How To Respond Wisely When A Narcissist Discards You

As far as narcissists are concerned, you exist to prop them up and meet their personal ego needs. When you comply, they are satisfied, when you do not, they discard you. Dr. Les Carter describes how these transactions unfold, then discusses your best response as it becomes obvious that you will indeed become dispensable.

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[sanjanabhatia]

I’d rather adjust my life to narcissists’ absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate their disrespect. ✌️ 😇

[lydias.coaching]

When a narcissist discards you, just know that they have done you a HUGE favour. Don't look back, start healing and start living.

[survivethelie]

They don't discard you because of how you view them, they discard you because of how they view themselves, they know your view is accurate, they discard you in an effort to hide from themselves, not from you.

[kdjourney]

When the mask slips, you can’t unsee who they are. It’s painful; and I’m grateful.

[bluemoon]

At first you think you're saving them from themselves, then you think you are saving everyone else from them, finally you realize you have to leave to save yourself.
Edit: Thank you for all the likes!

[Miss_Wonderful]

The day my ex told me he was leaving I felt the world crumbling around me and I thought the pain was too big to bear. Three days later I took him to the train station and, on my way back, I felt a rush of well being washing through me. I was crying, because I'm human and I have emotions, but it also felt as if a huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders.

[MichelleVisageOnlyFans]

Discarded by a narcissist? Best thing that can ever happen to you!

[pjfountaine]

To quote Maya Angelou: “When People show you who they are, believe them.”

[realhealing]

Narcissist hate individuality because they can't control you if you are an individual. I have been discarded. I am finally free to be me!😄

[farfetched]

Silence speaks in volumes. All a narc want is a reaction. The best response is NO REACTION. And being very happy with your life🙂

[patriciastewart]

Be relieved.
Be thankful.
Rejoice, you are safe.
You are free.

[notaclue]

When a narc discards you, it's a compliment.

[maggiethecat]

Their rejection is your Divine protection! And remember that every single thing they projected on you was exactly what THEY were doing, thinking or feeling.

[robertaoliveto]

Discard: and the trash takes itself out. Isn’t that great? Lol.

[alexandranoboa]

Show them that you are happy; have no
contact with them. Show them that you do not need them and you do not want them. And you don’t care how they are and you don’t want to hear from them. That is the best response. Total indifference. They need to see you don't care anymore.

[truetory]

During the love bombing phase, they make you feel like you're the king of the world, in the discarding phase they make you feel like you are lower than the dust. They go from constantly missing you to needing their space and having no place for you. And when they're discarding you, they will be sure to let you know how defective you are to them and how all their problems are your fault. They suck the soul out of you, taking everything and giving nothing in return

[musicman]

The sudden, cold discard by the covert narcissist damaged me so badly. Thought I was going to lose my mind from the sheer disbelief and heartbreak. Thank goodness for my family, friends and wonderful experts like this gentleman who have provided such insight and support with their wisdom about this truly awful personality disorder. I hope this content reaches victims early so that they can proactively leave abusive relationships before they are tossed aside like garbage. Love to all who are healing.

[gerriahern]

Narcissists are wiley, cunning, and manipulative. They command respect yet show little respect toward others. The discard is the best gift a narcissist can offer. When complete, the feeling of liberation from a relationship with the narcissist is exhilarating! It's a confusing time, but regaining your self-esteem is so worth it.

[janellinell]

My narcissist said “I don’t see any benefits I’m receiving in this relationship” the most arrogant thing I ever heard! I laughed first then realized I did my job! I stopped being his supply. The discard hurt him more than it hurt me. It was impulsive and he lost thousands of dollars. Karma!

[tjbrown]

Repeat after me: "You don't define me."