Parenting Teens Toward Adulthood (Part 1) - Dr. Ken Wilgus

Dr. Ken Wilgus encourages parents to deliberately work their way out of the parenting role by the time their child is 18, and instructs them to see their teenagers as young adults, not large children. He offers tips on how to progressively give your teen more responsibility, along with examples of how to have difficult conversations on a range of topics, from music choices to dating.

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[mcawesomest]

Parenting a teen and young adult these days is unbelievably difficult, exhausting and soul breaking

[Handlehandlehandle]

I was raised by very strict parents and I’m so grateful for them, my husband on the other hand was raised in the manor you see here in the video and he has become strict himself.

He loves his parents, but hated that they didn’t protect him from mistakes he can never undo, allowing him to have full control when he wasn’t ready means there’s things he can’t take back. He wished they were more strict and controlling. And I know many men who feel the same.

[wb]

This is SO AFFIRMING! Our oldest son just graduated and he has been pushing to get out since he was 13! I have thought so many times that we would have had WAY fewer issues if he could have graduated when he was 14. He would have been okay. Instead, we went through a whole lot of issues, and have been on a nauseating roller coaster ride, but we are PRAYING that we are coming out on the other side and that he is getting back on track to adulthood.

[kellysoon]

The Lord Jesus perfect timing in hearing this message as I’m struggling with parenting my 2 teens. So many wow moments that the Lord opened up my mind to understand my teens behavior. Love the analogy of parents occupying our teens “state/country”and they want us out. Thank you for the practical tips. Can’t wait to hear part 2 and read the book.

[cecilletambong]

It's not easy to handle teenage daughters now a days.

[darlenerodgers]

What happens when they are making choices that are dangerous for them? I believe there are times when you need to protect them from themselves! We have wisdom that they do not and there are times where they need protecting.

[Angebaby]

This was difficult to hear. But I understand why I found it. I was driving and let YouTube direct what played next. Perfect timing. I have a 13 & 14 year old and so thankful they do their own laundry! My daughter and I struggle over the music she listens to. I am having a hard time getting her to see how our ear and eye gate effects our life, and bring us closer to Christ or further away. I’m planning the conversation in my head to give up that control. I believe this will change her perspective! 🙏🏻

[Evixitygt]

I used this approach with my oldest, did not go well. I will control, as much as needed. I will not allow mine to hang with the wrong crowd, make big important decisions with their immature brains. Sorry, this can be bad advise. If it worked for you, great, but it will not work for all.

[jessicaduran]

I’m so glad I found this my baby boy (12 years old ) is struggling so bad mentally & I know it has to do with how I have parented him looking toward to trying these new strategies ❤

[dailylifeexperiences]

When I first began listening it caused an eyebrow raise however by the end I was in full agreement. Great presentation!

[DaddysGrl]

Life is more expensive now, and I refuse to allow my children to struggle. I will help them for a while longer.

[jennywarman]

Wish I had heard this BEFORE my kids became teens! A brilliant plan!

[soqilcj]

This is exactly what Islam teaches about teenagers being young adults rather older kids.. amazing to hear from this specialist 🎉bravo

[kathryncarty]

I needed this! I have a 15 year old boy and now I better understand why the strife has been there. Thank you for sharing this. My heart is healing with hearing this. 💓

[mabellazaro]

Praying for our son. Our heart is aching for him...he seemed to know everything he is doing is right and reasonable...he is a SH graduating student. We are trying to reach out to him to help and to guide, but he already kept a distance from us🥺 but still we're doing all we can to ahow him our love. His dad and I are both pastoring a church but he started to stay away from the people in the church, too.😢😢

[PRESCRIPTIVELIVINGDIAGNOSEPRES]

This is 1 of the best messages I've heard. It is true that Christianity is a joke to the people we are called to be light and salt too. Only when the church is disciplined in love do they become effective disciples.

I see this 9 out of 10 times on respectable display by people who aren't Christians. It's mind blowing and it's not okay.

[EveSalkey]

This has been the BEST information I have seen on working with my children/Teens. Thank you.

[Ungloo]

LOVE THIS! I needed this so badly. Thank you so much.

[jd-umjw]

This definitely depends on the kids maturity level. They are not all emotionally equipped by a certain age, to take on all choices. Their choices and actions, have guided me on what more I can hand over to them. Little at a time, as they show more and more maturity. I have had both. One, where they were given and could handle much responsibility and important life changing choices and another one, who is waay younger than their age. Emotionally and mentally, they are still a small child. Have had to take more baby steps.

[ameliaclayshulte]

As an atheist, I came in skeptical, but no this guy is legit. Great advice for any parent regardless of faith or lack there of.