Reasons Narcissistic Parents Treat Their Adult Children Like They Are Still Young Children

Narcissistic parents tend to treat their adult children like they are still young children, even when the adult child has already left the home and started his or her own family. The reasons narcissistic parents treat their adult children like they are still young children can vary, but there are often some commonalities across different cases of this phenomenon.

Here are possible reasons narcissistic parents treat their adult children like they are still young children, along with explanations of what each reason may mean in your specific situation.

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[KingMark]

Wow, that last part really hit me. The part about when they know what bothers you, they do it more. So, my mom is always asking about my diet, it’s so overwhelming. She’s always asking if I’m hungry, if I ate already, what did I eat etc. As an attempt to set boundaries, I asked if she could not worry so much about my eating habits. I told her I am more than capable of making sure I eat when I’m hungry. Well, ever since that day, she’s been asking me even more. I reminded her of our conversation and she said “I’m sorry, I’m your mother, it’s my job to worry. It’s gona be hard for me to not worry about you so bear with me.” It’s funny because I truly feel like she’s doing it on purpose. No one ever believes me when I tell them that my mom is “out to get me”. It’s clear as day to me though. She legit looks for things to complain to me about. I’ve always had this idea that she’s always trying to stir things up. Like, she tries to get under my skin. The craziest part about it is when I notice it and purposely don’t show her any disappointment or aggression, she’ll get upset and just say something way below the belt. It’s so crazy that a mother would do this to her own son but it’s been my reality for quite sometime. Here’s one example of something petty she did. So she’s always trying to find ways to make me a “problem”. One day I was at their place and parked behind my fathers truck in the driveway. I did this because 99 times out of 100, they take my moms SUV whenever they go somewhere together. Well this day in particular, she saw that my car was behind my fathers truck and suggested that they take his vehicle that day. She only did this so that I could be in the way. She always has to make me an inconvenience or issue. If I bring it up to her that I notice what she’s doing, she’ll say “ohhh nooo honey, I love you, I would never do anything like that to you. Do you really think I would purposely try to get you upset? That’s crazy, you’re my child, I only want what’s best for you.” It’s truly like being in the twilight zone. A bunch of mistreatment with no validation. I’m always imagining it or it never happened. This is the reason why I’m moving to Asia next month. I want to get as far away from them as possible and for as long as possible. I’m thinking Bali or Thailand

[PrettyBrownEyes]

This is both my parents, my dad loves telling embarrassing stories from my teenage years.

[RapturereadyforJesus]

Yes!!!! I felt like a failure for decades. I thought I was stupid. My dad hated every siblings choice on who they married. My brother is a wimp, which is sad.

[DicyaninGlass]

this was perfect timing 🙏 …I needed the reminder why I’m still drawn jobs I can’t stand

[ZeroWinger]

“The more someone relies on another person for answers, the more that someone can control that person for answers.”

This hit me HARD. I’m too reliant on asking people for answers but when I finally do people tell me to figure them out myself. Even worse is when I’m expecting to just fail on my own without guidance, so I’m put in ultimatums whether I should ask my mom for help or just not bother doing anything at all. I’m too reliant on my parents for everything, and I constantly feel that I’m too immature and I haven’t grown up at all and I’m not responsible. I keep feeling like I’m a victim who doesn’t even deserve help too. I’m just starting to realize my mom just doesn’t want to let go of me and always tells me that her advice is the only advice that’s right. Because of this, nothing I do for her in return feels like it’s enough. She takes care of me and does so much but because of her mindset I’m unable to set boundaries with her. She’s trying make sure that I just never leave her and it’s suffocating.

[mikesmith]

This also both my parents but even more my narcissistic father and his flying monkeys they all love gaslighting and playing mind games with me plus they treat me as if I'm 5 😢. It's cause me severe depression & anxiety problems, weight gain, diabetes, low testerone, having no motivation or friends much less having any real freedom. My father doesn't acknowledge me as an adult he won't encourage me to make more money or drive and have a drivers license!

[surlif]

This is such valuable information. Thank you!!

[precious]

I have learning disability but I'm 30 and mom treats me like I'm 10 she always makes me feel dumb and and is hurt my self asteem I feel useless and sometimes I dont feel like I belong

[albihysenaj]

That’s how life is you don’t like it tough you just need to get used to it

[purrrfectnarrative]

It's "nc" for me mummy and daddy are conscience free

[mitsumikuramura]

The problem with Hispanic Parents. They will treat you like a child till you leave the House, But even if you leave the house as a young adult of mid 20s or mid 30s they will still treat you like a child when you move back to them...witch is sucks

[TheRmf]

What does God have to do with having a narcissistic parent like if God actually existed they're either a piece of shit that likes to watch us suffer or completely indifferent to us

[mitsumikuramura]

TELL THIS TO A HISPANIC PARENTS, THEY DON'T GIVE A FUK WHAT YOU DO. EVEN IF THEY LIVE UNDER THE PARENTS ROOF, THEIR COMMENT IS : I DON'T CARE IF YOUR 30 UP TO 60YRS OLD YOU GO BY THE RULES BLAH BLAH...COME ON ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

[heysaras]

I’m not down for this AI crap. Just stop.