Narcissists see everyone around them as competition not partners #narcissist

[RKX_Errant]

Narcissists are the most draining people to be around. Even if you are not interacting with them. Something within puts you on alert whether or not you intuit it, it is there. One gets a very low grade cautionary warning, although you may not sense where it is coming from.

[jacquelinefroehle]

Yes, it's draining to be around them. Just to rest and relax around them is not possible.

[aerofart]

We should all form an anti-narcissist support group and team up to chase these monsters out of our lives.

[rupaliparikh]

Correct! She has predatory, score-keeping approach towards me. Her daily life is spent fighting off potential threats to her ego and proving superior to me and people around irrespective of her capacity or capabilities. The competition is for petty things like cooking, clothes, looks etc...and you feel it...! It's so disgusting...and if I won't praise her then I am worthy of some kind of punishment..!

[daska]

That's true... even though he needed my help with everything, about designing changes in the house, buying clothes, and help abroad with speeches, I was still stupid. I had a lot of things in my life, I was everywhere, but about that he preferred to be silent. Only him and his.

[basque]

Thank you so much for all you do. I'm in between waiting for housing and staying here with this sadistic person for a few more months. He's aware that I'm leaving. We went somewhere for four days and I had a breakdown on one night. Now I'm numb inside, can't feel much. Something died in me that night and so he's been thrown off by not being able to make me think that I'm crazy. I'm concentrating on me only and I know soon I'll be out of here. It all makes so much sense and why my health was so bad. Sometimes I try and look back over the last nineteen years and I do see where the red flags were, but I already had Lyme Disease and everything felt like it was such an effort and with brain fog, I was easy supply. Man I'm looking forward to my new life. Happy New Year!

[sassi]

And they only "like" people who they see as beneath them.

[daska]

I have to write once, after such a long suffering, that it's quite, it seemed impossible to me that people treat their partner so inhumanly, coldly and calculatingly. Now I'm finally out of his influence. Things have settled in my head. I'm glad, that I don't feel hatred, that my beloved leaves me cold. No feelings and regrets, that's gone. I'm free. Everything is fresh and I don't trust anyone. I hope that my innate trustworthiness will return one day.

[deeboolove]

Yes . THANKYOU… I am healing after the online abuse and now I have an in-home abusive situation that’s been going on for 35 years I’m learning to keep my mouth shut when despicable behavior happens and not try to explain why I’m right and they’re wrong then the war just escalates but I appreciate so much your understanding and validation about this abuse…

[andersdottir]

I called a narcissistic relative out on her ‘competitiveness’, she didn’t like that.
Every time she does it - I call her out on it; it’s ridiculous what she gets competitive over.

[aerofart]

I stopped making any plans with my narc. She always ruins even the best laid out plans, is highly disagreeable, competitive, untrusting, thin-skinned, deceitful, vindictive, hateful, abusive, shallow, narrow-minded, inconsiderate, spiteful and dangerous. There’s more, but I think you get the idea.

[sheraalanaRev]

I always felt he was jealous of me, it was so weird

[gjb]

I don't know whether it was jealousy or competition my boyfriend knows that I've one more group of CMA to qualify. But he occupied all my time that I couldn't devote my time for studies or my own health and well being. But I didn't complain to him. But now I regret that had I put in my effort in studies I would have been less depressed. I loved him but he kept on making me justify and clarify that I love him till he got satisfied

[lucillekluivert]

I GOT MYSELF TO BE NARC FREE SO I QUIT MY JOB TO DO IT GODS WAY BECAUSE THESE NARCS NEVER CHANGE

[danajaye]

Always a negative comment- never at a loss for a bad word. Never happy with what you do for them. I tried to view it as playful negativity but it must be that they were treated like garbage themselves as small children and this is what they compulsively repeat as adults. Projecting their inner turmoil on to us. Resenting - actually hating- that we can be happy anyway and find joy in small things even things that are not perfect. It is tragic. What a loss of what could have been.

[mscarolc]

I called it Clean up on Aisle 3 after she insisted she knew she was always right. When she screwed up I had to clean up the mess. Hence my calling it Clean up on Aisle 3

[morlaisward]

The narc, eventually and effectively 'killed'/caused the death of my darling brother, no lie!! Following my going NC, she had no other way left to hurt and destroy me, but to take away the only loving member of my entire family, trying to rob me of my precious connection, ever!! It's just not safe anymore. Take care, lovelies, these folk will stop at nothing, to harm you, for your mutiny and audacious insubordination!

[melissapontes]

Back story, husband is facing felony charges for domestic violence and for doing so in front of my kids.

He texted me telling me he wants me but if i want him to want me, i need to drop the charges. Otherwise he will never talk to me again....am i pn his team or not....i told him I'd pray for him and blocked him. He called twice the next day....he is crazy