember this discard is good. thank you all this is resonating with me. 100% the betrayal, abandonment wound. yes, i am not doing too bad, i looked at the addiction face on. i watched a documentary on narcissistic abuse and a movie called phantom thread. I have a tendency to romanticize things and NO. I see things for what they are now.

[paulinacruz]

This was extremely helpful. Even after the final discard, I'm still addicted to the push/pull dynamic. This video finally helps me put a name to it. I am able to start seeing other times he discarded me and the did hoovering. He was verbally abusive and blamed me for provoking him. He then went on to cheat on me and blamed my lack of attention towards him. I basically gave him no other option but to cheat, he was so lonely. smh The hardest part is believing who he really is and learning to heal and trust myself again.

[margaritales]

Thank you for this caring advice. Even if we still love that person, we need to remove ourselves from the situation and stay away from their abuse. We sort of need to love our self more and take our safety seriously.

[breakthrough]

I must say .. you did an amazing job explaining the push / pull and I realized that it happened mire than several times .. after that I became a pioneer for my future .. thank you CHRISTINA MANY BLESSINGS 🙏🏽👑

[Jillian]

Thank you young lady your videos are very helpful for all ages. Blessings from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