Responding to Criticism, and Accepting the Way Things Are | Being Well Podcast

Criticism is an unavoidable part of life. But even though we’re all going to be criticized from time to time, many of us spend much of our lives living in fear of criticism. Then, on the flip side, we’re all critics ourselves. We’ve all been in situations that aren’t quite what we want them to be – so we need to either do something to change them or accept them as they are.

On this episode Dr. Rick and I focus on how we can get better at receiving and giving criticism, learn to accept what lies outside of our control, and avoid the “mood of complaint.”

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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and critiques of the podcast
4:35 Where we place our attention
8:00 Two kinds of complaint
8:55 Self-righteousness and identifying with our complaints
11:20 What do we hope to accomplish by complaining?
13:20 Sharing experience vs. asserting information
18:55 Developing relationships where your vulnerability is welcome
24:15 Projecting your unclear desires on other people
27:55 How to respond to negative feedback and manage your reactions
32:40 Releasing attachment to changing others and responding to trolls
39:40 Complaints come from emotional dissatisfaction
44:10 Recap

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[angelacavar]

As a vocal coach I really enjoy the way you use your voice. Don’t change a thing!

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[livehappy]

The depth, contents, and insight that you contribute to humanity…. Thank you so much for what you do and what you offer to the world. I am very grateful

[catherinemanuele]

I think you both respectfully present topics. I like how you share your own experiences. I never feel that either of you force opinions or facts. I feel sincerity from you both. I hope you two will continue sharing and helping us(me) to grow in compassion and understanding. I think that Forrest is an exceptional host who researches the topic, and who lets his guests share completely without interrupting. 💙

[karenr]

16:42 people can argue for ever about facts and values, but cannot argue an experience you are having.

[carolinaacastro]

Lol. Forrest, i love when you talk, it is the perfect amount! Thank you so much for this wholesome podcast. Not just this episode. The whole project is incredibly helpful to me. Very best.

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Stay just the way you are! I love all of your presentations. Just stay being YOU ❤👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[CrAZychicke]

Thank you for this. Omg sometimes it can be so hard, people can be brutal! The best advice I've heard is to take what you can from it but also trust reliable, trustworthy sources.

[terryvolbrecht]

Certainly one of the most nourishing offerings on YouTube. Thanks once again.

[karab]

I really appreciate the synergistic dynamic between the two of you. This is a consistent site that I go to for both learning and comfort, simultaneously, and that is gold! Thank you!

[barnardsc]

I find Forrest a brillant dovetail to his fathers experience

You two are both unique in yourself

The space that is created between you is clear open and vital

Thank you💖

[kylesperhour]

This was super helpful for me in the moment today. I appreciate the candid approach to this subject, especially the vulnerability. Gave me a lot of fodder for journaling. Hope you guys know how valuable your work is. Thanks again.

[hissyfitz]

Forrest… you were sweet to choose the criticisms directed toward you. ❤️‍🩹 People love to complain especially when it’s not in person… you can’t please all the people all the time. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Sometimes other people want us to accept their performance 🎭 and deny our reality. I refuse to be an enabler.

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Your Podcast works brilliantly for me, because of your connection. You guys are a great example of how to communicate and most importantly how to listen on topics that can be quiet touchy. It's getting better and better; you guys have been a game changer for me. Onwards Forrest and Rick.

[amaniqader]

It's funny how Rick says "I did poorly or I could do better" cause I never felt either of you did poorly! You two are my favourite. Thank you so much a special thanks to Rick's empathic demenour and Hansson's aware one. You two are so beautiful.

[Trying_very]

I couldn’t concentrate for the first part of the podcast, I was so annoyed and upset about the criticisms of you Forrest, 😱😤😂. Good thing I could go back to the beginning and learn not to get so upset about the fact that sometimes people feel the need to criticise the YouTubers I really like 😂 (completely undeserved IMHO, but they can just not watch if they can’t appreciate the value of the content on this channel)

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Thank you for sharing that daily regret is okay.

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I do, I do love you!

[maximomom]

I just love listening to you guys...I started in the hot weather of this summer, exercising, and now I'm sitting by a fire equally enjoying your conversations. I'm fascinated by your kindness and clarity.
I've been attending Al-anon meetings daily and the message is similar.
I also love to see the wonderful relationship between father and son. So inspiring!

[ara.journey]

What an intelligent contribution you are both making. Your passion for psychology is contagious. It's my go-to podcast of the moment. I am really into somatics and have loved the ones with Elizabeth!!
When i receive criticism or ask for feedback, I try to tell myself "In a world of 8 billion people there will always be 8 billion opinions!".
Someone's "your voice is annoying" is another person's "speak louder for the people in the back!" ❤❤