Dating: Take It Slow

When you really like a girl you're dating or you're very attracted to her, it's easy to get excited and try to rush things into the committed relationship phase. However, this is actually working against you and your goal. You must take dating slow & be objective about this new girl.

In this Attraction Tips video I'm going to talk about why it's important that you take things slow with a woman and what you're actually communicating to her by rushing the process. #DatingTipsForMen #RushingRomance #TakeItSlow #ModernDating
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I'm Erik Peterson, a men's relationship & dating coach, and at Skill of Attraction I provide dating tips & relationship advice, mainly for men, to help facilitate growing & maintaining attraction in their romantic life to where it's fun, loving & relatively effortless.

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"Why You Should Be Dating Multiple Women":

"You Set the Tone, She Sets the Pace":

"Dating: Revealing Too Much Too Soon":

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[domfasolo]

Just got in a relationship taking it slow and its working

[official_ap]

Thank you for the advice I need to take my relationship a little slower

[robertdavis]

Good stuff bro keep speaking those facts

[lupec]

Now I know it’s best to take it slow no need to rush if it’s meant to be it will be;)

[catherinebrinson]

Hi Eric:
My man is a high quality guy who is taking it extremely slow. I wouldnt be surprised if he has listened to you. He certainly loves me the way he wants to love me, not the way I want to be loved. I have fallen for him & I can feel his love for me although not verbalized. He is certainly in control. Please give me some tips as to how I can wait for this man to commit & take us to the next level.

[jeanpoulin]

Great video! Makes a lot of sense. Thanks

[JoseGonzTravels]

Sometimes women want to take it “slow” so they can still fool around with other men… Don’t play game and let the intentions be known upfront…

[williamcasa]

Hi @Skill of Attraction,
I am a rising sophomore in college who is relatively new to dating. There’s a girl in my class that I have been interested in for a while now. I have her Snapchat and Instagram and I feel like things are starting to pickup between us. So, I finally asked her out on a “first date” to get coffee and it went really well, I feel like me and her shared a lot in common and had great conversation the entire time. We recently went on a dinner date and plan on getting together this week or during summer (hopefully). While I am really enjoying spending time with her, I am slightly concerned that she will lose all interest once the school year ends, if I play it too slow. Do you think that this is a valid concern, or do you think I am making the right decisions by trying to feel it out?

[Beauweir]

I think this info came just in time!
I'm going to pull back now and live for me and my goals more.
Maybe accept more dates from other women as well

[JAKEBrakeModel]

Hey man, I have been on 5 great dates with an awesome girl. Great conversation / chemistry / compatibility. Going on the 6th this weekend. This is over the course of around 5 weeks. She shows high interest when we are together, but I’d like to see if she desires a relationship like I do. I don’t want to waste either of our times. Is this necessary? Is this early to mention this? I don’t want to seem like I’m rushing, I’d just like to communicate and be on the same page. Thank you!

[jclau]

Hello Erik, hope things are well. The girl that flaked on me last week eventually reached out and I managed to get that first date with her, unfortunately, I didn't go in with the usual approach where you go in for the hug immediately. The ONLY reason why I didn't hug her first was due to COVID. Yeah, I know that most likely she may not have it but my health is more of a priority. Anyway, with that been said we did build some rapport and I got to know her a bit. We ended the date with a hug eventually. Knowing my past mistakes I made with my ex I know what to watch out for. I am making sure I take things slow. Embrace the relationship one step at a time instead of blitzing through it as I did with my ex. The question I have in my mind is when should I start enforcing the 80/20 rule? I know that men have to do the chasing at first but when do we embrace the 80/20 rule? I'm currently limiting my response time, leaving her on reading for her to think about me depending on the text. I do plan on waiting a week and try to get a 2nd date. Don't worry, I haven't spilled the beans of my entire heart on the first date. Fell into that trap when I had my first date with my ex.

But overall, with what I've told you, how did I do on the first date? I made sure to keep the conversation on her, made a small mistake of going Mr interviewer mode but quickly snapped out of it when I realized it and of course not going for the hug at first. (If COVID wasn't a thing I'd obviously hug her on first sight.)

[Toasty_Plus]

When I look at a woman I see their personality. Obviously you must be attracted to that woman, but it’s not just about that.

[leobonek]

Please stop advertising so much in the beginning of the vlog, save it for deeper in to your vlog "because it's a turn off"

[Jay-wiwn]

Had a girlfriend of almost a year tell me “let’s take things slow” because I said something that hurt her in a argument, even tho she has before to me. I told her that I don’t want to do that and either she needs to be with me or leave. She has a attitude but said she will stay. I’m not going to reach out EVER from now on. What do u think I should do?

[Londocious]

What if we are both very interested in each other and have made that clear, do I still have to make her chase me? I want her to know shes got me, what do I do?

[juliu]

I don't know why he is taking it so slow.. not sure if he really likes me or what's going on. Taking it so slow confuses women.

[flyinmedude]

So like I’m a guy that goes rlly fast but she wants to take it slow so I need help to hit the breaks to slow down so I started off with holding hands but after that I wanna start holding her thigh bc that’s the farthest I got with any girl (well besides kissing a girl ) but what should I do after that ?🧐🤔

[jiggajames]

So what if you see each other for almost two weeks on and off but then she only wants to text to get to know you and dosent invite you over for a long time but stays involved in conversation in text only?

[missl]

I'm a lady and honestly I don't know if I agree fully with your advice. The getting to know a person is good and all but other advice you give that make women chase men is Low value in my Opinion and you're encouraging MEN TO TAKE THE FEMININE ROLE WHICH IS UNATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN. We love MASCULINE GUYS WHO TAKE CHARGE AND CONTINUE TO PERSUE A WOMAN. While he's taking it too slow another guy is STEPPING UP! women in their 30ties don't have forever to wait for a guy who's taking things slow and wants a woman to take the leading role. This advice will attract LV women.