How to Handle a Defiant Child - Stop Back Talk

Dr. Michele Borba, EdD talks about how to keep your kids from talking back and ending sass mouth.

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[AlwaysOnPint]

We don't negotiate with terrorists.

[ave]

She said “use the breaks they’re wonderful “ and all I can picture is my mother break checking me and throwing me up the dash
Which in fact was effective

[SS-rlbg]

This advice is PERFECT for ages 0-2. Otherwise, it is very impractical

[PantherOfTheWest]

don't listen to this woman
just stop being soft to your kids

[elizabethdavis]

Glue on shoes . . . Umm . . . He would just say no.

[jomaridiaz]

As a mom of a 10 years old I can say that back talk does exist. I see a lot of comments talking about parent trying to shut their kids opinion. In my case, for example, my son talk and argue back with his dad and I all the time, even when he is send to go and take a shower after coming from outside all sweaty, when dinner is not done yet he argue, when it’s time to do homework he argues, for any little thing is a talk back, we try to explain things so maybe he will stop but at the end, his point of view doesn’t change so the argue star 5 minutes later. Lately, it’s from the morning until bed time. I think this video is most for kids who talk back for any little thing, even for the things he or she is supposed to do no matter what.

[graceobryant]

I can see where some things will work and some things won’t. Depending on the child. Letting a child express themselves and if they are angry to talk to them is one thing but being disrespectful, rude, mean etc. is not acceptable. Take what she says and make it your own. It’s not a word for word manual.

[annahugman]

So you spend all day not talking to your child? Makes perfect sense

[jazz]

I agree with not engaging in a conversation with a child the back talks. That's not an option! Stop it before it's too late
Glue on the shoe not so much.

[forgivenmuch]

Back talk and defiance are not the same thing. I just want my kid to put her pants on

[Epochs]

How about let them know who's roof they're under & who pays the bills to keep it running . I've never been in a foster home but I'm sure a foster home isn't a picnic . Humans across the board are simply ungrateful & have been given the slack we give the homeless. Big reason those people become homeless ; no structure, always expecting what they want like its a download, no discipline or will to be self sufficient & expect chance after chance . Get your act together because it begins by enabling . Being soft parents to the point your kid(s) talk to you like their friends is the so called adults fault . The world is weakening by
this beat around the bush behavior.

[pmedia_pm]

I wish you good luck if you apply this advice. Ignore a child who doesn't talk to you correctly? If they don't want to talk to you, they will disrespect you, knowing they do not have to interact afterward. Quality conditioning, for sure, and excellent advice. What about disciplining children at a young age so they respect authority? We are parents, not their friends. Authority must be respected whether you agree with it or not. When it isn't, there are laws/rules with consequences in the real world. I continually teach my children this since they were in diapers. Disrespect in this day and age could lead to death in our emotionally unstable world. God willing, I will continue to teach respect and authority. In a world where there is no God, you don't have to be accountable. Conveniently, no accountability and no consequences make for the world we live in now. You get what you ask for, and now people don't like it. Stand for nothing, and you will fall for anything.

There is NO regard for life or authority today. Once respect is lost, some feel they must take things into their own hands. People have stooped to all-time lows because of BAD PARENTS, the lack of fathers, and/or REAL MEN/WOMEN in the world to look up to. There are a lot of broken people in this world. Without vision, the people will perish. Once the family is restored, wholesome children can be raised, and society can be improved. It starts with the family/home we are raised in. Structure and systems are in place for a reason, and gum on your shoe is hilarious - I'm barefoot, you'd hear from kids now. We should combat disrespect and irreverence with imagination. Solely rely on the child who lacks self-restraint/discipline to check themselves with imaginary gum that iwillhold them in place? Another thing, is thathere is NO ONE FIX. Life is about the pursuit of knowledge through trial and error in combination with shared experiences and conditions of YOUR situation. Think for yourself. Try things and reflect on the results. Keep working on fixing yourself first, and share your lessons learned with your children so that knowledge is gained. Being a parent means making sacrifices, so what you give is what you get. In most cases, give lessons learned to your children rather than only things you never had. Let's leave a lasting legacy of character and values to make this world a better place.

[davidhill]

On the flip side of this video, abusive parents use the word “backtalk” silence their kids, who are just trying to make a fair point or defend themselves, and the parents just don’t want to hear it, refusing to believe they’re doing anything wrong. The stigma behind backtalk is just an excuse for authority figures to punish someone for explaining a (potentially) valid point because they just don’t agree with it at best or hate the accused person at worst.

[ashleylocks]

Okay, where I'm from, you just get whooped and you learn from a young age that you don't talk back to your mama....period

[Mamasprincess-is]

The rebellious children come from super strict parents they also become sneaky as adults don't use your kids as your dogs

[alexaclaire]

How can I apply this to my 2-year-old? She acts like a teenager!

[vanessaverner]

We never went anywhere unless it was an appointment. So in your case of stopping the car I would have figured out how to make my parents late for places I didn’t want to go.

[boldbearings]

"Make sure and acknowledge when they are doing right."
This will be the hardest part for a spoiled brat parent. They are the main bad example the kid is picking up.

[annastern]

This is old fashion! A child who is speaking disrespectful does it bc he or she is dysregulated or trying to communicate something to the parent which they’re unable to put into words. Stop telling people to stop the behavior and tell them to try to figure out what’s going on underneath

[adamr]

This doesn't work when a 12-year-old son will only talk to his mom, and says cleverly hidden mocking things about his dad. "Somebody forgot to put away forgot to clean up the The advice in the video is to stop talking to them. The child already isn't talking to the dad. The only time a child talks to his dad when he wants something. The dad used to raise his voice at the kids but not anymore. Now he takes them fun places and the other kids talk to their dad but this boy rarely does, he complains or pretends he isn't having fun to the dad. The dad has apologized to the kids about making mistakes in the past but this one child keeps talking back and intentionally tries to hurt the dads feelings anyway he can. Not sure if it's because of hurt feelings but the dad is being as nice as possible to this boy and has apologized.