Limerence: When Did The GLIMMER Happen For You? #shorts

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"Glimmer" is a term in literature about limerence (obsessive love for someone you can't have). It refers to the very first magical feeling you experience that triggers the lime rent "brain hijack" that is very much an addiction (and it's common for people with CPTSD).
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[ladybolski]

Umm where was this woman when I was 19? Would have saved me so much heartbreak.

[tammyh]

Limerance is the closest thing to drug addiction I've ever experienced. It's powerful and terrible...Took me five years to shake free, and now I wonder what in the world I was thinking...but I was so sad and desperate that the fantasy was better than reality.

[therapistinthewoods]

"an opiate made of unrequited love."

[cookie_dough_hangover]

After almost 18 months, I finally got over it. Now my life feels sad and boring, but I prefer it this way. I don't want to feel limerence anymore.

[janeking]

Unquieted love is sold as romatic and tragically virtuous.

[thescapegoatclub]

Limerance sounds exhausting and all consuming. Sending support for those dealing with this. Especially those of us who have toxic parents. We just weren’t taught what healthy love looks like.

[Donjuliooropeza]

My ex wife (as of 2 weeks ago) has been in limerance with another man (he's single) for the last 4 months. Easily and by far the worst pain I have ever been through. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. She hastily wanted a divorce and even tho I didn't want to and she knew that, there is nothing I can do in my state to prevent it, she was quite happy about the divorce. I'm going through grief, She is not and wonders why I'm depressed. My kids are what keep me going now. I know she has intense feelings for this man but from what I know he doesn't have the same feelings for her. This video perfectly discusses what she is feeling. And I know there is absolutely nothing I can do but let this run its course but it could take years. To all the people out there whose spouse is going through limerence, no matter how painful you have to let it go. There is no reasoning or logic to use. They will feel ZERO pity for you, there is an urgency to be with the other person. Get a therapist, better yourself and focus on your children (if you have any) but save yourself the pain and start to move on. Maybe they will be with you one day but not today or for a long time. This is something they will have to figure out on their own. Good luck.

[dorseyromano]

I've never even heard of this "limerence" but apparently, I've been the Poster Child for it my entire life!!🥺😭

[talita]

I need to pay lots of attention to this “glimmer” moment, in order not to go down the slippery slope of limerece again.

[casperinsight]

Limerence is a good term to describe being love bombed by a narcissist and wearing rose colored glasses looking for the person they duped you into thinking exists when they were playing make believe with you.

[chesterfieldsl]

Met today a man similar in stature to him, I almost felt attracted but soon saw all the things he didn't have as the actual one. Cried my soul out

[victoriawheeler]

Wow there's an actual phycological term for how I'm drawn to men based on my childhood neglect😅

[AzucarMala]

Happened to me seven years ago with a man who I would end up on the train with on my commute home from work. Didn't help that he lived in the same neighborhood as me. Nothing ever happened. He no longer lives in my area which I've been having a hard time processing. In the end it was probably best he left, otherwise I would've still been hanging on. I lost seven years of my life I'll never get back. Don't need to lose more!

[adamdarby]

42 and just now finding out I have all the symptoms of CPTSD.

[indian.patterns]

I like it how you understand this neurological injury so well.

[amandaforrester]

How do you fall in healthy love if you have a tendency towards limerance? Is it possible? Are we going to settle and just be unhappy with someone we don't love? HOW DOES THIS WORK?

[tamiz]

I have someone in my life who I am stepping back from, I have known her since I was a teenager, but she has morphed into this backstabbing gossipy mean person who I can’t trust to keep a secret anymore…I had what I’d call a limerence for her, like I put way, way too much importance on what she thought. I’d jump when she messaged me, she ghosted me at a restaurant, it’s absolutely disgusting how much status I’ve given her. I don’t think that is healthy and I don’t want or need it anymore. She won’t allow me to meet her husband and has walls up, I don’t need that bs. There are too many good people that I honestly can’t wait to meet in life!

[lughlamhfada]

In the past I've found myself experiencing another form of limerance. I'd observe myself fantasizing about being with family members, such as my mother or uncle, and we'd be having a good time and they would think well of me. These people and these experiences are completely unattainable as well.

[kikitauer]

This is gold! I can attest. If you'd able to pull yourself quick enough, you'd save yourself 😌

[jessicasomeone]

For me this was normal when dating. So glad I have a partner who is safe and doesn’t spin me into this mode, never again!