8 Toxic Things People Say To Each Other (Without Realizing It)

Whether you're dealing with toxic people or toxic relationships, there are many hurtful things that someone can say. Sometimes, people say toxic things to cause emotional abuse, but most of the time, when people say toxic things, they are projecting the insecurities and hate they feel about themselves. Hurt people hurt others. This video shares some of the psychological abuse and phrases that can be hurtful to hear.

Disclaimer: This list is based on personal experience and is not meant to be a professional diagnosis. If you recognize these traits in yourself, please do not take this as a personal attack.

Writer: Max Gustavo
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

What's the most toxic thing you had said to someone before? Confession time.

[Dev.Yadav.]

Remember: not everytime they're being a manipulator. Sometimes people are too stressed to care about someone elses problem and just want to left alone

[highliving-animatedvideos]

*8 toxic things people say to each other (without realizing)*
0:39 - “You’re too sensitive“, or “calm down”
1:22 - “Just forget it”, or “whatever”
1:52 - “I am done”
2:32 - “I am sure it’s not that bad”, or “you’ll get over it”
3:23 “You’re just like your [insert relative here]”
4:05 - “You’re crazy“
4:56 - Not saying anything, or giving the silent treatment
5:39 - “You never…” or “You always…”

Big hug to anyone reading ❤️🚀🌙

[greyiris]

i always watch these not only for myself but so i don't ever hurt anyone else that bad again.

edit: thank you for trying to have some understanding

[alybaby]

I do 6 out of 8 of these things, a big one for me is saying “you always / you never” .. I kinda cried half way through this video cause it made me realize how toxic of a person I can be sometimes. but these videos help us learn! Thumbs up!

[blue.robotix]

When someone tries to open up to me I just get confused with what to say.

[R.N.LosAngeles]

I hate “It’s not that deep” 🤬 Well, it means something to me. It’s very dismissive

[crc]

Literally had a fight with my partner an hour ago. This was much needed. My problem is keeping things internally and not communicating with my partner. Silent treatment is my go to. I needed this video so much! Thank you! I just have to express what I need.

[khalilahd.]

No matter how hard you try to be self aware I feel like we’ve all said one of these at least once or twice but being self aware and trying to think about the others emotions a bit more can help combat some of these bad habits 🙏🏽

[SugarxSweetx]

Absolutely trigged by the words "I'm done". I'd heard it for years when I was with a manipulative person, and would never choose to stick around with someone once they've said that. It just shows they don't value you enough to properly work on the struggles in the relationship and would prefer to bail. That constant feeling of the relationship being on the verge of ending is too painful to tolerate again. I am waiting for as long as necessary to meet someone who can be open minded and communicate effectively with me rather than threaten to throw in the towel every other day.

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 Intro
0:38 1、 “You’re too sensitive“, or “calm down”
1:21 2、 “Just forget it”, or “whatever”
1:51 3、 “I am done”
2:31 4、 “I am sure it’s not that bad”, or “you’ll get over it”
3:21 5、 “You’re just like your [insert relative here]”
4:04 6、 “You’re crazy“
4:56 7、 “Not saying anything, or giving the silent treatment“
5:37 8、 “You never…” or “You always…”
6:51 Outro

[aberrationman]

The most toxic thing to say to your girlfriend when she is angry is “my ex wasn’t like this” say that and your life ends instantly…

[Damons-Old-Soul]

"Feelings aren't Facts." It completely dismisses their feelings.
My response: No feelings aren't facts. They are felt and felt strongly in the moment and need to be acknowledged. Feelings are valid. They will change over time, but that doesn't make them any less valid in the moment.

[sgaf]

Silent treatment is my biggest problem after an argument. No wonder why people lost interest in me after a while. I would probably lose interest too.

[beththompson]

Two phrases I absolutely hate are “It is what it is” and “ This too shall pass.” It sounds like the person could just care less and doesn’t want to hear about it. Sometimes you just need someone to listen and then they say something like this. It makes me feel trivial.

[varsham-df]

I opened the video to go through time stamp but then I saw it was 12 sec ago...💀
So here it is
0:41 you are too sensitive/calm down
1:25 just forget it/whatever
1:52 i am done
2:32 i am sure it's not that bad/ you'll get over it
3:26 you are just like your( )
4:05 you're crazy
4:58 not saying anything or giving silent treatment
5:40 you never/you always

[QueenNatie]

I didn't know at the time that being called crazy, in a non playful way, was disrespectful until I met my spouse and they said "you are not crazy and I'll never think you are" and since then I felt comfortable to be me without judgment. But I use to always lable myself as "crazy" and it hurt because other people close to me use to label me that maybe because I wasn't like everyone else in the family IDK but I'm glad my view about myself changed

[Wee]

The silent treatment (or “grey rock”) is an effective way to respond to a narcissist who is trying to control/manipulate you, though.

[stormyweather]

Unfortunately i discovered that i am really bad at communicating especially when my emotions are involved, i noticed that whenever i try to communicate; i end up just adding fuel the fire and making it worse. I also found myself either protecting myself in order to not get hurt by somehow being toxic (like some of the ways mentioned in the video) or being completely tolerant and accept whatever is thrown at me in order to do not lose the person that i care about. Thank you for providing such a video and please do not hesitate to post more about these topics because a lot of beautiful things are getting ruined because of miscommunication

[chinaminiyumako]

"You get over it" feels almost like the last hammer in someone's last pride. It can destroy the person that is not used to hear those mean things.