4 Habits of ALL Successful Relationships | Dr. Andrea & Jonathan Taylor-Cummings | TEDxSquareMile

[firstcomeslove]

‘People go where they feel welcome but stay where they feel valued.’ That says it all.

[DdShevanii]

I wish more adults would spend time watching things like this instead of scrolling around on social media.its never too late to grow and learn together.

[bonzwellness]

Did y'all hear her whisper "mental health" to help him get back on track? That's a partnership! And the way they look at each other while they speak is kinda beautiful.

[leuchtag]

1. Be curious, not critical = appreciate difference
2. Be careful, not crushing = fight or flight is selfish -> conflict boundaries -> care for the other
3. Ask, don’t assume = discussing issues
4. Connect, before you correct = communicate value and appreciation, holding back on criticism, people stay where they feel valued

[frederickitt]

We need more dating/relationship coaching like THIS instead of all these male and female "dating coach" profiles teaching you how to string the other along or manipulate each other emotionally. This was refreshing!!

[tic]

MY PARENTS!!!!
I am so proud of what you have achieved. Keep it up.

Edit: For those wondering, my mother is indeed Jamaican, my father is from Sierra Leone.

[wisdomspacecounselling]

Wouldn't it be so good if we would learn this at school ? My life would have been a lot easier and less painful. Who agrees?

[tijaduno]

U can't solve a problem with the same level of thinking that got u there - Einstein

[janetDT]

My husband and I have been together for 10 years and without knowing it, we put ALL these guidelines into our marriage. We talk about our values, we put each other first, we pull closer to each other in hard times and cherish the good times. My Alun is my best friend and I'm so crazy in love with him xx

[FatNebraskaMom]

Man, this is true. My husband and I broke up after four years together, were apart for three years, and then we got back together and have been strong af since. We decided right then that we were gonna go balls to the wall with honesty and love. We went to a therapist and got alot of this information, how to fight constructively, how to stay calm, how to communicate without anger. He is my best friend and we love each other deeply.

[YourWingmam]

*This also highlights the importance of choosing a partner with values and beliefs that are compatible with yours. Attraction and even love isn’t enough to maintain happiness in a relationship.*

[DanaShemeshPro]

True! But it’s only work when both sides have self-awareness and willing to make a change!

[skateness]

She quietly whispered “mental health” to get him back on track while still nodding in agreement. That’s love ❤️

[bmay]

Communication. That's it. That's the only thing everyone needs to do to have good/great relationships, assuming you have a certain level of compatibility of course. My wife and I have the best relationship there is and much of that has to do with the fact that we tell each other EVERYTHING. We never ever lie (not even about tiny things), we never fight (not the same as never arguing), and we have a rule that we always assume the other is acting out of helpfulness and love. It is utterly impossible to have a good relationship of any real depth without communicating well. Communication requires vulnerability, which I think is a big reason why many people aren't great at it.

[Sunshine-Moon]

My husband and I have been together 14 years. I'm always willing to hear and learn new things on becoming a better wife.

[sushmakumari]

“You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that got you there”
❤️❤️

[joannegoodman]

I am a highly spiritual women. I am now 28months a widow after 35 yrs together. As I reflect on our time together the most significant action I took when ever we were in trouble over my head, was prayer. Asking for the higher power to help. It worked like magic.
There is a power greater than ourselves. Compassionate, merciful and wise. One need not be religious to call on this remarkable awesome force for intervention.💗💕🙏

[ewilliams]

I did not know healthy relationships were a benefit to public health. I like this video. It’s very important.

[annaadamsful]

Intentional Relationship Habit
1. Be curious, not critical (invest in the time to consider the different thinking ability)
2. Be careful, not crushing. (learn how to work together, honor, respect vs react)
3. Ask vs assume (communication we respect)
4. Connect before you correct (be deliberate to find a meaningful moment in the relationship)

[sara_b]

1. Be curious, not critical
2. Be careful, not crushing
3. Ask, don’t assume
4. Connect, before you correct

You’re welcome! (The speech is great nonetheless)