Dealing with Disrespect & Defiance

A discussion about disrespect and defiance. Respecting ourselves raises the odds that kids will treat us with respect.

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[sheriadams]

I love this video content! I am a grandma and x teacher that found Love and Logic in 1990's with Jim Faye was presenting ❤. The best program ever.

[lesliehilesgardener]

Everyday I have to deal with 34 yrs....whoa waiting is the Hardest part but endurance is being produced making my future Better for Another who DESERVES my Life ❤️

[earthmama]

One problem I had is the school really didn't discipline when my daughter always arriving after the bell, not turning homework in, The teachers would wait until it's almost too late to tell the parents anything.. When I was in school and you were late X about of times you had to stay after for a 2-3 hours. You sat and did nothing if you didn't want to do your homework. We didn't have phones to goof around on....

It's just really frustrating as a parent when you do try teaching your child consequences but it's like school, grandparents, friends, etc.... no longer uphold rules and boundaries. We need society to help teach our children that there are behaviors that are acceptable and unacceptable.

[LillyandMax]

I have a nine year old and I have a very strong willed nine year old boy. I think to note it is very important how the father speaks to his wife. I stopped allowing my husband to speak to me unkindly and if he needs to talk to me we must not do this in front of our son. I've noticed that I also work with my son watching videos on you tube on kids talking what respect actually means. So he is clear about how he is expected to treat me other and things. When he is disrespectful by being unkind ect I am first loving calm in my tone and I say you are not being disrespectful. You lose a privilege. My relationship with my son is so much better he's so much happier. It's TRUE it started with me and not allowing my husband and son to be unkind period.

[hybridmastiff]

This was very helpful to me because I'm dealing with teenage step children who always say they don't have to listen to me because I'm not their dad thank you so much!

[mamamil]

Omg hit the nail on the head about social media

[Jamman]

Great video, it is good to hear how self respect is also so important.

[staciewebb]

What I always taught my boys was I can't make you respect me i e have the warm fuzzies when you think about me or have admiration towards me but I will demand that you show me respect in other words I couldn't change their feeling about me but I did demand that that they respected my authority and showed me respect even if deep in their heart didn't actually truly respect me but I believe the respect issue comes in where we say we teach others to how t to treat us and by showing ourselves respect and respect our own boundaries and not being willing to compromise on our values and one of those values is that everyone in the family gets considered not just you my number one rule used to always be if we're not all having fun we're not having fun at all therefore if you're throwing a temper tantrum making it uncomfortable for the other people in the house then you're going to have to do more consequences for disrupting the Peace of our home

[quentinbell]

"A part of respect is basing my worth, not on how my kids make me feel." 14:20

[vfxeriksen]

"Basing our self worth on the weather." That's huge. Could that in fact be something contributing to the general anxiety plaguing our nation? I think we worry too much about things we can't control.

[playgrounddolls]

You have to respect Yourself first. There is no other way.

[quentinbell]

"The love and logic parent, they are allowing the kid to go off and make some mistakes". 10:50

[chrisgarty]

The conversation/discussion format is fantastic! These are a gold mine of advice for us ever-struggling parents 😏

[quentinbell]

"Put our focus mostly on the process rather than the product." 3:30

[BraddahBruce]

Another informative casting of pods aka podcast.

[mylittlecoloradocottage]

It is hard not to compare ourselfs to others. To make sure we are living in balance with other parents.

[joannabrown]

This is so hard for me to get my son to listen without him me everyone losing control. He’s almost 12 and diagnosed ODD ADHD Mood disorder and more. He’s so bright and intelligent but doesn’t see his worth and how much he can contribute if he takes a few minutes.

It’s hard to constantly hear I’m not the boss or he doesn’t have to listen. He seems so entitled. It’s very frustrating raising him on a daily basis

[alexandrialegare]

I really needed to hear this today, thank you! So eye opening!

[LisaFreeman-pvih]

Now there are schools that literally have school policies that DO NOT allow kids to wear shorts between Nov 1 and until the Monday after Spring Break. For real. It's hard.

[kaytilochrie]

What about children with ODD or ADHD with outbursts they can’t control?