8 Signs You Have A Toxic Sibling

Do you get along with your sibling? Do they treat you well or do they take advantage of you? Toxic sibling relationships are an overlooked dysfunctional family dynamic that can be just as damaging to your mental health and emotional well-being. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if your sibling is just teasing and playful or abusive and manipulative. Are you wondering if you have a narcissistic brother. or narcissistic sister? Then this video is for you.

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Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Isadora Ho & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Storyboarder: Dawn Tan
Animation: Ben Carswell
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

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[aleng]

When you meet someone toxic or even have a toxic friend, its easy to distance yourself and stay away. It's harder when its family.

[maliashabia]

1 sign you have a toxic sibling:


You are watching this so you know if you actually do.

[raysofsunshine]

One of the most painful part is that you're always seen as the wrong one and the one who's truly wrong always gets away

[shannonmiles]

haven’t talked to my brother in 11 years, and I’m happy! He was TERRIBLE growing up with

[bass.beats.basics]

#9: They look like an angel in front of your parents, but are a demon alone with you

[BeKindToMeIneed]

The worst part is that everyone says "you guys will get along with each other better when you grow up".
no. we won't.

[sy_dianne]

2 years ago I finally cut off the relationship with my toxic sister...she is a toxic narcissist who bullied me for most of my life (she is 7 years older), criticized me and took advantage of my kindness. The damage she did through her emotional abuse is still lasting but I feel so free since she is out of my life.

[Addie]

The worst part is that the world normalizes sibling abuse as if its just “kids playing” but hitting someone one or making someone bleed is not “fun.”

[mvnhls]

the worst feeling is when even your parents don’t believe you. I don’t care how many times you explain yourself, you’re always the bad guy in this story!!

[kenny-nkdb]

1. They don’t respect your boundaries.
2. They make you feel anxious
3. They’re exhausting to be around
4. You have an unhealthy rivalry with them
5. They manipulate you
6. They constantly criticize you
7. They blame you for everything
8. They left a lot of damage in your life

[enough]

I am the scapegoat. At 55+ I realized this. The abuse, control and nastiness is so overwhelming. I have nothing to do with either one. Being alone in all is better than being insulted, attacked and hated!

[hunnybSue]

My family is so dysfunctional, I was taunted to the point of hysteria. I wasn't allowed to defend myself. I have memories of being beaten for defending myself, while my siblings took great delight in laughing. My younger sister still taunts me now, we are in our 50's. I just avoid family gatherings

[alanajoseph]

The worst thing is you can't get away from it, they live in your home.

[thesoureevee]

1 reason you have a toxic sibling:

They stress you out so much that they ARE the reason you have depression.

[Suzzers]

My sister constantly tries to start fights with me, and calls me these awful names. Whenever I bring it up to my parents, she lies and says I was the one who did it and yada yada. I am exhausted and I can't do anything. I'm trapped.

[Fyrijou]

I have an older Brother who harbors the same jealous resentment he had towards me since he was 6. He always had the mind set up that „our parents love me more“. Admittedly, yes, my parents suck at being parents and they did treat me better because they trued a different method with me than with my brother. Problem is, as a child, you don’t know why your older brother hits you, insults you and makes fun of you and you don’t know why anything and our relationship was *always* rocky. Then around 2016 i really tried reconnecting with him. I changed into a better man, i was helping around the house and was actively trying to spend time with him, but i always felt some tension between us in the air. Then in 2021, he snapped at me for not doing a chore i forgot and he reverted back to his bully persona when we were children and that’s when i found out he never outgrew his jealous hatred. Still thinking „i‘m the favorite“ and when he was lambasting me, he could only find things to throw at me from 2018 backwards, meaning he is anchored to the past. I finally truly hit back, knocked him unconscious and we‘ve never talked since.

[userkive]

"they left a lot of damage in your life" hits too close to home

[moonymybeloved]

sibling abuse needs to be talked about more tbh 😭

[DuranieLife]

This is great! Thank you. I have a brother who constantly puts me down and even spies on my conversations with others. When I don’t do what he wants, he yells and guilt trips me. Once, I was on vacation around Christmas. When I didn’t play with him, he said something along the lines of, “Well, then our family wouldn’t have a full Christmas”. He even (intentionally or unintentionally) made me think that my mother was the toxic one (she may be, too, I d k). He criticizes my hobbies and mocks me to make me feel bad. “Dance is just a *hobby* !” “Drawing is for wimps!” “You’re such a crybaby!” Once I opened up to my family because I wanted to commit suicide and all he said was “Stop feeling sorry for yourself; no one wants to hear it!” Also, my family doesn’t like the way he treats me but they say, “He really loves you, but just doesn’t show it. He doesn’t mean it. This is the way all siblings are, ” so it’s makes me believe I am the toxic one, sometimes.