Gaslighted by your therapist

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[gailjordan]

During my first marriage, about three years in, we went to couples counseling. When we walked in the office, I thought, “oh, I am in for it” because the therapist seemed like such a good ‘ole boy. For two or three sessions, my husband charmed him. My husband loved him. Then, for the third or fourth session, the therapist put my husband on the hot seat, as I had been the first few sessions. He practically cross-examined him, and told him, in my presence, everything that he was doing. My husband was completely called out! When we left, he said we would never go back.
But what that session did for me was amazing! I realized that I was not going crazy, and this man I married was not a whole person. I started planning my escape. Years later, I realized that the therapists strategy was to help me out in exactly that way, and he knew he would only have one shot at it. I am very grateful.

[thePribs]

I got gaslighted by around 4 therapists after which I found the one with whom i could discuss my experiences safely. I still get angry thinking about those times from time to time.

[MJ-mysg]

This is why many of us stopped going to worthless therapists. Thank God for you!

[michellevelasco]

"Your reality belongs to you!....People who cannot properly hold space for you, are not good for you." Powerful words, sound advice! Thank you Dr.Ramani

[DFlemming]

My therapist starting shouting at me, I just got up and walked out. I've never gone to see another therapist since. That was 3 years ago.

[Askalott]

I've been gaslit by the vast majority of healthcare professionals, including mental healthcare professionals. It can leave you feeling so alone. I now just work on my issues independently with the help of books and videos because I can never find someone in real life who actually gets it. Sad, but I'm becoming extremely self-sufficient.

[NataliaScarpin]

Once I had a crying attack during my therapy session because I felt so attacked by my therapist. I couldn't stop, I still remember it. It was traumatic

[fairdose]

I was seeing a therapist who specialized in EMDR therapy for a while for CPTSD from narcissistic abuse and other trauma from childhood. For the first 6 months, it was fine but then he started to become manipulative and bullying and would talk up the hour and give absolutely no helpful guidelines or anything. TA DAA! When I saw the usual patterns, it was obvious that he was a narcissist himself! I promptly gave him the boot and started working with another therapist.

[jnagarya]

"You're too sensitive!"

"You're not sensitive enough."

[spacepony]

We are conditioned to accept gaslighting as children. Some of us more than others, but so much of it is normalised. “Put your coat on, it’s cold.”

[wolfgangk]

I'm a therapist... and you nailed it. I leave it at that.

[belle]

The greatest irony is that narcissists reccomend therapy for all those around them; they never need therapy! Then they will convince the therapist how mad you are!

[freepirit]

None of the therapists I saw with the narc were able to see the truth of their behaviour, they were so good at the manipulation. I gave them all up... the therapists and the narc. I know what I experienced I don't care what anyone says.

[Fiveandime]

Thank you for this. I actually left a therapist when I asked her "do you know what gaslighting is?" And, her response was "what's that?"

[qtleihi]

Tribal gaslighting goes on A LOT within the NHS (National Health Service) here in the UK. The Mental Health System is absolutely broken, with so many so-called 'expert trauma therapists' behaving so eerily like our past narcissistic abusers with an overwhelming majority of narcissistic abuse survivors walking out with a 'Personality Disorder' label rather than with C-PTSD and validation and support. I wish that more therapists were like you Dr Ramani xx

[becoming_real]

I once met a therapist that gaslighted me into thinking my culture(Asian) made no sense, I had to get another therapy about how misunderstood I felt.

[ghuyakalika]

My therapist told me I am just not giving the narcissist enough attention.
But that was just the start of the gaslighting. If only I watched your videos back then Dr Ramani! ❤

[jimhallissey]

My therapist said to me that not many people are perfect but she was. I brought up a few things that was happening. She went into a rage

[judysangregorio]

I thank you for mentioning the term “Tribal Gaslighting”. This is EXACTLY what happened to me as a Stepmom. As if being in that unfortunate role wasn’t ultimately bad enough, my husband and I went to a therapist, and she offered NO MORE gaslighting. No validation, nothing. So many therapists are pathetic, self centered and unqualified. Especially when they themselves have been divorced.

[Sarablueunicorn]

Therapists and their superiority, believing that having a degree gives them the power to read minds.
Be extremely careful with the people in this profession. Many of them can cause you more harm than help.