Limerence and BPD Limerence: 'Why Can't I Let Them Go?'

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[lanaivanovic]

Thank you, it's a very insightful and helpful essay! 🙏

[creativeperspectives]

Luckily I have been able to experience the intensity of love and romance by watching dramas instead of real life which can drive people away. The love feelings are so intense and all consuming that the other person is just scared and mistake it for obssessive attachment. It all exists in our mind and we breathe life into others which is actually not there in them.

[Earl_E_Burd]

Wow, did I just get educated!! I admire your writing, Imi Lo, it is excellent. Exceptional. This gave me a clear understanding and fit well with my existing psych perceptions. Thank you for bundling in so much detail and weaving the overlapping mechanisms together like cheese cloth, I could see right through it and save it for later if I get nuts. Cheesy, I know [ba dum].

I don't have direct experience with BPD and limerence, just a lifetime of somewhere on the cluster B spectrum. A lot of similar pitches but at different volumes. I do see posts online about bpd, the Favorite Person (limerent object), etc. but those corners are not where I linger like The Cranberries. Except sometimes to read episodic parents text messages, which I now have a better foundation in which to make sense of.

I felt like this paragraph was a particularly great crescendo of describing the peak anxiety: "When interpersonal sensitivity and the negative bias in BPD are combined with limerence, [...]"

Thank you for explaining this all in a compassionate way. It helped put me in check, having been on the receiving end of idealization and devaluation (not that I'm one to cast stones). I like how you point out that it is a manifestation of intense passion for life. I am grateful that you share your gift with us, the world. Pretty extraordinary that I get to experience your gift and type a response from across the globe. Easy thing to take for granted. 🙏