89% Of Men Go Slow Or Act Passive For THIS Reason

89% Of Men Go Slow Or Act Passive For THIS Reason

You've been told men are hunters and they love the chase, then why is it some men act interesting and yet go slow or almost seem passive in their approach.

Here's the problem with linear advice, you can't apply the drive for sex (biology) to relationships. 

What I meant to say, the advice you've been told about men going after what they want doesn't always hold up when we're talking about the dating process.

So, when a man goes slow or seems passive, there's a legit reason for this which has nothing to do with biology and everything to do with conditioning.

In today's video, we are going to explore the DEEPER reasons men act the way they do to help you better understand the human condition called dating, mating & relating.

Let's talk about... 89% Of Men Go Slow Or Act Passive For THIS Reason

[kresivarivkah]

I'm married. My husband and I moved slow in the beginning. It takes time to build a friendship/ relationship. All those that came on to me strong are now behind me. My parents explained to me that real love takes time. I'm married. Love bombing is a sign of immaturity. Women, take your time. A man that takes his time with you is generally a good man.

[SunShyne-ofxj]

Guys who move too slow aren't sure about how you fit in their space; your job is to not take yourself off the market for a guy who's still shopping. You mirror him or move on.

[cristinalacoste]

Slow means that he's actually willing to get to know me. And that means that he's probably looking for a relationship. The guys that want to speed through the getting to know you phase are just passing through.

[kes]

I've had the "let's take it slow and see where it goes" men and at 55, I don't have the time to waste. I realised I'm too awesome for that. Men know in about a month of dating, if it's going to work for them or not.

[luxurytexashomes]

Online dating has ruined any kind of normal dating possibilities unfortunately...

[AliciasHealingChannel]

Dudes back off when they know they don’t offer enough, period. Say thank you and move on.

[southernbelle]

Some guys are still extremely hung up on their ex. If they start out fast and then go hot and cold, are inconsistent, words don’t match actions. Cut and run.
When some men come on too strong and want to move too fast, it does scare me. If you don’t know me, please get to know me and prove yourself in actions and words. Going slow and steady with consistency are so important.

[HighFrequencyLiving]

If men are passive it’s almost impossible to build trust through experiences like you say unless women chase and initiate dates, etc.... And most of us who have been dating a while know via experience that women chasing doesn’t usually end well.

[deidre]

I’ll admit I questioned my man’s pace at first. We’re millennials - met on a dating app, but I’ve been used to faster paces. We’ve checked in with each other on pacing actually & felt comfortable in doing so because we really ended up developing a friendship first. We talk on the phone every night, but also enjoy experiences/dates together. It feels really healthy!

[parfecto]

They say women are difficult, but men
... Oh God! They are double difficult. If he is unsure he should at least say so and not just disappear without reason :(

[lisadavies]

Why don’t men get passive and slow with sex if they know they have doubts about relationship? It’s very confusing that their maturity in one area is to be accepted and their lack maturity in another area is to be accepted cause their men.

[marilynlynch]

This was very helpful, the man that I'm dating is moving at turtle speed. Which is something that I'm not used to. But I have to be honest, it has been kinda nice to move slower, I think that we have been building our relationship in many different ways then most people. It has taught me to have patience.

[svasianfilipiname]

Doubt?! He DOUBTS my awesomeness?!... Nuh ugh! I DON'T THINK SO! NEXT!

[LisaGemini]

I completely agree. This crap about the chase or "make a man love you" is ridiculous! Labels suck. We make assumptions about people that can be WAY WRONG. Too bad we're stuck in this virus hell right now...can't do anything together! It's so frustrating.

[LadyIrrigator]

It's been months. Met family, kids, coworkers. He opens doors, little gifts, texts, calls almost daily, we hang out often sometimes several times a week. Not many "dates". He's always helpful. He has told me if I need help with anything to just ask and got upset when I didn't. Protective. Crossing streets he's always on the incoming traffic side. If he's driving and turns the corner he always outs his arm across me. Little things like that. He notices when Im stressed and wants to takk about it. The man barely touches me. We've kissed twice. Months! ???

[Diabeteslovewithdee]

Jonathon, please ignore those negative comments. They are just jealous of you! Your teaching is awesome and very deeply profound. Thank You for sharing your insights and gifts.

[lauren]

A "passive" man touches upon a woman's darkest We women have to take 100% responsibility for ourselves,
deal with our own shadows within ourselves, and not reflect our "inner child needs" outwardly onto a man. Same with ta man and his shadows. Only then are we ready to come together with wholeness and maturity. A deep connection to one's spirit / God is also key.

[briana]

Honestly, feeling like he is moving too fast is scary. If he truly wants a future with me, what's the rush?(And by rushing I mean elaborate gifts, dates and trips/love bombing straight away before my trust is earned.)

Thanks Jonathon!

[lisag]

Makes sense! People will also come up with their own personal interpretation of why the person they're dating does what they're doing and unfortunately it's usually wrong

[iqrasuleiman]

I love how you’re always happy when making your videos😊. Lightens up the mood. Brilliant video Jonathon. ♥️