How to Help Someone who has ADHD

Hello hearts who love ADHD brains! This week's video is all about YOU – we know how frustrating life with us can be, and this video has a bunch of helpful tips for loving and living with an ADHD brain! By the end of this video you should have a better understanding of ADHD and how to help someone who has it. Thank you for your patience, from the bottoms of our hearts!

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[donpauldtrm]

Clearly a lot of effort has gone into these videos to impact people with ADHD, short clips, camera changes, exaggerated facial expressions, funny side notes, all to keep the viewer's attention. There's no doubt you know your stuff!

[mr.guydude]

"If we are still here, we are trying."
*That hit me like a gut punch.*

[saracole]

I have a terrible memory, and whenever I’ve tried to tell my mom she just say something along the lines of
“Oh, you’re too smart to have trouble remembering things! Someone intelligent always has good recall!”
No, no they don’t.

[BirdKeeprFarock]

I’m crying so hard. I’m holding the kitchen counter and sobbing. My family has believe dim lazy and unmotivated for years and I just never have been able to explain it well enough

[lanway]

I wish I could go back in time and show this to every employer and girlfriend I've ever had. There's no telling how many arguments and how much heartbreak I could've saved myself. But now I have a potentially awesome partner to whom I WILL show this!

[elizabethdouglasphotograph]

I <3 YOU!!! As a teacher, I'm sitting here crying, as I wish THIS had been presented to me in this format in dealing with my students. THANK YOU!!!!

[GK-nqfy]

As someone diagnosed with ADHD at the tender age of, 52, I can't tell you strongly enough how amazing your videos are. This one in particular got me teary-eyed by the end. ADHD and lack of understanding have caused a lot of destruction in my life. To myself and to others. It has destroyed relationships, destroyed careers...cost me my freedom. Cost me my family. And cost me to lose 1 and a half years of being a father to my young son.

The last several minutes of your video hit me very hard. If certain people in my life were kind enough to empathize with me, rather than seeing my behavior as premeditated and willfully hurtful, things could've turned out better for everyone involved.

Keep up the great work.
George

[museumhistory]

Another tip for chores: Suggest doing it together.
Once you both get started you might find your ADHDer is more than happy to do the rest themselves (while you stay nearby).
Companionship & teamwork = dopamine = motivation 😊

[Vyocae]

Dear Hearts--I have another one for the "Losing Stuff" section at 4:11: I would like to ask for your patience and understanding while I do an inventory check before leaving for somewhere. As someone who CONSTANTLY loses her things thanks to ADHD, it is absolutely critical that I look over my belongings each and every time I prepare to transition to a new location. Please do not rush me while I do this, or tease me about it, or otherwise try to convince me to skip it; For one, half-assing this procedure is not a good idea, and is an invitation for disaster (as I commented in another of Jessica's vids, last year I walked off the bus without taking my huge carryall purse with me). I am also already extremely self-concious about my forgetfulness and my religious dependence on organizational strategies, and drawing more attention to this routine only makes me feel more incompetent and silly. Just give me an uninterrupted minute or two to get my shit straight, and we can be off on our merry way--valuables and all.
Thanks, Hearts. :)

[Imbriananeely]

her: your reward system might work a little differently

normal people: i get to do. (insert random thing person wants to do next day) lets go to sleep so we can do that sooner

me: oooo i get to do (insert same random thing) lets stay up until it’s time to do that

[snatched.]

Don't have ADHD, don't know anyone with ADHD, I just watch because I really like your personality lmao

[ImmyYousafzai]

4:55 it brought a tear to my eyes. My wife always complained that I never tried. But she doesn't know that I had given up years ago.

[frangish]

Hyperactivity in emotion, never occurred to me

[lidette]

When I told my best friend I have ADHD, she wanted to bang my head against the wall. She meant that as a joke, but it hurt. It hurt even more when she said she didn't think I'd be mentally ill for so long. I was first diagnosed with anxiety and depression before my therapist noticed my fidgeting and spacing out during therapy. I'm doing my best to move forward without hurt or grudges, and soothe myself. I'm thankful for this community and the support you're giving me. I'm pushing through life because I know I'm not alone.

[tigerlily]

I have showed some of these videos to my husband with ADHD. We are high school sweethearts and I've seen it effect his change to adulthood in so many ways. Your videos are helping him so much. After a few videos he said you should be president. :) Thank you and I look forward to more.

[timburden]

I was diagnosed in my mid 50's after struggling all my life. I was sad at first, feeling I'd wasted my life having had lots of jobs, destroyed relationships etc. But now I'm now on a brilliant ADHD journey of discovery. The Meds are good, but your videos are awesome in helping me understand ADHD. Thank you so much!

[Hannah]

This is so helpful, especially near the last part. I tend to parent my boyfriend and I hate doing it but he doesn't take responsibility or look after himself properly so I do it in his best interest. This helps me realise not to take everything on because I will become stressed by doing everything myself and I will likely become resentful, but I see how hard he works to make sure I'm happy and he's not too bad at remembering things. He's emotionally sensitive and one drawback pulls him back down again and negatively impacts his mood. I've been researching ADHD and being with someone with it and it's helping me understand his thoughts and how he views things, as well as how to support him when he feels overwhelmed in life and emotionally. Your channel is very helpful!

[a.schluchter]

"...which is why going to bed can be such a huge challenge..."
> looks at clock
> is 3:18am
Me: ...I'm going to ignore that.

[reachelglasser]

The last part of the video made me cry. Thank you :')

[brandonfreeman]

Wow, my girl sent me this video. I never thought about having adhd but this video hits A LOT of points and issues I deal with. Imma have to go through more videos of hers.