Understanding Trauma - Part 22 - Generational Trauma

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Unhealed trauma often carries over to the next generation, leading to Complex Trauma. Tim talks about how unresolved pain and unhealthy coping habits get passed down, resulting in issues like emotional struggles and negative patterns. To break the cycle of generational trauma, it’s important to understand its impact. By seeking help, putting in work, encouraging open conversations, and focusing on self-care, families can heal and build a healthier future together, turning their history of trauma into a story of resilience and strength.

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[gologanlarisa]

There are no words to describe the help you give to the planet Mr. Tim! You are a gift to the world! I am profoundly grateful to come across you!!! You are a humanity saver!!!
Millions of thanks!!!🙏🙏🙏

[xwswxkh]

Where have you been all my life? You have confirmed my walk is on the right path and that you are indeed a secret friend of mine. I thank you so much.

[anatoliypankevych]

As a Ukrainian, whose family had survived Holodomor, I can confirm every word

[jeankipper]

My paternal grandfather was orphaned in the Spanish Flu epidemic in 1918. He survived as a 3 year old, "raised" by his 12 year old sister. The emotional trauma echoed down to my brother and his children.

[joanfolds]

This is an excellent explanation of what happens whenever trauma is experienced by an individual, a family, a culture, etc. My late mother suffered from petulant BPD. I did not discover the real damage done until she had been dead for almost 10 years. I am 67 years old and I'm still dealing with this madness. I never got married or had any children. To add insult to injury, I was raised in a deeply religious family. So, my late mother used God to shame and guilt-trip me. I have deep regrets that I didn't challenge my mother's actions during my developmental years. But, I was afraid of her. She was always interacting with me and the rest of my family of origin through some level of anger. My mental health has been deeply impacted. Thank you for sharing this deeply needed information about generational trauma.

[ricalina]

What a deeply insightful lecture! Thank you! 🙏 it can help to free yourself, not having to excuse nor forgive nor empathize with the abusers, but to break the cycle, stepping out of the painful dynamics, refuse to carry someone else’s scars and insist of creating the best possible life for yourself day by day, step by step, thought by thought, inch by inch of inner distance.

[aarchie]

Thank you Tim. This video will be great to show the ones that are willfully blind to the plight of people of color and the aftershock waves we feel and deal with from racism still to this day.

[Thatsbannanas-dc]

It’s all true. Recovery is a gift.
I ❤️Friday Night with Tim.
Don’t give up.

[kennethkunz]

I found this video to be incredibly accurate and helpful and I enjoyed it immensely! I hope to share it with my children so we can collectively understand what happened to us as a family - thank you sincerely Tim!

[Sdween]

Tim, through some wonder, ads on the Internet show me you’re IN MY TOWN this month! I discovered your talks quite late in my healing journey but the fact that you don’t simply intellectualise trauma experiences is very helpful. I wish you the best on your seminars and workshops. Gentle healing to all…

[Spritual-life-lessons]

I am glad that I got this much detailed information but at the same time I feel since how long we are living in such toxic environments without even realizing. It is so painful to hear this it’s like cancer, caught up only at stage 4 when enough damages is already done. it won’t come under the radar.

[alexasaltz]

My mother is German, born not long after WW2. My grandfather was in the SS. I am sure you can see where most of what my mother endured came from. Regardless, she is cruel, and enjoys my suffering. I was not going to have children, life happens. I have made my children priority, doing for them what I missed out on. Most important are the horrible things I did not do. Maybe I went too far in the opposite direction. My middle child is angry that I was not the mother she wanted. It hit me hard. She knows my issues with my own mother. I told her that my problem is not understanding what was going on until I was well into my 40s. Had I known 20 years earlier and gone no contact then, I would have been able to avoid and overcome much easier. I let her know how important she is and how much her happiness means to me. If I am in any way toxic to her well being, she needs to stay away. She maintains low contact. I am grateful. I do not adult well. I am a perpetual child. It isn't that I can't be responsible, I choose not to if ever that's an option. My daughter needed more structure, stricter boundaries. I went from the oppressive extreme I experienced to complete mirror opposite. Anyway, I worry how much residual damage will continue affecting my offspring. I wanted the cycle of abuse to end with me. And it did. But there are an infinite number of ways parents can fuck up.

[msdofqm]

This lecture sounds like short history of Greece: 200 years being genocided and bullied. A chill runs down the spine when the bell door rings. At least Greeks act out no that bad: just over eating and over love making. Thank you, o thank you so much Tim for holding up such a precise mirror❤❤❤❤

[williamjohn]

Tim, most if not all societies have been through collective trauma. I can mention the Highland clearances, Irish famine, Arab slave trade, Ottoman Empire, Soviet persecution and so, so many more. Currently, in many societies we have a problem of victimhood. People who have not experienced those traumas, but have a victim centred psychology, therefore seeing themselves as persecuted. We now live in a society, which rather than accept awful things happened to many groups, we have a desire to rank victimhood and blame people who had nothing to do with past terrible events. Mandela recognised with his truth and reconciliation initiative that you cannot right the wrongs of the past, but simply come to terms with them. If we are to learn from the past it is that all groups are capable of carrying out awful atrocities justified by past trauma. That said these traumas can be dealt with if we move people away from victimhood and to a place of honest acceptance of dysfunctional societies.

[lovebug]

I absolutely LOVW you and your lectures, insight, help!!! You have helped me immensely!!!! I'm so thankful for you and all of these videos/teachings. They havebeen EXTREMELY helpful.

[Wholelottarosie-lced]

I love your lectures but today I just can't listen to this. I feel so angry, sad, depressed and just do not give a single F about generational trauma. I don't care what my family went through. It's can and will never excuse the answer and how much damage they inflicted upon me since birth. I have been sick most of my life, the lastest being Leukemia. I have done so much work to heal not only mentally but physically. I don't give a single flip about what my mom or grandma went through because that's the same BS they tried to pull on me to excuse their shyte treatment of me. I love your work Tim and you have helped me tremendously. Today I just can't finish this video

[celiapaula]

I had read a lot about this topic, dr Mate is a majos specialist. But listening... wow... the way you expose things is so easy and separated in small chunks for digestion, and at the same time, so powerful

[silviaconjar]

Simple, clear... Just amazing. Thank you❤

[sas]

This is very insightful and confirms my recent assertions as to why we blacks in Africa and elsewhere have failed to overcome our struggles of development and perpetual corruption at all levels….religion, government, education, institutions, infrastructures etc. It’s not the skin color my It unresolved, continuously perpetuating trauma!!!! I am happy l recently had my epiphany…..a self discovery of my own trauma and how it has affected absolutely all areas of my life. I am on the road to a lifetime of healing. Thank you Tim for this great delivery as always. You are doing the Lord’s work!Who within, will tell sub Saharan Africa why she is so sick ?

[Yhoshua_B]

Posting this here so I can come back to it later. Recommended reading @2:06.