How to Respond When A Student Disrespects You

It's never easy to be and feel disrespected by a student. But the way you respond can make all the difference in reducing the behavior, as well as increasing your self-confidence, sense of self-worth, and dignity in the face of student disrespect. In today's video, I am sharing ways you can respond when a student disrespects you.

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👋Hi! I'm Michele and I provide practical strategies and implementation know-how for teachers and school staff who want to THRIVE not just survive in the area of behavior and classroom management.

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[SpicyExpressions]

Ooooeee they be so disrespectful not just to teachers but to each other it's sad to see. Thank you for creating a video like this

[TheKnallkorper]

I’m a kindergarten teacher and I’ve tried EVERYTHING. Call backs don’t work, asking for a level 0 doesn’t work. Taking a preferred activity away doesn’t work, calling parents comes back and bites me in the butt. I’m screaming into my pillow trying to teach a lesson for the 3 kids who care enough to learn how to build words

[necek]

Thank you for sharing educator in training ❤ I’m trying to do better as well bc I can come off strong with delivery and tone and with an attitude bc of the disrespect the student gives. I wanted to find another approach, so thank you. I think a meeting should be had between me and the student. Even though I was minding my own business when all of a sudden that student said what are you doing to me bc I was sitting down thinking about what to do next and that student kept a grudge ever since, and tells my what she is not going to do.

[KMAJewelry]

Thank you for sharing this advice. I subbed for the first time in middle school and I was in complete shock. I’ll try this next time and I already know what consequences I need to set in place if they don’t stop🙃

[myoung]

The problem is, I've watched a gazillion youtube videos on classroom management and they all say "use your consequences" but that's the part I have trouble with. What should the consequences be? Nobody gives suggestions on consequences and as a new teacher, I don't know what to do. If there's no consequence, there's no classroom management.

Edit: I'm coming back because I feel like my comment came across rude. I love your videos! I'm just frustrated, have a very difficult class and had a horrible day. I'm going to watch some of your other videos for ideas.

[darlenewright]

Thank you so much for this information! I will be utilizing this site!!!

[thebehaviouristguy]

This is great information. Thanks for sharing it with the community. Keep up the good work Michele.

[equalspi]

But they talk over you and don’t even listen

[conradreyes]

Thank you for sharing this video, you gave me ways on how to manage a student.

[LaceyWires]

Question: I’m an art teacher, in a school that has not had an art teacher in two years. I don’t work for the school I work for a nonprofit whenever I showed up for my first day admin just put me in a room 20 minutes before my first class, and gave me a schedule of classes. I have K4 through eighth grade., because I don’t work for the school teachers are supposed to sit in during the period, and a lot of my teachers are frustrated because specials are usually a planning time for them, so sometimes they just dump them. On top of that this is a school that is entirely behavior problems. There are some classes that I still have not been able to get through expectations and I’ve been seeing them for three weeks now. I should also mention that I have a couple of education credits, but I am not an accredited teacher. I’m working really hard to come up with fun lessons to fill our 40 minutes with, but sometimes teachers won’t even bring their class by the time that I do get them we only have 20 minutes left, or there are a few students who still are testing me and are being majorly disruptive. So my question is how do I navigate all the negativity towards my art program and also establish rules and boundaries in the little time that I do see the students?

[juliuswilliams]

When something is not ok and won’t be tolerated, what does that mean. It seems there aren’t consequences that they even care about.

[Shinebright-bydh]

The problem in many districts if not all, students is never to be blame and teachers cant give consequences, it is only on paper but not in real practice. I have been written up for making a student after numerous warning to behave and i made him standing facing the wall for 8 mins. written up for this is a serious matter because teacher are not allowed to give consequences, this will take away teachers authority to disicpline thus could result a teacher who is going to care less because of not want to deal with the principal.

[zaebos]

You're amazing, your videos are extremely helpful! Greetings from Vienna

[GodWokeMeUp]

It's not just teachers.... We got them in my neighborhood. I had to go outside (because I heard a child cursing like a sailor) and told this 11 year old to stop cussing around the other children (my son is 7 and was out there). He was so horrible and rude. He's like, "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my mom and I can do whatever the hell I want!" Oh my gosh I couldn't believe it... I tried reasoning with him and explaining why he shouldn't curse. He absolutely didn't care. He just kept on and then I said, "I've never seen you in this neighborhood before, where's your mother?" He refused to tell me and just kept talking back. He was just awful... I literally ended up saying, "You're so rude and disrespectful! What kind of people are raising you!? You should just go back home because other parents don't want that behavior rubbing off on their children." 😅 My neighbor ended up coming out and saying he should stop with the foul language too...but he just spoke back to him too. I just can't believe it. Absolutely horrible kids and no respect for anyone. I just don't know what we're supposed to do outside of the classroom and home when we see them out running the streets and being so awful. Realistically there's no repercussions for them at all. I hate to say this.... But parents are failing these kids. That little boy had a brand new bike, a mohawk helmet... And so I know he's not going without. However his parents probably spoil him and ignore him which is why he's so awful.

[jbjamie]

This is why they say teaching is a calling not everyone can be a teacher if you don't treat your kids like equal humans too that have different backgrounds and level of emotion.... If you can't handle it don't be a teacher this is not just a Job! I'm talking to some here that moans and complains sweeping generalization that all kids now are like that, You are the teacher teach what Respect looks like in a classroom setting not embarrass but correct them in a respectable way too.

[sheseesfortress]

Thank you for the wise tips, and it was short and to the point as well. I'm a contract private music teacher, and I have experienced a bit of disrespect from a student, who is not being as co-operative as I would like, he is smart, but I think he does'nt understand the meaning of practicing with good habits, I'm going to try to comunicate that, but he has this level of disrespect, that I'm trying to understand why is he being that way, I feel like he has a know it all type of vibe. Or who cares about this lesson it won't affect my grades. (I teach private lesson at a private school) so anyways, I will have to learn to work on my communication skills, and hopefully see a improvement.

[jmdsogz]

I found this video extremely helpful! Thank you!

[morestuff]

I’m here because I’ve been insulted by people that are younger than I am and I always wanted to know how to handle it also to put the exact words in a searchable context.

[patricemcjett]

Thank you for your professional advice. I thought everything that you said was appropriate and wise. However, I would Really like to see your suggestions depicted with Real dialog that I can utilize. Please and thank you!

[MrPk]

I really needed this message, thank you. I'm taking notes.