How To STOP Seeking External Validation

Are you constantly seeking external validation? Do you find yourself craving approval from others to feel worthy? In this video, we'll explore how to stop seeking external validation and start finding your true sense of self-worth from within. Discover powerful self-worth tips that will teach you how to validate yourself and become more secure in who you are.

Learn how to be more confident and stop caring what people think. By the end of this video, you'll have practical strategies to help you break free from the cycle of seeking validation and embrace your authentic self. Join us on this journey to self-discovery and learn how to stop seeking external validation once and for all.

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Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel Miles
Animator: Maggie Wehler
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Remember, your self-worth is inherent and doesn't depend on external approval. Here are some tips to get you started: Focus on your values and goals. What truly matters to you?
Celebrate your accomplishments, big and small. Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself, even when you make mistakes. This journey is all about building your inner strength. Comment below on other tips to help others out as well!

[jadassolitude]

Validation from others is vain.
One day they love you the next they don’t.

I love this video because it’s the perfect reminder to recognize ourselves and be aware of the beauty we hold inside and out.💗🥰

[casey_fae]

The timing for this video literally couldn’t be more perfect😭

[vinnzouiyt]

0:51 Recognize the cycle
1:28 Practice self-appreciation
1:55 Try rejection therapy
2:40 Set personal goals
3:25 Listen to your intuition
4:04 Use self-care to self-validate

[chadbrown]

To quote -- well, actually paraphrase a line I once heard in a movie I recently had the opportunity to see: "You can spend your whole life trying to win the acceptance of others, but at the end of the day, you just gotta do it for yourself."

[phillipminer]

The first point — recognizing the cycle — really struck a chord with me. When it comes to social media, I’ve now recognized that it’s people’s takes on social justice issues and similar that triggers that need for external validation from me. I want to be seen as a good person. But the need for external validation makes me say and do things that aren’t appropriate, and certainly aren’t helpful.

I want to be a good person, and it keeps feeling like others have to confirm that I’m a good person for me to believe it too. And… I don’t know if that’s healthy.

[siennaprice]

Lately, instead of validation, I’ve been finding myself seeking shame, judgment, and criticism. Because I feel like that’s what I need. But then again, what I really want in life, is to accept myself for who I am. As someone who is totally blind, autistic, and has complex PTSD, yes, I do things way differently than normal people do. I touch and explore everything. I feel emotions a little bit more intensely than others. I express myself through body movement, through saying silly things, as a way to communicate that I’m happy, and that I’m in a good mood, and other things. That’s me!

[Melomeda]

I’m always seeking approval for others, because I’m always worried I’m not good enough and so I have to check with them to make sure it’s okay. I haven’t watched it just yet but I’m going to and hopefully it’ll help me stop being so clingy/self judge mental or whatever to myself.

[damnablethief]

Fk what people think, be yourself wholeheartedly. If they have a problem, it is probably their problem...don't let it be yours. Peace.

[YouALLStop]

Pretty difficult to do this when people want to rip me apart constantly. It's been this way for about a decade.

Now that I am with real friends, it's difficult to accept their love. I feel like I am weak for not toughing it out. I still feel upset that I don't have anyone super close. I am much closer to some people than before, and I am grateful for that, but I still feel like I'm just some leech. This is especially prevalent when I get gifts. I hate it. I hate how I get gifts but then I know I can't do much to return the favor.

[miaesteves]

I love all the cute lil references like Brock from Pokémon and Miku with Teto from the new music video!! Really needed this video though so thank you :)

[bizarrebatcat]

This is something I struggle with everyday ..So this will really help me! Thanks!

[Quack]

Recognize the Cycle 0:50

Try Rejection Therapy 1:55

Set Personal Goals 2:41

Listen to your intuition 3:24

Use Self-Care to Self-Validate 4:04

[RyanNerdyGamer]

I may not yet have fully realised it at the time of this post, but the day I stopped using others’ opinions of me as the base template for who I should be is one of the most important days in my healing journey.

Because that is the day this once-broken, bodily-shamed baby bird chose to stop giving away his personal power willy-nilly, subconsciously assuming the mantle of “The Real Me, ” in the process.

And now, this brave bird-boy is ready to ride those thermals above and beyond every false perception, misnomer, and exaggeration as “The Real Me.”

[simulation]

The analogy of Brock for rejecrion therapy is actually incredible

[theinvisibleman]

I think when you grow up insecure, you're always trying to be a people-pleaser to build that confidence in yourself by seeking the gratification of others.

[dahlrjay]

I don't know who this guy is... But his voice is perfect~

Also, the vibes for this video are perfect. Thank you!

[Safe_Place_MentalHeath]

Just what I needed! Thanks for the tips on how to stop seeking external validation and finally become my own biggest fan

[stick-itproductions.]

Switching the dude to Brock for the rejection therapy example was hilarious, but also perfect. I aspire to have Brock's confidence, and self assuredness.

[RyoukenNoJeiku]

This is what helped give me some more confidence, through journaling which my psychiatrist sister recommended, I found most of my motivation was external. After setting boundaries with my parents and others, which was difficult — bc they weren't used to that and I kinda suck at it — and finding what motivated me internally and why, this resulted in a general confidence boost. It may be more situational, but this idea and reframe is what helped me the most with insecurity. Love this video 😊