5 Things About Grief No One Really Tells You

#grief

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Script Writer: Brandyn Guerra
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Ben Carswell
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

With so many things happening around the world right now, how are you dealing with the process of grief?

[natasha.r.m]

Once I read a tweet that said: "Grief is just love that has nowhere to go", and I broke down crying.

[heleneg]

"Just stay strong" is often said by people who have never experienced real grief.

[whitebirchtarot]

“We will grieve for as long as we live.“ Thank you for saying this because it’s true.

[jamievanheerden]

I lost my dog today and we had a really strong bond. It's very lonely because people don't understand how hard losing a pet is.

[ladybug]

We never " get over " the loss, we eventually find a way to live with it.

[greatful]

"We will grieve for as long as we live..."
Well said!

Grief is a price we pay for love

[dannaalquati]

The man I considered like my father passed away today. I’m devastated. Is the first time I’m having with a major loss of a loved one and is the worst and most excruciating pain I’ve felt in my life. I’m desperately looking for videos to learn to cope with it, because the next weeks and months are gonna be hell

[A.RW]

I lost my dog today. It was extremely hard watching his health degrade so quickly. He went from running around and all happy one week to can’t even stand or lift his head without assistance the next. I see him everywhere I look. When I hear a sound, I think it’s him moving around the house. I keep reminding myself to feed him dinner or let him outside. I loved him so much I don’t know what to do. I grew up with him, the last 15 years. I miss him so much. I love you Griffey

[chaosbeam]

The pain never really goes away. Sure the pain dulls over the years, but it never fades completely.

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
― Steve Maraboli

[weenmaster]

My cat passed away today, I've cried so much that my head hurts. The tears stop, until I'm reminded of him again. I stepped into my home and immediately broke down into tears, I saw his empty bed and cried even more, I have never experienced loss like this before. He was with me ever since I was 7 years old, I'm 14 now and he was with me for 50% of my life. I really wish he was here with me longer, I always thought he would have lived until I was an adult, I thought he would have been there with me during my graduation, getting my first job, been able to meet my first love interest and all that stuff that happens during your teenage to adulthood years. His health declined rapidly, and we thought he had diabetes and could have possibly received treatment of some sort, but when we took him to the vet we were informed that he had cancer after running tests on him, and that he would not survive past today. The memory of just hearing that news hurt, everything hurts. I do not want to go to school, I don't want to finish my assignments, I don't want to do anything. I'm so empty without him, he was so healthy and strong, he was the smartest cat that ever lived. When he was sick, he was in so much pain, his breathing was laboured and his personality went from peppy to mellow and lethargic, he also lost an alarming amount of weight. His spine poked out of his back, and whenever you pet him you could feel that he was as frail and weak as a dying animal, literally.
"He's like a totally different cat" my mother said, she was correct. He was always hungry back then, meowing for food all the time and always doing tricks for us to somehow persuade us into giving him food. Thinking back on it really makes me sad, but the memory of him warms my heart just a bit. My heart is shattered, and I feel as though there is a deep dark void in my heart. I feel my teeth chattering whenever I try to hold back my tears, I miss him so much. When I went into my room, I mistook the pile of clothes on the floor as him, and it made me cry. When I think of him I cry, anything that reminds me of him makes me cry.
My mother gave me a long talk about grief and her experiences with it, later on in the day my father did too. My father comforted me by saying something about my cat sailing on a boat to a better place, using my tears to sail upon, and that there were enough tears already with no more reason to cry. This really comforted me, and I really would like it if these words could comfort someone else who is also mourning after a loved one.
I'm in so much pain, emotionally and physically. It hurts without him, and I wish for nothing more than to see him again.
I got to have my last moments with him in a room at the vet, the room had hearts on the wall with text printed on it with words like "I'll remember you forever" and all that. There was a couch in the room, and the vet brought in my cat after he had undergone a procedure to help him breathe for a bit longer, since his cancer caused liquid to fill his lungs. Since he was just put under anaesthetic, he could not feel the pain that he had been going through for all these weeks. For the first time in ages, he was purring in my arms and snuggling against my hands, I savoured my last moments with him as my mother discussed the prices for cremating him and running tests on him with the vet behind me.
My cat would always come up and kiss me or my mother on the lips when asked, "Give me a kiss" and he would do it if asked enough times. Although, when I crouched there with him snuggling and purring against my hands for the very last time, he did not give me a kiss when I asked.
So, for the very last time, with the vibrations of his purr calming my heart, I leaned down and planted a kiss on the top of his head.
The time was up and he had to go get put to sleep, the feeling of my hands departing his fur is a feeling I will never forget. I watched as the vet placed him over her shoulder, carrying him down the cream coloured hallway.
I saw my cat, for the very last time, I dared not look away. I walked the opposite direction with tears in my eyes, my gaze not leaving my cat at any moment, until he disappeared as the door closed behind him. Sunlight shone through the windows, even though I hate sunny weather, it comforted me for the first time at this very moment.
When walking back to the car with my mother, I still felt the warmth of his fur on my hands. Tufts of cat fur still stuck to my black sleeves from when I last came in contact with my dear companion, I'll never forget the comfort I felt as I listened to his purrs for the last time.

I'm happy that I was the last, and only person to give him a goodbye kiss.

He lives on in my heart, and in my memory. My tears have stopped now after writing this, grief hurts a ton, but I'm sure that I'll overcome it after time. I miss him dearly, and no other cat can fill the place in my heart, the place reserved for the friend that comforted and stayed by my side as I grew up from a small child into a young teenager. He's always with me, I'll miss you and I love you my precious little boy.

[Clap]

I lost both of my parents before I turned 30. My mom passed away in 2021 and I lost my dad in 2008. I’m an only child and it felt like my whole world came crashing down. Lost a lot of friends. Realized who was true all at the same time. It has been and still is a journey, and I miss them more everyday.

[mrmuscle]

My mum died last week. I never thought I would lose my mum so early (I’m 18) she was my best friend, my rock. She done everything for me and the fact I would never see her again kills me. Seeing my dad so hurt breaks me even more.

[gordondavis]

When faced with monumental loss, the pain is so intense at first you can’t imagine how you will go on. After a while, the true horror is that you realize that you will go on, and you will feel the loss every day.

[ral]

To add to #3: there's also "happiness guilt;" the guilt of wanting to be happy after you lost a loved one. It can feel "fake, " like it's not real happiness without that loved one. It can even feel "selfish, " like you're forgetting about your loss to make yourself feel better.

[x__dolorem__x]

My dog died peacefully in my arms today. The last words he heard me say to him were, “you’re such a good boy, you know that? I love you, Buddy”. I’m so endlessly grateful that I got to be there for him.

[dcyan]

Grief isn’t an easy experience. This is helpful to anyone and everyone.

[autumnbronze]

My dog died one month ago and the pain is so real I haven't been able to move on. She represented love and companionship in my life and now it's gone. My heart goes to anyone that is greiving their pets right now 😢

[kellilien]

My 96 year old mother died the day after Mother's Day. I had her for such a long time. But watching her die and suffer, after hospice began her painful and steady descent, was the worst thing I've ever experienced in my life. I miss everything about my Mom.