Best Relationship Coaching Techniques In Action | Bryan Reeves

Watch relationship coach and expert Bryan Reeves in a real-life coaching session and identify the structure and techniques he uses that you can also apply with your coaching clients.

KEY HIGHLIGHTS:
00:00 How To Deal With Negative Thoughts
01:48 Coaching Technique #1
04:11 Coaching Technique #2
04:40 Coaching Technique #3
06:43 Coaching Technique #4
10:12 Coaching Technique #5
11:05 Coaching Technique #6
13:14 Coaching Technique #7
14:46 Coaching Technique #8

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[anitrahooper]

Yes! I love this video! So many great tips & suggestions!

My relationship tools are all centered around communication, because without effective communication there is no healthy relationship. One key tool I use is one I got from Lisa Nichols: I have nothing to defend, I have nothing to protect, I have nothing to prove, I have nothing to hide. This allows me to show up fully, actively listen, & connect in a deeper way.

When beginning a particularly difficult conversation I will state that this is where I am coming from. By establishing it the beginning I allow them to see I am willing to be vulnerable & honest. I will own my mistakes & will not deflect.

It is also an invitation to show up in the same way. I have no expectations that they will, & to stay in my integrity, I will hold to it, even if they don't.

[justthewayyouaregirl]

Yes I do love his request vs requirement

[brunomushotoku]

I love the request vs requirement . Yes

[acruzcita]

Yes! I appreciate this YouTube video. "Invitation" is a great tip!

[TonettaClay]

This is very helpful for me in my coaching business. Thanks for providing this demonstration.

[primex]

Wow, this is frightening.
First, “invitation and the catalyst” conversation doesn’t make sense, she didn’t take any information out of that conversation, it was pointless, she didn’t have a verbal input other than listening to what you have said, you didn’t even give an explanation to exactly how that works in a relationship, she is confused based on her facial expression.

Like I said, this didn’t relieve tension; she is still tense. Trying to put her at ease doesn’t mean breaking in the “ice” and trying to make her feel that this is common, well, no duh this is common, I’m pretty sure she knows that along with most people on this planet. Her releasing information from the frustration within her relationship is releasing tension, she is looking for relief through guidance and understanding of behavior, that’s what she is looking for.

The catalyst and telling her that this is normal didn’t put her at rest, it was one of the most useless conversation.


"7:03 What would happen if this doesn’t change? And reveal Urgency?"

Since the beginning of the video, there is tension coming from her, there is an urgency and that’s why she invested in this coaching program, so this conversation is useless, a waste of money, a waste of time and is completely unnecessary.

He keep talking to her like she is a daughter rather than being someone who listens, understands, go back and forward in the conversation straight looking for the behaviors, he is just lecturing her.

9:21 POINT PROVEN, she is still confused, he hasn’t said anything useful at all throughout the conversation.

Request vs Requirement was a useless conversation, she is trying to save her relationship, she is “TRYING TO SAVE” so let’s work with saving and in the end if nothing was resolve than she can come up with the next measures.

It’s funny how he repeats “tell me what I need to do” this was awkward for him because he didn’t do anything to bring actual useful information to the relationship.

9:29, you see that blank stare coming form him, he is lost and then he repeats garbage that doesn’t match with what he said in the beginning
He is now saying invitation vs obligation
Before he said invitation vs catalyst

9:47, he pauses because he is lost, and now he says something else that it’s not related to her concern.

She is your client, not you daughter.
Honestly, yes, he is right, telling him what to do or anyone what to do is not good but that's just common sense, hence she is here looking for why her husband is behaving strange.

Here’s what should have happen.
He should have said from the very beginning,
At what point did you start noticing these behaviors?
She would say, it started blah blah blah.
Does it feel like he is doing it out being lazy, do you feel like there is a hidden intention?
Why ask this? Because intuition always makes sense.
If it’s just laziness then she can comprise with him to mix the work,
If he is hiding something that you further look for the root of the information by back tracking.

You look for the source and rectify those behaviors through communication once found.
This was awkward.
She feels awkward.
And this is a pointless conversation and no there is no connection.


She didn’t take ANYTHING out of this and he wasted her time and money. How does this guy even have a business?

[terecruz]

This is sooo useful!! i wish I could watch the whole session!! ;)

[coachpreetikhare]

Ajit you are doing a wonderful service. God bless!

[ran_deleon]

I really appreciate this. I might as well apply this in our own relationship concerns.

[MsPerfectperception]

Yes. Excellent suggestions. I believe by incorporating some I can increase effectiveness.

[Kittenprrrr]

Do you have a video on the 'language needles' you mentioned to coach the client on?

[TheCommonPlaceChannel]

Loved this one! Thank you for sharing these tips! 💛

[deepakdeopure]

Wonderful breakdown of the session. Thanks for the tips 🙏

[leennaparannjpe]

This is so helpful....An insightful Bryan !!! #LeenaParanjpe #MillennialMarriageCoach

[QrazyQuarian]

How does this differ from relationship counseling? We aren't therapists.

[brianr-z]

I'm master of my will. I can talk to anyone the only problem is to watch out what I say. I am the most confident man in the world. I'm Russian. 👍😎🇷🇺

[ohreallymaryann]

The coach did 95% of the talking which seems unpleasant for a very good coaching experience.