Is Your Wife Weaponizing Sex?

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[zvonkom]

Men never stop "wanting" sex. We just stop trying with someone who is insufferable. At a point it's just not worth it.

[JayS-jd]

we get tired of being rejected so we stop asking and eventually we stop connecting emotionally to her, and eventually we just don’t even find her attractive anymore. Plus the resentment eats us up and we have so much disdain for her and how she ruined our marriage.

[JohnDretired]

Most men never stop wanting sex. We just realize there's no point in trying at a certain point and then we withdraw to maintain our self respect.

[apricot]

Women want to stop physical intimacy but then get mad that you stop emotional intimacy 🤷

[JR-bjuf]

I actually heard a women say that "the only reason her husband wanted to have sex with her is because they were married and he was not "allowed" to have sex with anyone else." I was thinking how horrible and cruel it is to take a man's commitment and vow and throw it in has face as a curse.

[johnhazlett]

A couple of years ago I had a philosophical conversation with my ex. She stated that a husband should worry if she doesn't want to talk with him anymore, which I agreed. Then I told her, women should worry when their husband doesn't want to have sex with them anymore.

[melkerner]

I haven't been touched, or even kissed for over 8 years - she pulled the "you're too needy, all you think about is sex" - I immediately answered "you mean all the sex we aren't having? If this were just about sex I would have dumped you 10 years ago." She still can't seem to wrap her head around the damage she has done to our marriage and relationship over forced celibacy for no damned good reason.

[mniks]

Once the husband is no longer interested, the wife breathes a sigh of relief, then some time later blames him for not being 'normal'.

[fightingfortruth]

A few months ago my wife told me that she wanted to be in "control" of how we have sex from now on. In 23 years of marriage, that comment turned me off more than any other thing she has ever said or done.
I haven't had a single desire to ever touch her since she said that.

[RS-msbz]

I truly believe women use sex as a weapon because they know it will inflict the most damage. I think they know that sex for men is about building trust and a deeper emotional connection, and because of their own insecurities and unhappiness within themselves, they don't want their man to feel better than themselves. Being on the receiving end of weaponized sex is the most emotionally painful experience a man can feel. And women know exactly what they're doing.

[jeffreymobley]

Good men stop wanting sex as a defense. It's to stop the cycle of wanting it, not getting it, then getting angry...wash rinse and repeat. As a good man, ya just stay angry trying to get sex from your wife. So to stay married, you adjust and build up a 'no sex' tolerance to protect yourself from getting repeatedly hurt.

[peagee]

wife often doesnt want sex but gets mad when I dont want to cuddle....doing that after getting turned down simply frustrates me...would rather not see her at all then.

[bobdobalina]

