4 Steps To Handling Relationships With Emotionally Immature People | Emotional Maturity Awareness

It can be hard to acknowledge, but it's a fact: not everyone develops emotional maturity with age. Relationships and interactions with emotionally immature people can be challenging, this video explains how handling them can get easier.

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00:00 Introduction
01:00 Signs Of Emotional Immaturity
01:58 Consequences Of Emotional Immaturity For Relationships
02:15 Acknowledging Emotional Immaturity
03:25 The Maturity Awareness Approach
03:49 1) Adapt Expectations
06:34 2) Goal Focus
07:00 3) Observer Perspective
08:09 4) Set Boundaries And Take Charge

❃❃❃ What To Watch Next ❃❃❃
▶ How To Interact With An Emotionally Immature Partner | Emotional Immaturity In A Relationship
▶ How To Stay Balanced When Visiting Emotionally Immature In-Laws & Family For Several Days
▶ Becoming Immune To Emotional Takeovers & Reclaiming Your Mental And Emotional Autonomy
▶ 6 Strategies For Resisting Emotional Takeovers From Emotionally Immature People In Interactions
▶ Emotional Intimacy Vs. Enmeshment: Where To Find True Connection
▶ “What If I'm The Emotionally Immature Person In A Relationship?”
▶ 6 Questions To Measure Your Emotional Health And How To Improve It
▶ Is It Offensive To Consider Some Adults To Be Emotionally Immature?

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Gibson, L. (2015). Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents. New Harbinger.

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▶ How To Interact With An Emotionally Immature Partner | Emotional Immaturity In A Relationship
▶ How To Stay Balanced When Visiting Emotionally Immature In-Laws & Family For Several Days
▶ Becoming Immune To Emotional Takeovers & Reclaiming Your Mental And Emotional Autonomy
▶ 6 Strategies For Resisting Emotional Takeovers From Emotionally Immature People In Interactions
▶ Emotional Intimacy Vs. Enmeshment: Where To Find True Connection
▶ “What If I'm The Emotionally Immature Person In A Relationship?”
▶ 6 Questions To Measure Your Emotional Health And How To Improve It
▶ Is It Offensive To Consider Some Adults To Be Emotionally Immature?

[toxicwar]

Finally a video that shows how to understand an immature person rather than to just "avoid" them. Like all the other videos. This is exactly what im looking for.

[show_me_your_kitties]

1. Stop expecting emotionally mature behavior from them.
2. Keep the goal in mind.
3. Take on the perspective of an observer.
4. Set boundaries and take charge.

[matthoffman]

After 5 years, I had to let her go. For the longest time, I thought it was me. Feels good and horrible at the same time.
This video is great. Thank you.

[MisterDense]

I was raised by emotionally immature parents, and have dated a lot of emotionally immature people in the past. For as long as I can think, the blame has always been put on me, and for so many years I internalized other people’s emotionally immature perception of me. I would have absolutely burned myself out for all of them, and I did, many times. I loved them with all of my heart and more than anything I wanted to make it work with them. My last boyfriend broke up with me and broke my heart countless times, losing him was probably one of the hardest phases of my life – and so was being with him. Looking back, breaking up is the greatest gift he ever gave to me. It took such a long time and many years in therapy to heal from all the things emotionally immature people made me believe I deserved.
I feel compassion for them, it breaks my heart that they are so stuck in their ways (in my opinion to their own detriment). But I don’t ever want to be in a situation again where an emotionally immature person has the power to hurt my heart or self-worth. Everyone deserves to feel loved and safe, including me.

[punneeth]

You solved my problem when you said “To adapt my expectations to their limitations. “

[dcarter]

I know all these things but sometimes I need the reminder that it isn’t me. Thanks for the content. My husband is emotionally immature at the present and I’m always flopping between shame (for getting myself in this marriage while seeing the signs), guilt (for being angry at things that are obvious to me but I know aren’t obvious to him), and sadness (at feelings stuck with someone making such slow emotional progress). I’m trying to be patient with him and take care of myself so I need the reminder from time to time that not having expectations is ok.

[kunalkhan]

Sometimes enough is enough, we better Ignore them completely! :)

[DebbieMathieson]

I think this is actually an incredibly common trait in many adults. Unaccountable and completely oblivious of the carnage in their wake.

[DrMaikaSteinborn]

“Engaging in a real relationship means being open and establishing emotional reciprocity. If you try this with emotionally immature people, you feel frustrated and invalidated. As soon as you start looking for emotional understanding from such people, you won’t be as balanced within yourself. It makes more sense to save your relationship aspirations for people who can give something back.” (Lindsay C. Gibson)

[lauren__vaz]

Thank you for this video. For the first time recently I confronted my emotionally immature mother for speaking to me and my brother disrespectfully- ordering us around. I asked her why she was rude and unkind, trying to understand why she was angry in the first place. Of course she was full of rage, cursed me out, and hung up the phone.

