Women with low self confidence

Why do women have low self-esteem even of they are beautiful?

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[samarah.]

While I'm not a fan of all of your videos, there are a few like these which I can empathise with. May Allah guide us to righteousness, Ameen.

[seekfactsnotfiction]

If only the Muslim Ummah knew how valuable your videos are to the awareness of this lost generation!
ولكن لا حياة لمن تنادى

[Noor-tvvk]

Low self confidence or self esteem is not only about the superficial stuff, its mostly deeply rooted in individual's mind and life.

[ummbilaal]

When you love someone.... they look beautiful no matter what. And when you hate them, their face looks like poison no matter what.

[eetdtlc]

Brother, it's easier said than done. I hope sisters find their worth, value and honour from within themselves. And I hope brothers find the apple of their eyes in their families. Thank you.

[shembeliever]

Brother, women's low self esteem stem mostly from childhood psychology and parental lack of attachment and love for their growing daughters coupled with extreme parental expectations, I.e never good enough for their mothers and especially fathers. Thus they grow up feeling inferior, lacking confidence and often depressed even if they achieved high status education and career wise. Eventually she can snap out of this cycle. Female beauty race is something else and natural, and most nonconfident and reserved women I've known don't suffer from the latter, instead they suffer from 1st.

[hadiaafzal]

Assalaamu alaikum warahmatullaahi wabarakaatuhu.
I hope you read this comment. You are right. Another thing I would add is that this kind of low esteem is deeply rooted in how women are brought up. Our mothers - someone who has the ability to affect our mindset- tell us outright that you are too dark, too ugly, that your nose is too crooked, your face has too much hype pigmentation. I was told as a child how my lips had a weird shape. Someone, somewhere is constantly critisizing us. Everyone has to tell you some flaw of yours. A girl with a narurally tan complexion was asked -very condescendingly- by a potential suitor's mom if she was sick. It's hard to remain confident sometimes amidst all of this. Mothers constantly critique and point out flaws of their own daughters and the father doesn't even bat an eyelash. I've seen it happening in my home and a lot of different places. Men do have a role to play in all this. Especially mothers. Mothers dump all their bottled passive aggressiveness and insecurities on their daughters. Girls are told how they wont be able to get married for their character. Girls who want to wear Niqab are even told that they will have difficulty in seeking a spouse. Amidst all this, a woman becomes extremely torn and confused. I really, really hope you read this.

[muhammadarfansafdarbaig]

This man talks very rationaly and logically.

[proudmuslim]

There are so many good points made in this video. One thing I would mention though is Insha’Allah us muslim women can easily overcome this problem just by understanding looks are a part of Rizq. Some people will be more beautiful and that is okay. A practical tip is if you see a beautiful woman say Masha’Allah and ask Allah SWT to increase them in beauty. This will Insha’Allah mean one you are not putting nazr on another muslim woman or any woman and secondly you are actively working against the whispers of Shaytan. If you pray for good for others good will always come your way.

[sofiaiqbal]

Confidence starts from home. Your up bringing. My dad told me as a 12 year old child I was so ugly no 1 will marry me.

[priusa]

Untreated childhood trauma…. Most issues go back to this no matter what…:(

[Connectingthedots.]

First time finding your channel. I really enjoyed the content. Thank you for creating & sharing this.

[StarsabovetheEmeraldForest]

Asalamu alaikum, I agree. What is more interesting is that when women put on makeup, most are faced with the reminder every night when they remove the makeup that they don’t look anything like the made up face, what an awful way to treat yourself, or empower yourself. Also what good is it to make a potential husband believe that you look like the makeup face, then once married, he is faced with the reality that you look completely different and not in a good way.

[Cocobear]

“They dont understand each other” lol but true. Great video. You are absolutely right its hard these days to be confident with what Allah gave you.

[Thebestoneever_]

Also brother, some people who go from not loving themselves then to loving themselves become arrogant. Like a husband/wife who has low self esteem because of weight or whatever reasons, then starts to “love themselves” and forget about their spouse or other people and act like they are better than everyone. Kinda like becoming selfish.

[khusbukhatun]

Beautifully said brother. Jazaki Allah Khairan.

[hbk]

You tell us at the end to care for natural beauty more, but men are so over exposed to the fakeness and social media ideals, they expect more! It's so sad! I want to cry now.

[slike]

Wonderful video!

We Muslim Women, in Islam, don't need the majority of the society, meaning: trends, status, and so on. We don't need to follow anyone, except Mohammed p.b.u.h as our role model.
They talk about feminism, Allah told in the Quran about the rights of women (and men) that they need and want.
There's no need for all of this chaos and so on and so forth...
And by the way, if you truly want to love yourself, then love Allah first (by his names ) You will come to an understanding, of how his love will flourish upon yourself.

[bakmararchitects]

Ladies don't fake yourself because if you do you are more likely not going to attract real men. Fake for fake, Real for real. By the way Jazzakumullahu Khoiron Bro Al Romani, I love you for the sake of Allah.

[hbk]

I agree with alot of the comments below, talking about within the family and the impact of mothers and fathers on their daughter's self esteem. Think about the women who have grown up away from the influences of the west. And then in a family where extended family influence is strong, then all the family members are responsible. In my own childhood, I was always compared to my lighter skinned cousins, and made to feel inferior. It has influenced me so much that my own preferences even towrad the opposite sex was influenced by that perception of light skin being more beautiful. It's so messed up, I have to keep reminding myself that Allah cares only about the inside not the outside, that we were all made so beautiful, but my mind has been conditioned to always compare my colour to other lighter skinned girls :(