I haven't had SX in Three years since kid number two was born.
The wife made a grave error when she thought she could get away with disrespecting me.
We went to counselling. The "counsellor", I use that term extremely loosely, as this chick was a Feminist Activist that was in attack mode.
It got worse, and I pulled the plug. Besides the Gas Lighting and Blaming and Emasculation, this "counsellor" had the audacity to attempt to threaten me. It was a 3 way phone conversation, and I was having none of it. The "counsellor" finally attempted to threaten to hang up on me, if I did not acquiesce to her demands. i laughed and said thank you, it's all I needed to hear and hung up.
The wife was flabergasted and throughout the next few weeks, asked when I was going to become a part of the "conversation' again. I said, as soon as you ditch the Feminist Activist. She continued to talk to her. In the meantime, I put everything on hold. No vacations. The Big Reno that was in the planning stages got put on the back burner. We were not having SX during any of this time to begin with, as it was obviously being withheld.
I DO NOT Reward BAD Behaviour.
After about a year, there was another blow up, and Counselling was suggested again. I said no problem, but it will be a Male that understand what you did, and not another Feminist Activist like the last one, that all she did was fill you head with idiocy.
So we found a guy, that adhere's to Gottman's Theory.
He saw my wife first. Then a week later myself. Then the following week both of us.
I had everything written down, point by point, times and dates, as I had been keeping a journal. It was well laid out.
Our third session started out well enough, until my wife LIED several times, Gas Light, Lied some more, played victim and then cried. I wasn't having any of it, as I believe in being accountable, and holding others to account. There are NO Get Out of Jail FREE cards, unless you are a slimy politician of course. The wife did NOT like any of it. She denied, deflected, refused to accept any responsibility in the ClusterF that caused it.
Instead, she withdrew, faked several reasons why she couldn't make it, or wasn't going to go, claimed the Counsellor rescheduled, that's a lie as I followed up to find out (but didn't say anything, just let it be). She just pulled back more and more.
Three years later, NO SX, and she is nothing more than a roommate now at best.
I do nothing but the bare minimum these days. A card, and basic gift for Birthdays, and Xmas. I do not mention nor celebrate the anniversary. The House which we had BIG plans for, everything has come to a grinding halt. We don't even spend anytime with each other anymore, around the kids, sure, and for the kids with their activities, but that's it.
This is what a "Modern" woman does to a Good, Strong Relationship. She will undermine, and destroy it with ignorance and feminism.
I stay for my children, that's it.
Sadly, I can not afford to leave. Would if I could.
I wouldn't marry her ever again. Not in an infinite amount of universes.
Juice id NOT worth the squeeze.
Ironically enough, she had a BIG RED FLAG at the beginning of our Relationship, huge blow out, and I took her at her word.
That was a mistake. I should have listened to my intuition. My gut instinct that said walk away.
I do NOT recommend marriage to any man. Not because of what I went and am going through, but because even before I was married, I noticed that my parents generation, and grandparents mostly stayed together, the separation and divorce rates were low. However, my friends, it was 5 out of 7 separated and or on their way to being divorced.
The same types of stories, every single time. it came down to the woman were not "happy". They couldn't define what was "happy" js that they were not "happy". They had fallen out of love. Or lost that spark. Or wanted to explore themselves. Almost all couples had kids. A few of the friends were women I have known for a long time, though work. BUT similar stories from all.
Another friend has a cold relationship with his wife and he's now been married for 20 yrs. Cold as in NO SX for at least 15, after his kids were born. She always has some sort of reason as why she's not "feeling" it, or something isn't quite "right" or something with her is "off".
That should have been the final piece of the puzzle.
Yet, i was DUMB enough to marry.
Now here I am stuck in a Loveless, SXless marriage with Children.
The funny thing is, the wife seems to think everything is "ok" that it's situation "normal".
Couldn't be further from the truth.
Not writing this for sympathy. DO NOT want any.
Not a victim. I ignored the many signs, perhaps I was naive enough to think i could beat the odds. i thought I had someone who was my other half.
What did she do?
Not cheat if that's what you are wondering.
Just an extremely bad Blow Out with her, and three of her family members, over the ignorance of her father about the safety of my child. Unfortunately, her father thought he was the man, and what he said goes. I corrected him. Might work in his house. BUT not in mine, take a number and get the F back to the end of the line. It got ugly. The amount of DISRESPECT shown to me, by all four of them was Reprehensible, Repugnant and Disgusting. Not one has apologized for their insolence and Disrespect to me that evening.
Consequently, her family and I no longer speak to each other, and they are no longer allowed to visit, and I have ZERO intention of visiting them. I allowed them to take the fall for her stupidity. That was my concession. She FAILED to understand that.
There's a bit more to it, but that is the just of it.
She has never apologized, and her actions speak louder than words.
So here I am,
Good Luck to all of you Gentlemen out there
I suggest you do NOT get married.
I wouldn't even Cohabitate. Your girl needs to have her own place. You need to have your own place, FREE from her.

[jayviktor]

I work with the traveling public. One time, I overheard a group of older women (I'm guessing early 60s) talking about their husbands, and one of them said to her friends, "I wish my husband would stop trying to have sex with me." I was instantly sympathetic toward him, and I knew exactly what he was going through. A marriage contract should stipulate what spouses are required to do in marriage. If the wife withholds sex, it breaks the contract, and the husband walks away in the free and clear.

[sosdada-x]

As a single man who is not even trying to date, reading all these comments gives a good perspective of whats waiting for me out there . Thanks brothers for sharing your stories . Hope you happiness

[DuffyGabi]

For a married woman, “getting lucky” is when your husband doesn’t want to have sex.

[Cougs]

My ex-wife told me I had taken everything else from her and she wasn’t going to give me that too. Sex life was plentiful prior to marriage and regular enough for 20 ish years then she stopped. First blamed menopause then blamed me.

[iRoppa]

And this is why I’m getting out of my marriage. Even if I spend the rest of my life alone, it’s preferable to the constant rejection of a woman that says she loves me.

[JohnWilliams-iwoq]

I haven't had sex in 20 years, I don't even bother looking any more so I take care of my own needs and prefer to go for a long walk or sit on the computer rather than try having any kind of good relationship with my wife. Worse is when you get it and she asks "How much longer?" or "When are you going to finish the verandah rails?".
If I knew back then what I know now I would never have married.

[CWUEOY]

Weaponized sex...the most cruel concept in human relationships. Period.