Two Reasons People Are Immature

Most of what we find frustrating and difficult in other people’s characters can be captured by the term ‘immaturity’. Whatever its manifestations, immaturity has two fundamental causes.

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[ReynaSingh]

Low self worth tends to be the common ground for most personality problems

[gokss]

People who are immature is like a quote of Plato: "we can easily forgive a child afraid of dark but when an adult is afraid of light is detrimental to our society”.

[fernandogomezdelatorre]

We may immediately think of a few people in our lives that we think are immature, but we sometimes fail to see that we also show some immature characteristics at certain times. Seeing yourself honestly is sometimes the hardest part.

[zzamora]

I hope, as a parent, I find the right balance of providing enough encouragement and trust in my little ones without being too dominant a part of their self confidence development.

[skyrobin]

It’s unfortunate that we have no control over the experiences in our childhood, but yet it shapes us forever.

[bobbykane-fearn]

Person: has a problem
School of Life: Childhood.

[VerenaSatriani]

The surrounding environment play a lot in a person's maturity.

[jesusinthehood]

Human beings are so complicated and messed up that in order to hide one's own insecurities we make others feel insecure about themselves. I hope it changes someday.

[m.offord]

When that immature person is your parent 💀

[daniellopezhernandez]

Low self worth.... the wound of humiliation in childhood, been there, and still fighting against it.. thank you very much for this video!

[camez]

I love the metaphor that the effects of a less-than-nurturing childhood are a tax that we'll have to pay through life. Very good. Not insurmountable, but always there.

[ImDavidBizar]

How to be less immature:
1. Understand the past. (What happened in your childhood that caused the immature behaviors?).
2. Share your wounds. (Talk about these behaviors and causes with others going through similar hardships).
3. Build reparative relationships. (Surround yourself with people that encourage your healthy behaviors and not the other way around).

[pyschologygeek]

the most immature people think that they're really mature. They're very good at judging others and pulling them down, but almost incapable of seeing faults in themselves. They're in denial of their own weaknesses, and are not willing to admit that they're human and less than perfect just like everyone else.

[sebastianelytron]

My wife told me I was immature and needed to grow up.




Guess who's not allowed in my tree house anymore.

[scramjet]

each sentence felt like a slap. im hypercompetitive, i feel insecure everytime someone is better than me in literally anything XD
coupled with overthinking and no action being taken, I'm in shambles.

i made big progress towards maturity through your video.
1. i have to take action and not overthink
2. i have to accept myself the way i am and not get needlessly competitve/jealous

[simplerain]

I totally understand why most school of life contents, has something to do with your childhood, now as an adult all the trauma I had experienced from my childhood still haunting me in tears every night without even thinking it. I'm still in the emotional process of accepting the past and living my best life today.

[divinedragons]

Maturity comes with problems dealing with problems. U become wise with every experience. That's a choice. To face the problem or ignore. Immature people are those who don't face their problems or fears

[lynaawcic]

"We can build connections with fellow sufferers."

[mjrussell]

Yes, a stable, non-traumatic childhood is so important for ensuring a happy, fulfilled life. The rest of us have to struggle for a sense of normalcy every single day.

[angelinasurreal]

Immaturity (as an adult) I feel is trauma that was never fully address.