Is it BPD, DPD or Limerence? 4 major differences.

In this video we're going to dive into 3 common mental health topics that we've covered on this channel and those are DPD or dependent personality disorder, BPD or borderline personality disorder and Limerence. These 3 have many similarities as to how they show up and their symptoms but also many differences in their signs and causes. So when trying to determine whether you have DPD or BPD or just Limerence, we have to first understand the difference between DPD, BPD and Limerence. In this video we're going to talk through the 4 ways borderline personality disorder, dependent personality disorder and limerence are different, and figure out how to work through each of these. If you find this video helpful, I also have individual videos on each of these subjects. I've linked them below.

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[krissiliskie]

As someone with quiet BPD, there are a lot of DPD reactions/behaviors I relate to a lot... and I feel like I have to fight with limerance sometimes.

[uxwmjob]

I believe PTSD is at the core of all of these. Trauma happening during the formative years and we learned some way of coping with it which then gets labeled as adults

[Livfree]

I feel like you kind of glossed over how bad limerence can be. lol. You made it sound like just a mega crush when Limerence almost ruined my whole life. I went through years of obsession & anxiousness over what was essentially an imagined person, rejection, cognitive dissonance (once I realized his true character), plus the struggle to trust myself again after falling for a delusion. Limerence probably happens a lot to DPD and BPD individuals and you didn’t mention that

[ocdandanxiety]

Great to see the differences between these! 💜

[Phoenix]

Thx for the re-upload! Great stuff as always! 👍🏽

[HannehYA]

I wish you also had included AVPD in this one 🙏I'm diagnosed with BPD and AVPD (with traits of DPD) and I also have ADHD. I can relate to it all. Having one of these diagnoses doesn't exclude also struggling with limerence, also it's definitely a way for me to cope with loneliness, fear of intimacy and fear of rejection/abandonment. It's also stimulating, and I have felt stuck in it for long periods of my life due to this.

[pamelagiven]

I had depression from age 12, i never knew what BPD was until nw I got told by the health team that what I have I still don't understand it, I'm keeping it away from family friends, thanks very much ❤

[stoffls]

I know Limerence way too well, this led to a lot of maladaptive daydreaming (and sometime still does). Else I would say I have a tendency towards DPD, though I value my independence.

[Dreamgymnast]

Was initially diagnosed BPD, but later on doctors same doctors diagnosed me with Bipolar, which fit way better

Honestly I was happy when they changed the diganosis. When I had BPD on my chart ER and other general health care staff treated me completely different and thought I was an attention seeker because the BPD was on my chart

So glad that is no longuer on my chart

[heyarchie]

Limerence is something I am constantly struggling with. The more unattainable, complicated and "mysterious" someone is, the stronger my desire is to be with this person. I am rarely interested in someone who already likes me since I like the "chase". Is there anything I can do against that? Being solely attracted to emotionally unavailable people makes my life really messy.
P.S. I have CPTSD. so I mostly avoid any intimacy due to feeling of danger \ fear that the relationship will consume me.

[leeannschaffer]

Thank you for the perfect clarity on this!!🎉❤

[fifteenbyfive]

I still insist that a Borderline should get together with Schizoid and Limerence is just another word for love. It's just love that's expressed in an unhealthy way, particularly when it's put up against societal norms. Fantasy can be more powerful than reality. I'll give one example you can't argue with: A dream can be far more intense than memory. Fantasy isn't inherently a "bad" thing. In fact it can be awesome.

[sambojo]

Oh. Wow some days I learn so much. I'm sure I have both and ave experienced Limerance aswell.. I had childhood trauma
And pushed people away except for the one causing it to go on, dependant on the acceptance of being loved but never really got it, my first relationships, I lied said I was pregnant to see if they'd hang around, I told them certain girl's were better for them, hoping they would say they would be there or loved me more, the rejection in life is crazy, the text, phone calls, triangulation with sisters after a narcissistic father as both are like him I think anyway, unpacking after 50 is hard, never sort help and I don't think it would help, the anxiety ocd kills me, ever since a little 5 year old but I thought it was normal to panick walking across the oval after school hoping mum would be there, not to sleep to be so afraid of the dark and dying that I'd physically be sick at the sight of black and could never wear it, crazy but as a kid you don't know. After a breakdown I haven't worked for 3 years, I need to get out and be independent but instead I do everything for my husband and grown children, I need a cash injection for independence 😂 funny not funny. Learning to live with the past is hard, like an animal is hard to change

[AamitMorthos]

Maybe it's because I have avpd and dpd but seeing this video just now made me wish there were more licensed professionals on here talking about avpd and dpd (or how it can present itself from someone with both). Most of the resources and videos I find are some years old and there aren't a lot of individuals talking about their experience with either of these two PDs as much currently. They're definitely are people talking and providing those resources, I guess it's not as much as someone who needs these resources hoped.

[codyosborne]

I (M 30 BPD) was in the most stable relationship of my life. She was emotionally blunted witch really flattened out the rollercoaster for me. Four years in (my longest relationship yet) I was dead set on marrying her for at least a month (with the odd split here and there). Then one day she yelled at me for something, and I broke up with her on the spot. I went from being crazy about her and preparing to propose to not caring about her at all. Looking back, i think i loved the stability she brought to my life more than her. And she really didn't know me at all. In fact we spent very little time interacting with eachother. In the end, i think the relationship was beneficial for both of us, and the breakup was for the best.

[heatherwhite]

Gosh thanks so much for this video! Needed to study on this for a client and I need to look at BPD instead of OCD.

[halfblood]

Thank you for the sound it grounded me immediately thank you...

[bryanmccaffrey]

Or PTSD and CPTSD. I see the overlay there.

[davey]

I feel like I have both BPD and DPD. I feel more afraid of abandonment and abandonment has played key roles in my life than I feel the need to be reassured or attached to someone. However, they still feel tied together in some respect.

[charthers]

Definitely DPD thank you for explaining