Self Identity & Self-Esteem — Real Therapist Explains!

Real therapist Georgia Dow explains why self-identity is so important to your levels of anxiety, self-esteem, and your outlook on life. Plus ways to accurately describe your self-identity so you can lead a happier, lower-stress life!

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[ratanasorn]

Self-fulfilling Prophecy

When a person is labeled as something by being told again and again and again, by others or their own self, the label will get instilled and the person will grow into that exact label. Even if s/he is not even that to begin with.

This is important for educators when we want to produce positively-trait students.

[BurtoV]

I want to say thank you. My wife had a panic attack recently and she has been watching your videos to help her with her anxiety. I really appreciate that your videos helped her understand she wasn't having a heart attack. She identified with them so much. Thank you for everything you do

[robertamirtha]

I was taking a walk today near my residence and I noticed there were a couple of pigeons on the street and a bunch of litter, including two bags of bread pieces and some other empty bags and containers in the middle of the street. Even though it wasn't a busy street with a lot of cars, I was still concerned about the pigeons being on the street, seemingly lured by the litter. So I went and picked up the litter and threw them into nearby trash can and then also moved the two bags that had bread in it onto the sidewalk. 3 positive character traits: 1) I'm considerate and helpful; 2) I have initiative, don't need someone to tell me what needs to be done, 3) I'm intelligent, quickly found a solution to a problem and fixed it. I wouldn't have thought twice about it (yes, I ought to give myself more credit), but this exercise 2:45 enabled me to see what I'd normally take for granted.

[mrcupcake]

My boyfriend introduced me to you a few months ago and let me tell you THANK YOU! Everything you talk about has really helped me make sense of what is going on in my head, I even recommended my therapist watch you so she could recommend your channel to her other clients! :)

[alfonczarnowski]

I really need to figure out who I am. I tend to just adopt the personality of any given person that I like at the moment, I start to put a ton of effort into making the choices that I think they would make. Even down to the music I listen to and how I carry myself.

[jazzyjswift]

This is also the reason why good role models are so vital to a healthy society, being able to see someone's example and emulate the traits you want to embody is the fastest way to develop new traits. And because you're learning by watching and then doing yourself, it will naturally have your own personal flair on whatever trait you are picking up. Making it a truly unique aspect of who you are.

The problem is that we don't really have good role models on the public scenes, and society has structured itself to rip apart parents and children through various things.

[JustVaughn.]

Georgia, what a diamond in the rough of the internet! I enjoyed your WandaVision and Falcon/ Winter Soldier videos, but I have been avoiding watching your videos because I knew they would hit differently, deeply. And I am ready to listen to you to help myself. Thank you, yes, thank you!

[nimmot]

Having been through CBT over the last year, and still on the meds this is the sort of thing that helped me the most, everyone should try it even if they don’t believe themselves to have issues as a preventative measure.

[danbonokoski]

I feel really dumb asking this.... But i missed something.
1. Daily write down something you are proud of you did.
2. Find a list of characters traits.
3. Pick 3 traits. Is this daily? Or 3 you want to enforce. 3 you want to be? 3 you identify with?
4. Keep a tally. Is this if step 1 aligns with step 3. Or step 1 is stand alone. Are you tallying actions related to the traits. Tallying examples or actions through out the day.

This excersises does sound hard. I have been trying to work on establishing a better identity. An other help or suggestions would be appreciated.

[azadi]

Hey Georgia. I really want to say thank you. You probably saved my life.
<3

[BeelzeKid]

i think i found my favorite episode ... ill rewatch this one manny times XD

[amyli]

Honestly, this video is something I should probably keep tabs on because my identity, especially in a professional environment, is something that I've struggled with off and on since the start of this year. It's not easy for me to deal with criticism, especially if it's said repeatedly and I continue to get angry over it. I also feel as if this plays into my mental health issues sometimes because whenever I think about a situation for too long, it starts to affect me in more ways than one. Thank you for this video, Georgia <3

[PinkYellowGreen]

There are truly people that have a hard time forming healthy relationships because they take on the identity of the people they are around or know. You become them literally and they operate like your actions should be the same as theirs. Anything you do as an individual is imitated and mocked OR CHALLENGED. It's proof that identifying with yourself is a sign of mental health. You are no one but YOURSELF, 24/7.

[windblade]

Am 18 and am 5.3 and Am very flexible and passion about comics and cartoon shows and characters and some people think that I'm crazy but I take it more as a compliment because I'm very Fierce and stubborn and kind to others and I love hanging out with my friends and family but I sometimes stutter when I'm nervous and I have a temper sometimes but I know how to control it and I love martial arts and I sometimes have a hard time saying what's on my mind and expressing myself fully to my friends and sometimes my family so yeah..😀😁😀😀

[jcnorn]

I love this video, but I also hate it. Because I don't deserve to be good to myself, but I also know that I should be. I've started doing these lists, but I always end up stopping after a day or two, because it's too hard to continue.

[heitormb]

I’m the antihero type, imperfectly perfect

[TravelingPhilosopher]

I just found your channel! Subscribed and going to watch your videos now! :)

[artfromtheheart]

Ouch
Followed by
Ooft...

I certainly need to invest in this area because it is hard as heck

[potapotapotapotapotapota]

How do I know what's true? How do I know who to trust?

[DAClub-ufbr]

There is nothing i am doing now that i am proud of.