7 Signs Of Avoidant Attachment Style

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[seth_piano]

The "bids for connection" concept is HUGE. Understanding this has transformed how I interact with others a lot. Everybody has a slightly different way in which they bid for connection, and when it's not the same as mine, I have a better understanding of how to interact with them. They're not being annoying or controlling or needy or clingy, etc. etc. but they're vying for attention. It's nice to have a term for it :)

[CCMay_]

Avoidant attachment stems from codependency. When you dive deep into that, you’ll begin to understand more about yourself and others♥️

[ventsiboy]

Thank you for the informative content on attachment problems from male's perspective.

I want to see is more men speak about what healthy, secure or healed attachment is like.

I find it difficult to paint this image in my mind by only imagining the opposites of the negative aspects of unhealthy attachments.

Thank you for you work 🙏

[edithamaliaioo]

Yet the DAs are very unlikely to be seeking solutions, often times they are not aware of their contribution to lack of emotional connection

[juniorcorrado]

My neighbour who turned me redpil has 3-4-5-6-7. Super sweet girl but has been single for 19 years. SHe turned me redpil, my greatest joy but allso the greatest lesson in life. I was lost before her and today she is someone I used to know.

[Ikaros]

1: if your partner is Avoidant= go no contact. These people most often never change. Many are narcissistic and have NPD. These are also abuseiv, neglectfull.

Also seek a therapist. Many people seek out avoidants because they think ( wrongly), that their withdrawls of affection/emotion and their hyper independence is a sign of confidence. It’s not. They are copeing from anxiety. And the partner can’t « fix» them, or « love them into health». The avoidant need therapy, not love. And most often the partner also need therapy.

2: If you are avoidant. Seek a therapist, who are educated in attachement styles. There is hope for you if you have the insight to see your own anxiety and toxic traits.

Also look to stoicism. This will help on the anxiety. And accept life as it is. Humans are imperfect, you are imperfect. This is ok

[JustMeAndMyBoy]

@ManTalks my avoidant has lots of friends. I’ve never seen anyone with so many parties to attend. Do friends of avoidants know that they’re avoidant? ?

[michalis]

ok now tell me how to cure myself from being avoidant. don't just expose me like that

[Mako-L]

Okay I am not dismissive avoidant, I think I am fearful.. but honestly can you make a video to distinguish the two? Both have trust issues right? I really find it hard to trust men, always think my boyfriend is cheating if he doesn’t text for two days.. 🙉 then my brain just want me to do shit that damage the relationship such as cheating, so cheating is more like protection mechanism for me, I cheat on you first so if you cheat, I won’t feel so hurtful.. kind of logic

[JustMeAndMyBoy]

@ManTalks do some avoidants pursue only a particular selfish s€x act, as it is more emotion-free? I’m hoping it’s not a result of prior s€xual abuse. 😢

[Darkhalo]

I think I might have avoidant attachment...

[didafm]

Why are tou onky talkifn about this in the context of romantic relationships when 66% of young men are single????