How to validate yourself

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shot by John Lee

grip - Melissa Gasca

sound - Jason Mobley

edited by Ben Chinapen

edited by Timothy Hautekiet

gfx by Bethany Radloff

[lancifur]

Honestly, sometimes it’s okay to be a bit delulu and just believe you’re the hottest being on the planet, at least internally. It really does wonders with consistent self validation and self esteem. (Don’t take it too far and become a narcissist)

[windmiko]

Internal validation is hard when you have anxiety. Glad she said it's the first line of defense but you can still call a friend 👍

[traveler-a]

That hit all the right spots for those who have/need therapy

[Bia-starlight]

Giiirl, this was so me. I would automatically ask my friends to validate my feelings and if they say some things differently, I would definitely get the 'feeling' from their opinions and not from my very own analysis of what happened to me. Realizing this months ago, I decided to put myself first, and work on my growth. I've also watched an episode from Modern Family and Claire Dunphy told Alex, her daughter, that "Validation comes from within." That really hit me hard.

[trinaq]

"What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others."
Confucius

[neranderthal]

“In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act” - quote I saw somewhere.

[candicefaithv]

it's the way her note-to-self swoons at her highest self 🥺

[IgnitedQuils]

Yeah I think validation from others isn’t supposed to be in place on self validation, as it means being a people pleaser.

But I do think self validation can come so far, especially when trying to achieve something, hence why encouragement from others is just as valuable. Hence Iroh’s quote from Avatar. “While it is best to believe in oneself, a little help from others can be a great blessing.”

[rebeccaly]

This is so good. I have a tendency to ask others about how they think about situations instead of asking myself because I don’t always feel that my feelings are valid enough. Thanks for this 🥺

[mollusckscramp]

I am absolutely shook to learn that Anna is 5' tall. I was under the impression this entire time that she had the classic Amazoness stature to go with her warrior-like presence and strong moral backbone ❤

[veganronswanson]

I love the sitcom vibe of your space. Did not realise until now how many overhead lights you need to get that vibe

[greybun]

I love how it is the higher self that tells us it's the other persons issues that the date went wrong and not Anna. Not that we don't need to self reflect, but sometimes things went wrong because of things we can’t control, and it's ok to not place the blame on ourselves. This is very important especially when we encounter toxic people. You simply can't change their stripes.

[candicefaithv]

Anna is truly a storyteller 🥰 love seeing her do what she loves

[YellowRampardos]

Anna your videos on mental health have been absolutely helpful to me over the years. I really appreciate you making these videos to help myself and others

[berryusagii]

I knew this and I needed to hear it to realize it. Anna, you’re a godsend (as usual) 💛

[andrea.dandelion]

2:13 totally getting called out! Love the 4th wall break there, Anna 😁

[wasabi.]

Is very complicated to started validating yourself when you have doing the opposite for so long. I'll validate myself even when i don't believe it internally, however is reassuring because im not seeing myself from a despersonalize or dissociative perspective, but from the raw me talking to myself one which is the powerful one.

[AnthonyStJames-ynnr]

this reminds of that scene in Pirates of the Caribbean where Captain Jack is talking to himself in Davy Jones' locker. Sometimes, holding a mental council within yourself feels better than asking your inner circle what they think of a situation. Of course, the opinions and insights of other people help, but you're the one who has to act. Love your vids Anna, you always validate us.

[villanas]

Even though the videos are shorter, this format is incredible. Thank you so much ❤

[zofiabochenska]

I did the same thing with clothes! I struggle with decision making, and I realised I'm asking my roommate all the time, if I look good in an outfit. And decided to actively fight that impulse, to wear whatever I feel like, so that little decision-making, gut-trusting muscle would get better in general.