10 SIGNS SOMEONE HAS SUFFERED NARCISSISTIC ABUSE | DR. KIM SAGE

FREE CHECKLIST: DO I HAVE NARCISSISTIC AND/OR BORDERLINE PARENTS?

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[DrKimSage]

Hi all. I took an unexpected break, and I didn't fully understand what was happening for me here, until I realized that in combination with some other issues, I was being really triggered by past narcissistic abuse that had re-emerged. It was like being in a constant emotional flashback, but once I named it and realized it, it dissipated, and then I started feeling inspired to direct my content here in way that focuses on those of us who had childhood trauma, and also have had adult trauma from toxic people. So, that is where I hope to go, and where I hope you will find helpful. I am so grateful to be back here, and I am going to be playing around a bit with my schedule and creating content, so that I can show up more as myself and more for you.

[sktbug]

My biggest challenge now is that trigger response. It makes me so angry because I recognize what’s happening, but don’t know how to stop/derail it and return to the confident strong woman I’ve worked so hard to become.

[freeandfabulous]

Lost and broken. Deep sense of shame. Not ever feeling heard or seen. Yes .

[chxwv]

They leave you alone when you need them the most or leave you with no choice but to do a reverse discard at a time when one needs emotional support the most . I will always remember how she reacted after seeing me suffering from the severe internal injury she caused and casually dismissed her role in my suffering as “accident”!

[lucyonyoutube]

MORAL INJURY - the victim blaming and gaslighting - "You only have yourself to blame"

[laurajones]

Childhood trauma with toxic parents sets you up for further abuse in adulthood, that is my experience and understanding due to that being your "normal" as a child. This is how we end up not seeing red flags, they are just flags to us. You get an uncomfortable feeling and push it down, again I believe this was a coping strategy from childhood. Once you see, they seem to be everywhere that in itself is traumatic. I am learning strategies to protect myself from these horrible individuals. Anyone who survives narcissistic abuse as a child is stronger than they think. Education, reflection and healing old wounds are your new armour and shield .

[sarahcouture]

Kim I’m sorry you went through narcissistic abuse recently, but I’m glad you have the wisdom to use it as a life lesson on how to heal and overcome. When you share your real personal stories it is inspiring and also makes you more relatable to your audience because those of us still struggling don’t feel so alone or inferior.

[barbpace-lamb]

Wow I just realized I’ve been walking on eggshells my entire life! Yikes

[djer]

Thank you for your courage in sharing your own struggles with cPTSD and emotional flashbacks. It helps so much to normalize what many of us struggle with. I'm coming out of a couple of weeks of dysregulation that correlates with having to engage more with my family of origin. It's great to have a reminder that we can still struggle with healing but can always use the tools to reset and get our nervous systems healthy again.

[redleeks]

I experienced this with my parents and even more with my sister.
The feeling of relief when she leaved and feeling of dread when she would come back.

[bericwilliams]

For reference after watching...
Symptoms of the narcissist abuse combined with your unmet needs or abuse from childhood
#1 loss of identity, broken spirit or soul
#2 trapped, afraid, and feeling worthless to your core.
#3 walking on eggshells
#4 dread of being with them
#5 feeling depleted, exhausted, and engulfed in their world
#6 feeling chronically anxious and panicked
#7 over analyzing, second guessing yourself, and feeling crazy
#8 feeling guilty if you feel badly about the relationship
#9 social isolation, denial of reality
#10 feeling abandoned in the relationship. Feeling very lonely

[mday]

I didn't know my mother was a Covert narcissist until she passed away. I spent five yrs as her caregiver and was being abused, but didn't know what was going on. She did a lot of damage in that five yrs & it brought up the childhood abuse I went through. I'm still trying to heal. Thank you, Dr. Kim❤

[mr.manchess]

I don't often comment, but your videos have helped me a lot. I've been through years of emotional neglect and parental trauma. My father was a bitter, terrible person, and my mother was a cocktail of trauma herself. These videos help me understand why they acted the way they did. After all these years, these videos are soothing and a balm to me, helping me to better understand and cope. Thank you, Dr. Kim Sage. Also, I want to become a clinical psychologist as well. Any tips?

[CapSunLeoMoon]

Please heal me Lord! Please heal all these people who suffer. So sad. I’m so burnt out. On the edge - at Dr today. I’m here to heal please please please. So grateful to have found this channel. Amen! Thank you!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼😇❤️ very complicated child hood. I’m ready to let go… I said yes the all 10. Smh. I’m just figuring all this out.

[inicole]

Seeing this at 2:22, at 220views 2 hours ago. It’s been almost a year and I’ve finally come to a calm place and am accepting he was a covert narc. He was the one that ended it and I’m so grateful now as I was so blind to seeing behind the mask. Rejection was my divine protection 🙏

[thirstonhowellthebird]

Your videos are so calming. Watching the background reminded me of the time my sister tried to drown me in the ocean. I’ve never been so scared in my whole life. She laughed at me and said she could get away with drowning me and then held me under the water, until I almost passed out and she did it three times. She smirked while I cried and choked from the water and had such hatred for me. When I came out of the water and ran to the shore to try to tell what happened she came out of the water acting, as if nothing had happened and because I was so frantic while she pretended to be so confused and say that she had not even touched me in the water people believed her and I was accused of lying and punished. This was my childhood with this person who I now know to be nothing but pure evil decades later, I am still having nightmares about her. She did such horrible things. She triangulated me with everybody and made people hate me. It’s been a literal, lifelong terror campaign. I have now found out that her husband has divorced her and that gives me great validation, even though I feel sad for the choices she made. I am so happy that he got away from her. She was so horrible to him. She would criticize him relentlessly so much so that I couldn’t even be around her because I hated how he would just sit there and take it and take it and take it. Karma will come for her and God will have a special place for her. Brings me no solace because I will live the rest of my life dealing with the trauma and the CPTSD that she and my family inflicted, my heart goes out to each and every person who has had to live with this toxic and horrible family dynamic. It should be a crime. A criminal offense that is retroactive, punishable by prison and huge fines. Usually these types of families have a lot of money and the scapegoat gets disinherited and the reason that happens is because it’s a way of invalidating in the eye of the public anything the scapegoat might have to say regarding the abuse that went on in the house, even to the day they die all they care about is the reputation and what people think of them.

[munhassan]

I wish I knew years and years ago. I’m 44 I was married to one for 24 years. I’m free and at peace it takes a long to come out because you are asleep and manipulated. I’ve cut all contact. My children have contact with their father. Thank you great video

[realhealing]

Thank you for all your help. I am on my healing journey and I have to give myself some compassion. Being abused for decades doesn't go away quickly. Show yourself some compassion.❤️

[elizabethash]

We are all trying to find our way out of the fog of our upbringing. We can see. Clearly when it's gone .😊

[Still-We-Rise]

Love strength and protection to to you beautiful soul!