Grief is Not a Life Sentence | Jesse Brisendine | TEDxCSULB

What if we didn’t always have to grieve and suffer after the death of a loved one? In this sincere and moving TEDx Talk, Jesse Brisendine offers his story and a new perspective on how you can heal from loss.

[nomorerealitytv]

death can be an opportunity to choose how we want to live and honor the memories of those we've lost.

[nelsonpierse]

My heart broke for Jesse losing his friend and his dad within such a short space of time. The death of a parent is a major life changing event.

[shhhadowisme]

Grief can give us direction, purpose, inspiration when there was none before. Perspective is everything.

[rawirinikau]

I understand the struggle of dealing with imagined future moments after losing someone. It's like a void that can never be filled.

[michealrighini]

Finding ways to remember and cherish your loved ones while also living your life is a balancing act, but worth pursuing.

[amberdenkins]

Jesse's advice on shifting focus away from grief and towards living life is something I will definitely try to implement myself.

[maynardsavery]

The concept of "healing groups" is a positive way for people to move forward and to reframe their grief.

[saleisalovic]

I understand the pain of losing loved ones. It's not just about time, but also about finding healing and moving forward

[RayaxMaxine]

Lost my mom to Covid 3 weeks ago. I am still in so much pain.
I found myself sobbing watching this because I know my mom would want me to be happy as she loved me so much. She wants me to be successful and achieve great things. She does not want me to stay sad and hurt all the time. I just miss her so much

[kadiya]

Jesse, you've provided something incredibly powerful and valuable with this Tedx talk.
My 22 year old son passed away in 2016. I've worked at length with other mothers who've had children pass away;
You highlighted, early in your talk, the subject of guilt and its role within grief. Everything you said after that addresses the very answer to arresting guilt over choosing to live a joyous, fulfilling life, in the very way I know my son would not just want, but actually DEMAND of me.
Ben is no longer on this earth with me, but once I freed myself from guilt, I've enjoyed the magical experience of a whole new relationship with Ben. He's not gone or lost. He's never more than a thought away, and I've learned that moving forward doesn't mean leaving my son behind.
I began the journey to peace and healing. I've chosen peace over pain, and embraced the many gifts, grace and gratitude that awaited me, if only I would take that first step.
Grief is varied and complex, but it did NOT have to be a negative, painful, life long companion.
Thank you for helping to get this message out to the masses.
All the best,
Cat Lind

[suncookrocks]

It has been just under 1 year since my wife passed away. We were together for 34 years. I have heard, read, and viewed so much about grief and loss in that time, but this is the best talk I've listened to. The idea of moving from grieving to healing is on point. Thanks Jesse for this Ted Talk video.

[myfavoritestuff]

YOUTUBE why oh why do you try and stop people from watching challenging subjects. This should be a talk you want people to hear and understand!

[marisajane]

This is such a beautiful message. Loaing my fiance Mike has been the most painful to experience of my life. I've been through some not so fun things but the loss of someone you were planning your life with is crippling. It wasn't just my day to day life that changed but I had to let go of all our plans and dreams for the future and try to create a new ones. The problem with that is that all I wanted was him. I didn't want to make plans without him. I didn't want to chase my dreams without him. I didn't want me I wanted us. It took some time but eventually the gratitude I have for the time we did have together became my focus instead of the pain of losing him. I know that he would never want any to see me throw my life away to grief. He would want me to live every minute to the fullest, Chase my dreams, and be the best human being I can be. And so I do those things. And whenever I do, I can feel him cheering me on and I know without a doubt that this separation is only an illusion. He lives on in me.

[lucasgovenerst]

There's a lot to be said about focusing on the healing process instead of just wallowing in the grieving part of it all. Thank you!

[Frostlite]

Changing our focus can lead to healing... I know to some it can feel like a disservice to those who have passed to not show respect through mourning but truly, it's not a good way to celebrate them. If they loved us and wanted us to be happy while they were alive, the would still want that in death, and to look back at our memories of them with joy.

[ejamakaatanu]

This is the best I've watched soo far, I didn't even know there is a sunrise/sunset day and it happened to fall on the day my beloved brother passed away. The pain I feel is indescribable but I know our Lord Jesus will help me and I will come out victorious. Thank you for your lovely talk God bless you.

[ananya_soni_]

Person who has gone through grief, understood it and made a choice to choose healing. Every point highlighted, in a positive way, that’s incredible. Thankyou<3

[tarahjaiden]

What a wonderful way to start a talk by making us all terrified to go swimming again....thanks Jesse.

[therealjuanschmidt]

It's sad. It stays with us. But ultimately, it helps us grow.

[peterfernandez]

Since the almost crippling grief since the loss of my parents, especially Mom almost a year ago, I have heard many suggestions from well intentioned friends including "your Mom wouldnt have wanted you to suffer and grieve this way". Your focus on healing rather than grieving by living my life in a way that would honor their legacy, living the life of happiness and joy that they would want me to live, really resonated with me this time. Maybe its the sincere and empathetic way you have of telling your story, I dont know. I just wanted you to know that you have deeply touched me and given me a little hope. I will be thinking about what you said for a long time.