The Firm Boundary: How To Make Someone Regret Embarrassing You

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We’ve all had a friend say something we don’t like.  Whether it’s a passive aggressive comment or a playful insult that goes too far, it can be tough to know how to respond.

So in this video we’re going to cover three ways to handle it when a friend crosses the line and you want to stand up for yourself without starting a fight.

We’ll start by breaking down a few examples with Jonah Hill.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:27 - #1: Fire back an insult yourself.
1:45 - #2: Draw a boundary.
5:00 - #3: Turn it into friendly banter.

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[shamicentertainment]

"do you have any other questions, that are smart" lol

[TooToo]

It always baffled me how society almost never punishes people for doing something wrong to others, as much as it punishes others for retaliating!

[terenarosa]

A person insulted me once and i laughed so hard because i genuinely thought it was funny. They got so incredibly angry that i laughed and it was so awkward. I didn't know they were feeling so much hatred. I took their insult lightly, but apparently they didn't mean it lightly. I still think about that insult and laugh though and i still get confused why that person was so angry.

[Mexicobeanpole]

I just love how our society dogs the person who sticks up for themselves instead of the original attacker/aggressor.

[MisterPol]

Most people are afraid of standing up for themselves because they fear the rejection of others. In fact, standing up for yourself is the best way to draw people to love who you are

[slide]

it takes alot of pain and self respect to answer back calmly like jonah hill after being insulted almost all your life

[wizrad]

I conquered bullying by being so oblivious that I GENUINELY thought they didn't realize they were being rude, so I shifted the conversation to something else so they wouldn't feel bad for their social faux-pas. It worked, but I only realized they meant to be rude over a decade later.

[pseud]

I love how Jonah threw that little dig in as well ... "Do you have any other questions ... that are smart?" Calmly refuses to answer, throws a little insult back about their intelligence and just looks away to ignore them completely. I love it.

[nicoleonfeels]

It’s all about respect. Respect yourself first & show respect while making your point.

[thehapagirl]

There are unfortunately some people who won’t ever like you standing up for yourself even when you do it tactfully.

[r.c]

I think the "laugh at yourself" one only works when the insult was thrown jokingly or isn’t too much disrespectful, cause if someone crosses a line, laughing along will just make you look like you have no self-respect at all.

[ChoppedLiver]

I once said to my parents, "Just because you're my parents doesn't give you the right to be mean to me." THEY LOST THEIR MINDS at my impudence.

[Hypastpist]

i never say jonah hill as the "fat guy"

i always saw him as the "funny guy"

[IsaacJoshi]

It's so important to not let people get away with little jabs and snipes.

Calm and firm.

[exxodas]

Jonah Hill is someone who conquered bullying without raising a finger. Hats off to him.

[theukyankee]

My favourite thing I say to someone who says something awful is, "Why would you say such a thing?". It turns it entirely back on the person to explain their 'joke'. Seems to work every time.

[markofsaltburn]

Never forget that if every person has value, that includes you. You have to defend yourself as well as you’d defend someone else you love.

[AageKush]

I feel so bad for the abuse Jonah Hill has to put up with. The double standard that allows for 'body shaming' fat men is bizarre.

[robertstorey]

It took me a lifetime to realise that bullies are actually quite perceptive. The last thing they want is someone to insult them back and if they think you will answer back they will leave you alone. You should always answer back any insult even if its true or you'll be walked all over.

[Kathe]

I grew up wearing a back brace, i have a lisp and wore glasses. Prime bullying material. But i was never bullied, because i never took offense. I was always the first one to acknowledge my obvious issues. It was no fun for anyone to make fun of someone who started it.