the one habit you need: how to set systems (vs goals) ft. tidy with me

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📆 What's on the agenda today?
➖ Quick refresher on systems vs goals
➖ 4 steps to creating your system
① Identify your why
② Define you how
③ Execute your what
④ Assess & adjust
➖ How I'm using these 4 steps to create my system of keeping my space tidy & organized

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[tubbysza]

- 0:19 Choose systems rather than goals.
- 0:40 A goal is a specific objective you achieve or not sometime in future. What is waiting to be achieved someday, is a goal.
- 0:45 A system is what is done on a regular basis that achieves odds of overall happiness in long run. What is done everyday, is a system.
- 1:00 A goal is a result to achieve, a system is the process that brings those results. System is the practice, while goal is performance.

- There are 4 steps to change outputs by changing systems of inputs (each step is numbered in order).
1) 2:09 Identify the why. Reflect on where you are and where like to be. To learn this, a great framework to try is current state vs desired state gap analysis.

2:44 1st in this analysis, find where you are currently in situation, answer questions like "how am I feeling?", "how do I spend time?", and "what is currently driving me?".

3:13 2nd in this analysis, find where you are desired to be in situation, answer questions like "how would I like to be living in an ideal world?", "why do I have this desired state?", and "is my desired state rooted in my values?".

3:48 3rd in this analysis, looking into the gap in between by answering questions like "why does the gap exist?", "why close it?". Also set up systems for your desired state, what makes the desired state work.
2) 6:04 Identify the how. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state. You might try a system to help you get there (the video doesn't provide much more info).
3) 6:57 Execute the what. Learn the process to get from current state to desired state but much more detailed. What actionable steps, where make adjustments, and what small incremental changes can you commit to.
4) 8:03 Assess and adjust. Take a step back and make adjustments to the system. Celebrate small wins. Build systems that best suit you.

8:53 If you desired to build deeper relationships with friends, build a system. Leave phone out of sight during meals, listen during conversations, and ask deep meaningful questions.

Likes are appreciated so more people can read this.

[Tj-qbsf]

GIRL, Im gonna go take a shower, then come back and rewatch this and take notes. IM GETTIN MY LIFE BACK TOGETHER❤️

[AriellChristiain]

Your first video on this literally changed my life. I know people say that loosely but I mean it. I saw the first systems, essential, etc video. I watched it 3 times. Then listened to it REPEATEDLY for three days straight. I went out and bought atomic habits and essentialism. And read a section a day. It has truly been a blessing. Also as I move about I consistently mumble “two minute rule” when I try to push off doing an easy task haha my room has STAYED CLEAN! With depression/anxiety keeping a clean room is an accomplishment worth crying over. Either way I am grateful for you.

I am always self reflecting/taking on self development. Your video(s) help me pair my self reflection with ACTION.

Thank you!!!

[meganeff]

My boyfriend and I always say “no way of knowing” when one of us asks a question, which means that we don’t Google it until we decide on an answer ourselves & give a reason for our answer. It’s just something silly we do, but it’s so fun!

[pumpkinwaffles]

Yesterday i realised that I need to change my evening routine and go to bed earlier in order to make my morning more productive and finally stop being late everywhere
And it feels like you read my mind
tysm💜

[sakumarie]

Heyy, do you like to start a podcast? Cause your topics are so interesting omg. And how about writing a book? You are very inspiring

[name.]

Honestly if you’d write books they’d be the only books I’d buy from a youtuber and I’d buy all of them I’ve learned so much from you

[joshshortt]

I've been taking James Clear's advice and writing down my intended actions, and the time and place in which I will perform them. It seems to be working so far. One thing I've noticed that's crucial for an effective system is to focus on one thing (which Rowena mentions a lot). The moment I give attention to other things time flies and before I know it I've made no progress on what I really want to do. Focusing on one thing is like dancer pose in yoga. In order to maintain your balance in dancer pose, you have to pick one spot on the floor and stare at it, if you look away you lose your balance.


EDIT: I want to be 100% honest with everyone here and say that LITERALLY the day after I left the above comment I TOTALLY failed to follow through on the intention I had written down for that day.

[Lysana]

*ADVICE FOR YOU, ROWENA* !!! You should have a catch-all basket when you come in for all of your skincare from work... so you don´t put the skincare all over your apartment... then all you have to do, is sort through said skincare basket at some later time... hope this helps :) XX

[millennialstray]

I know it’s your JOB but the sheer amount of products gave me anxiety ): makes me want to declutter my own beauty products

[HollywoodSunset]

Currently reading Start with Why, Atomic Habits was one of my fave books from last year and I live by the 2 min rule now and it helps so much!

[DevScript]

Being solely focused on the goal can literally ruin you life. A lot of people deny the value of building processes by creating habits done every day that lead to the end goal, and it's one of the things that I talk about in my channel a lot.

[adskinadskin]

Who else got distracted by the video and the voice over?
So many tubes of skin care 😱
I can say that I enjoyed watching the cleaning up process😅

[JJJettplane]

Whoa! You have a whole drugstore going on there. I've never seen a larger home collection then yours!

[tee]

Omg she talked about lavendaire!!! My two favourite youtubers right now. 🌸

[lafanna]

I've been feeling like a mess lately, feeling that there's so much things to do, yet there's 'nothing' to do. Sounds confusing right?😆 Overall, I'm feeling overwhelmed lately due to the transition of being a postgraduate student to a person looking her first permanent job. And I'm glad you shared with us this system, Rowena. I'm gonna try to re-evaluate my life using the system and hopefully will feel better. 💖

[MiaMore]

Rowena,
Using your video today I identified that the current me is a person who is too tired to clean on weekdays, and spends a big chunk of weekends tidying up and secretly hating my family for not helping me (they work on weekends while I'm the only one at home). What you helped me do is the following:
1) I made a list of chores, dispensed them within family members and made a schedule who does what & when.
2) Also I will change my input by doing my best to return things back to their places after I've used them.
3) I will spend 15 min in the a.m. & the p.m. on weekdays, and 30 min in the a.m. & p.m. on weekends to keep the place clean.
4) I'll create a to do list to remind myself of the things I committed to.
5) I realized I might have to get up 15 min earlier.
Thank you for your wonderful content. That's a like, a subscribe and a bell. Have a wonderful day!

[Maiden_Warrior_Crone]

I came back to watch this video. I watched it about 6 months ago and accomplished everything I wanted by following your directives. I learned open -water swimming, started a brilliant new lifestyle, and met the love of my life. I will now integrate a system to save money. I'm ever-grateful to you, not least because I love how you present information. Bless you. Love from Croatia.❤️

[patriciav.]

I’ve realized that in the previous year I was setting systems ; I was studying while taking care of myself by doing wht I really like and wht makes me feel better, but now due to the importance of my school year I’ve been watching so much vids to find the best way to get high grades and all the videos were about setting goals, this wht makes me sad I’ve transformed to a goal setter person for ‘bout 7 months, I set everyday hard goals and promise to myself to take care of my happiness after achieving them, but I’ve realized that I’ve achieved 50% of them but in a vry boring process ; I’ve never enjoyed the process of studying during those months, so I didn’t last long and at the end I gave up my health.
But now I’m so grateful to find ur channel, And I’m making progress in my self care/ studying systems ! Thank u so much for saving us, love ya ❤️💫

[demimitsioulis]

I look forward to my voice hugs every week, also i swear i forget to breathe sometimes when you mentioned it i was like oh crap have i been breathing *takes deep breath*