The Problem with Modern Love

How is it we're more connected than ever, yet increasingly unsatisfied and lonely? Why is it so hard to find and maintain a loving relationship in today's modern world?
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*Non-original music used in this piece: Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata, Wagner's Wedding March (but transposed to a minor key)

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[RewiretheWest]

What do you think? How does this resonate with your lived experience?

This video is a bit outside the box of what I've made so far, but I really felt the urge to write about this topic. I attempted to create a composite of the sentiments expressed in conversations with both friends and strangers over the past couple of years.

Love and relationships are never simple, but my aim with this video is to show that ultimately, there is indeed hope and a bright future ahead for those who choose to pursue love nobly.

[LarkLaTroy]

Married now 40 years. I love my Sweetie today, more than I did yesterday. And I will love her more tomorrow than I do today. We found each other the old way, before the rise of the Internet, before apps, before smart phones. We used cards, letters, phone calls and dates. We fell in love over 2 years, and we're still in love to this day. I'm glad I married then, because I don't think I would find her now.

[xwaazes]

The idea of "Love" being transformed from a verb to a noun is very deep

[ObiWanBockobi]

Sounds like Sacramental Marriage to me. When our society divorced (pun intended) marriage from the Faith our culture began to collapse because we treated our spouses as disposable.

[viniciusvirtuoso]

Great video, I came from the chatolic subReddit, and this video definitely touched me, congratulations

[karek]

Brittany Sellner always has the best channel recommendations. Glad she recommended this. Great content!

[waynezodiac]

The vows in marriage give a clue to what true love can better or WORSE ... for richer or POORER ...in SICKNESS and in health .... before you can say your in love or even have any real conception of it, you have to ask yourself ... would you fall in love with a sick, poor person who was angry and cruel and marry that person? in logical terms, if you can take them at their worst, then you can not receive their example....you save a dog at the shelter, ...it is sick, vicious and withdrawn ... it cowers from you, snarls and snaps at you and destroys everything...but you nurture it, feed it, care for it and something inside you just won't give up on it and eventually you will no longer have the bad, but will experience the is the true depth of love, ...that spark that just won't go out...I love you means nothing in words and everything in actions, it can not be quantified or measured and merely stating it does not really define it.

[arposkraft]

you almost make me believe again... maybe just maybe... ill keep my shattered heart open for the off chance it does.. thank you for your effort

[Alexandra-zeis]

Love in the past: dating, marriage, sex
Love today: sex, dating, marriage (perhaps, then you'll probably get a divorce)

My experience as a conservative woman in my twenties is that most men give me "little brother vibes". Men seem to have forgotten how to respect themselves, their standards for a partner and to set goals for the relationships. It would seem as if men generally have a clear plan for how to make physical advances towards women. They seem to be looking for a love story, not a life story. And a love story is what they get. As a woman however, I *cannot* follow a man to the end of time, respect, admire and trust him above everything else if he doesn't even respect himself nor has a plan.

So here I am, unable to use dating apps because it's painfully shallow and overwhelming, dying of my own longing for a Man who is honest with himself, his goals and desires and has his life in order. These are painful times. </3

[arposkraft]

no...this society does not obsess and market love...it obsesses and markets lust...

[keep_digging]

I was directed her by Brittany Sellner, I have subscribed

[realmless]

Definitely an amazing video. I 100% recommend.

[bennyresto]

Great video, definitely think you hit the nail on the head with this one. Very thought provoking

[tomasveras]

Came from r/Catholicism, and this is great. You have a new sub

[davidr.]

"Love" is like a subscription.

[Calphool]

I think the limitation of this sentiment was first (and massively) experienced by the previous generation or two. The Boomers realized that a life spent with someone who we do not in fact share any connection with out of some sense of obligation is an imposed construct -- imposed by society. Even if you believe very much in Sacramental marriage, at *some* point, continuing in a broken relationship can become dark and unhealthy for everyone. Most people agree that a relationship that becomes physically abusive is too far gone, but it becomes less clear when it involves emotional abuse or when one partner continuously seeks their own needs above the other. A life well lived is one that is a meaningful balance of what other expect from us and what we want to achieve. Neither extreme is healthy (being obsequious to what society / parents / authority figures expect, or being obsessed with what we ourselves want.)

[AREuthereanyweird]

It used to be Mr. and Mrs. Good enough and now it is Mr. and Mrs. Good for now.

[qynybuh]

Goverment took from most of us opportunity to create strong relations.

[Lapprenti-sage]

We must not forget love does not only exist between two individuals. There are multiple types of love: I love my family, my wife and my cats in different ways, but it's all love. Furthermore, since we can love multiple people at the same time, we can have multiple partners, even though it's hard to do so, whether it be in open relationships or polyamory. Even though I like your video, it doesn't stand up to the rest of the content i've seen so far from this channel. I'm a bit disappointed. We must reconsider how we see love, however, I agree with you on that, and I would've liked more ideas in the videos: maybe a reference to Plato's Symposium or other great texts that talks about love.

[qynybuh]

Love was eternal because most of us would have died till 35-40 and because we were stuck where we were born.