Why Your Habits Never Stick - Habit Quest #1

So you're trying to build good habits, but none of them stick. You try harder and use all the tips and tricks you can find, but nothing seems to work. You might want to look at the very first step in the process because most people skip this completely. Understanding this psychology will save you so much time, and you'll be on your way to building a better life in no time.

🙏 Thanks for watching!
- Mike and Matty

[nathanpiazza]

This channel is like Atomic Habits for people with no attention span to read books or listen to an audiobook 😍

[chiyungwong]

“How important it is to watch the narratives I feed my kids.” I’m a parent and I’m learning that from a non-parent! 🙃

[zillusio]

Notes to self:
- building identity-based habits (character)
- the goal is not to build top grades, but to build a character; *to build a habit of studying everyday*
- what's important is not chasing the outcome (A+ grade), but to build a better a new identity

- the goal is not to get straight A's, but to become a chracter who studies a little btit everyday; don't worry about the outcomes, focus on the transformation.

- focus on what you can control: make the right decisions everyday, and overtime, your actions will compound into habits and transform your identity.

- Feynman tehchnique to figure out the character you wanna become; helps u transform into the character u wanna become

- you must ask yourself broader questions: why get straight grades? why get a good resume? wy become a doctor? if all ur answers lead to u just chasing outcomes ('being rich, for e.g.), they are EXTRINSIC FACTORS. you need to look into INTRINSIC FACTORS more. r u curious about how the body works, do u enjoy learning medical related things? those are the intrinsic factors.

[oriantalist]

Can we take a moment to appreciate the great pixel art animations and art that went into this video. Not only are the ideas presented engaging, but the method of presentation is so creative and artistic!

[SolyaIesawari]

Okay so I tried it and here is how it goes:

-Why do I want to create the habit of improve my game art skills?
Because I want to become a game artist
-Why do I want to become a game creator?
Because I want to see people being happy while playing games I created/helped created
-Why do I want to see people happy?
Because it warms my heart so see fellow humans entertained and makes me happy!

[Im.myfuture]

Been curious as to how identity shifting can correlate to the ways in which we form new habits. This came at the perfect time!

[kirti]

you guys literally SAVED ME in so many ways. my mental health got so much better because of your videos and my study methods r PEAK because of you guys, thanks Mike and Matty!

[thoughtsbright]

Why i want a Study habits?
Ans:) To become knowledgeable
Why i want to become knowledgeable?
Ans:) external motivation

Wow just doing it now made me realize that i have no clear goal i know what i want but at the same time it is usless because i don't know WHY i want.
Thank you very much

[VivianUwakwe]

Applying this to my walk with Jesus <3

[Kymricola]

1:51 I love the fact that he said "disappointing your Asian parents" as if you could only disappoint Asian parents 😂

[grantmagno]

•Key Concepts

1. Identity-Based Habits
- Focus on becoming a person who performs the habit, not just achieving a
specific outcome.

2. Motivation Spectrum
- Extrinsic: Driven by rewards/punishments (e.g., good grades).
- Intrinsic: Driven by joy or love for the habit itself.

3. Transformation over Outcome
- Transformation of identity is key (e.g., becoming a student who studies daily).

4. Feynman Technique
- Ask "Why?" repeatedly to uncover deeper motivations and shape habits around
your core values.

•Practical Steps

1. Identify the Character
- Determine the kind of person who achieves your desired outcomes.
- Example: Instead of aiming for straight A's, aim to become a diligent student.

2. Shift Focus
- Move from outcome-based goals to identity-based habits.
- Example: Study daily as part of your identity, not just for grades.

3. Intrinsic Motivation
- Cultivate a genuine interest in the habit.
- Example: Find aspects of studying you enjoy or align it with your values.

4. Exercise: The Feynman Technique
- Write down why you want to build a habit.
- Dig deeper into each answer to understand your true motivation.

•Implementation Tips

1. Daily Actions
- Make small, consistent decisions that reinforce your desired identity.
- Example: Attend classes, put away distractions, exercise for mental clarity.

2. Positive Self-Talk
- Avoid negative self-narratives that hinder habit formation.
- Example: Replace "I'm bad at math" with "I am improving in math."

3. Iterate and Reflect
- Regularly review and adjust your habits to ensure they align with your identity.

[anthonyluu]

I’ve been on the low for a while but after watching this I suddenly have a fresh spark motivation. Thank you guys

[tawseeftaher]

build identity based habit : focus, self care, study, exercise, sleep
transform yourself internally
self positive talk internally

[ito-sanBrent]

the intrinsic motivation is the best motivation, makes you have a growth mindset
🙂 thank you for the enlightenment

[tazeking]

That questioning of "why?" and finding the purpose of why I was studying civil engineering was the sole reason why I decided to drop the degree to become a retail manager. It might sound like a bad life choice to many, but I like managing in retail because of the process, not the outcomes.

[lakshyasaharan]

This video is perfect. If you want something, then become a person who deserve that thing.

[gretakaur]

Study habit?

• top grades —> strong resume
• Strong resume —> get into police department
• Get into police department —> to become a police officer
• Become a police officer —> serve other people, help them & solve problems in teamwork (PURE LOVE & JOY)

[Console-lgger]

man this technique is so good. I only asked myself some questions about why do I want to do things and I already feel lift in spirit which is not really a motivation but an obligation to do things. love you man.

[sorryilikeyou]

How discipline solely is not the key to success but identity and character mainly constitute in being disciplined. Knowing and understanding why you do this or that is so much better to succeed than just relying on outcome rewards.

[yeahjane]

Omg this is exactly what I’ve been looking for, I love your content because you know exactly what’s the problem and how to explain it. Thank you!