Friendship & The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

In this video I'll talk about how the dismissive avoidant attachment style behaves in friendships.

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[bricksfeathers]

It took me a long time and a lot of struggle to figure out what was going on with my DA friends. When I finally did, I decided to keep them at the level of a friendly acquaintance, no longer share deeply personal information, not take their behavior personally, and invest my energy elsewhere. Some are still friends, but many of them have drifted away which is okay by me because my frustration with their behavior has dropped significantly.

[Maidenmoose]

Probably the best thing I have done in life was break the cycle of investing in DA friendships. It's almost like having a friend without a soul. The depth is missing and you can become a like an activity filler for someone instead of being treated like a person with feelings. Not saying they are bad people but it can be hurtful if you are a person who search for depth and share real things with others to be met with that leven of emptiness.

[kimr]

I can't tell you how helpful this video is! I'm AP in friendships and one of my best friends is DA. We've been friends for almost 15 years and although we really are close and see and understand one another, I tend to get triggered and he tends to pull back in difficult situations. Before becoming aware of attachment styles I really only saw our friendship from my point of view. Now I feel like I understand him so much better and can really appreciate who he is, what he brings to our friendship, what he needs, and how lucky and honored I am for the times and ways he has been open and vulnerable with me. This changes so much in our friendship...for the better! Thank you for addressing friendships!!

[roshalllambert]

This was so accurate. Few things she said like keeping few close friends for a long time due to desire for consistency, starting off from where you left even after a long time, slow to warm up initially etc were so true. Thais is a mind reader period.

[cidmatrix]

Being a DA is like being an alien in a human suit when it comes to navigating relationships and people :/

[honeymoney]

Would love to see a full webinar on how to deal with a DA friend as a securely attached friend. How to negotiate expectations vs when it's time to cut ties and move on

[ceh]

YES THAIS I am HERE for the friendship videos!!! Thank you so much. Because I’m so FA, I have been focusing my attachment style reprogramming on myself, my friendships, and my family relationships. More friendship content would be LOVED

[lucilu]

Can you make a video on how different attachment styles are with each other in friendships like “dynamic between dismissive avoidant and anxious preoccupied in a friendship”

[animekitten]

so this answers three things about me
1: why I can't make friends outside of work
2: why I lose friends once they or I move on from a job
3: why I reattached so easily to a friend from school I hadn't spoken to for five years

and indirectly why I can't meet new people outside of work

[cameranserrano]

This might be my fave video you’ve done! You are so talented. I wish I could hug you

[HarryStyles_]

So we can't disagree with them? We can't say this is wrong? We can't say how it's effecting me as an individual? Damn

[monicajohnson]

Ps... your videos have been super helpful for me understanding the DA... I've had a 4 year relationship with this person and so many things are making sense and helping me to understand him better... thank you so much for your content!

[shaynatulane]

I would love to see a course about Attachment Styles & Friendships that goes deeper than this video. And would especially like to know more about DA Style in Friendships in particular, since this is an area I struggle with a lot with a particular friend... Thank you, Thais, for creating this video [above]. I find the info it contained very helpful in providing insight into this certain friend of mine's behavior.

[twinflamechaser]

Thais’s DA video notification..
Me: 🤩 another enlightenment day...

[PeopleAreHell]

As a DA who cannot cope with emotions, emotional interaction and physical touch I wonder how many people (if any) would've wanted to date me and to this day don't know they dodged a bullet. 😅

[inquisitivewanderer]

This has helped me SO much to understand my friend who is dismissive. Thank you, thank you!!

[deon]

I encountered my first DA friend a few years ago. Much harder to read than other friends. Prefers meeting in small groups. I guess it minimizes burden of more personal conv. Have definitely had discussions on expectations after we got closer. Eventually I arrived at investing more energy in other friendships to meet my needs for consistency and social interaction. I hear from DA maybe every 5-6 weeks.

[karenthompson]

Now I understand why my DA friend often says "we haven't known each other very long" or "how long have we known each other?" As if to say, we haven't spent enough time together for me to feel this close to you. This is scary!

[KPp]

Funny how my "closest" friends are from my high school years (i'm 25 now) and we only interact every 3 months or so. I once ghosted them for half a year bc someone expressed their vulnerability too deep that i felt like it was a burden. We're talking like normal now and they have come to accept that i need space sometimes. The key to this friendship is to let them have their own other close friends too who will cater to their other needs that i can't meet

[monicajohnson]

I would love to see a video about how to honor myself as a fearful avoidant (moving to secure) in a dismissive avoidant relationship who is unaware. When I try to vocalize my needs and he is triggered and shuts down the conversation and pulls away.