Normally I would shut my mouth and do what she says- but I am the point now where I do not care if we have a future together because I am at peace when she is not in my life. I have nothing to lose. And it was the first time as an adult I called her out on her negative behavior. I created a boundary that I do not deserve to be spoken to this way and will not accept it any further. I know they say to pick and choose your battles, but it actually feels good to speak up the truth even though I accept she will never acknowledge what I said to her. It doesn't matter in the end, but my peace and my self respect DOES matter to myself.

[zachscully]

Perfect reminder to keep raising standards of acceptable behavior for intimates in one's life, and to reduce expectations to a realistic level for the rest.

[ziinuka]

I'm currently dealing with a friend/colleague who is emotionaly immature, he's been a really important friend but the second I confronted him with something he'd done that had hurt me, he shut down on me completely. I've reached out to say I'd like to talk but we've gone from texting almost daily to absolutely no contact in over a month. It's devastating.

[angelicarcturianmessagesan]

I just ended the relationship with an emotionally immature person and i can already feel my peace returning.
I just cannot deal with the constant dissatisfaction of never getting my emotional needs met and always feeling unsafe.
He was also a cheater and a liar.
Nope. 👎

[virginiagwen]

It's particularly painful if you are the child who's been wanting to have an real connection with their parents for their whole life...
Guess I know what to talk about in therapy next session. What are boundaries, how to set boundaries, how to find my sense of self, etc.

[QueenAmethyst]

I was so relieved to find this video. I recently blew up in anger at someone who fits this profile but i blamed myself all those years. It was impossible to have a conversation beyond what he had eaten or was planning to eat. Would watch the news religiously but have no empathy or distress about horrible events, immediately planning his next meal or checking the weather. Not a spiritual bone in his body.Every conversation was like ground hog day. I could feel the veil between us but despite my efforts to break through it never happened. Eventually i erupted in anger and all the years of hurt, disappointment and yes rage surfaced. He will not forgive as would never have the insight to think, yes i can see my part in this. I am now trying to deal with the guilt at my loss of control. It was years in the making. It doesn't feel great at all. The signs were all there but i couldn't read them back then. Too needy myself and projecting qualities & hope onto this person! In time i pray to let it go. Thanks for the enlightenment 😊 This is my confession.

[beatriceanobah]

hey Maika this video was INCREDIBLE. There are lots of videos about narcissism and so few about this insidious offshoot, the emotionally immature adult.

I'll be sure to
(1) Adapt expectations - stop hoping they'll when I do something they don't like
(2) Goal focus - make sure every interaction has a purpose behind it. And otherwise avoid. Often my purpose has been to avoid the emotionally immature person's further upset, but then I get caught in trying to placate them.
(3) Observer perspective - yes! Keep distance! and
(4) Set boundaries and take charge.

Lately I've been doing the last two especially. When I ask myself what I'm getting from the relationship, I find it's nothing at all. I've felt sorry for them for many years, and that's why I've interacted with them. But lately I've noticed that they are actually unappreciative and overbearing to the point that it's insulting. Since I've stopped engaging with this individual, I've found myself ALOT happier; and their negativity has stopped fuelling my own negative internal dialogue. I'm so much kinder to myself, because I'm not trying to cover myself in order to placate the emotionally mature person and I'm not tolerating their negativity.

I must say I also appreciate that you don't use emotive language, or speak in such a way that viewers feel dependent on your videos. I aways come away feeling happy, empowered and freer when I watch your content.

[teresavalenza]

This is what I’ve been looking for, thank you so so much. My parents and most of my extended family are emotionally immature. I draw emotionally immature partners and otherwise encounter emotionally immature people all the time. It’s not helpful enough for me to just discard all those people in my life - I need to learn how to integrate the steps in this video to create a better environment and experience for myself in this life. Thanks again! ❤🙏

[OceanFoam]

thank you for making this content!! this is my mom to a T. Peeling back the layers of my family's dysfunction has been an EXPERIENCE lol.

[TrebizondMusic-cmfp]

Detaching and withdrawing are very useful. Also adjusting the expectations of what this relationship ought to provide.
Emotional maturity/immaturity can't be an on/off switch: I think there have to be gradations of it. Some people who lack emotional maturity still have the idea that they want and deserve deep emotional connection, even if they don't know how to do it reciprocally and respectfully. Detaching and withdrawing from such people is challenging, because they can tell, and they get offended so very easily. I think it's possible to build up a repertoire of safe topics for conversation as well as techniques of listening and asking neutral, clarifying questions. In this way you can have some good conversations while still protecting your own heart.