How to Love An Avoidant Partner:6 Key Strategies

//How To Love an Avoidant Partner: 6 Key Strategies //Navigating a relationship with an avoidant partner can be challenging, but understanding their needs and respecting their space can transform your connection. In this video, I'll share six essential strategies to foster a loving and fulfilling relationship with someone who has an avoidant attachment style.

Discover how to balance giving space with maintaining intimacy, and learn why what an avoidant partner needs might differ from what they say they want. From recognizing the signs an avoidant loves you to learning how to love an avoidant partner effectively, this video provides invaluable relationship advice tailored for those dealing with avoidant attachment.

By the end of this video, you'll better understand the dynamics of avoidant partners and gain practical tips to enhance your relationship. If you've ever wondered how to support and love an avoidant partner while encouraging them to open up, this guide is for you.

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Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:22 What is avoidant attachment style?
02:21 What attracts avoidant partners?
04:49 What do avoidant partners want in a relationship?
06:12 How to heal avoidant attachment?
07:21 What is emotional freedom in relationships?
10:12 What is secure attachment?
12:05 How to love an avoidant partner?
15:30 How to feel more secure in anxious-avoidant relationships?
18:07 How to heal insecure attachment styles

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OTHER WAYS TO CONNECT…

[LifeisaBeautifulting]

So according to this video, the way for an avoidant partner to love you more is to become more secure. This still doesn't address their difficulty with intimacy, expressing emotions and working through problems in the relationship. Even people with secure attachments struggle with avoidants, because the second you express any need (even while being as calm and direct as possible) they either sweep it under the rug and avoid it or shut down and want to run. None of this cures their insecure attachment style, even though we're expected to be more secure. We're always expected to accommodate avoidants, why? They are exhausting

[iamsoohappy]

I’m anxious and have had only 2 significant relationships which involved a DA and an FA. It was absolutely the most emotionally neglectful, disrespectful, and abusive ever. It has pushed me to not even want to be involved in a relationship ever again. I was always the kind, understanding, loving, compassionate, supportive partner and all they did was project their pain and blame me. It felt like I was the only one really trying to grow the relationship. I did the inner work and healing only to be a casualty of their own war. Most of the time I felt like I was in a relationship but all alone or catering to their needs. If I expressed my feelings, it was a problem…or rather they made me feel like I was creating it. I don’t want to close down my loving and playful nature…I just will be more careful when investing my emotions. Def not giving it away to people who use me as a emotional punching bag

[healingenergy]

I am a very secure person. I have my own life and passion. I have been married 26 years. We had intense talk about how he is all romantic and happy if I am my usual happy go lucky person. But if I am in a sad or bad mood (sometimes because of my premenopause) he just leaves me alone. I understood that he does not know how to handle the situation. So I told him in a situation like this just give me a hug. But nothing. Why I have to be the one EVERY SINGLE TIME to start talking and mend the relationship. I feel absolutely no emotional support from him.

[sherickahbromley]

Avoid avoidants, you hear me
You will save yourself a whole lot of pain.
Choose yourself
It doesn't matter how good of a person you are, they are bound to break you, I promise you.

[Cerby-bw]

The comments here present a dichotomy of views, and I think that is because if you have a secure attachment style, then an avoidant is just too much work. Why would you bother?

But avoidants tend to gravitate toward anxious attachment types, who are similarly on the insecure side of the street (this is from attachment theory, on which all this is based), and when anxious types understand all the things they need to work through then that gives them some compassion for the avoidant types.

Both have had poor parenting (not our fault) which presents us with unconscious emotional challenges we need to work through.

I think that's why some people understand the main thesis Briana is saying, and some people don't.

[Freethnkr]

I'm tired of trying to love people who are emotionally unstable, can't communicate in a healthy manner, avoid accountability, and push me away because they're scared of closeness and commitment. They only want the benefits of the situation, not the connection. They need to either seek help or stay single, or both just leave me alone because I do not struggle with these issues, nor do I deserve to deal with yours.

[mtjxlxg]

I’m trying so hard to remain indifferent to my partner… he barely ever compliments me or shows me any affection but he says he loves me… I grew up ignored as a child and it’s starting to feel like my partner is my parents all over again

[blatherskyt]

Where's the video on "I'm an avoidant partner... what can I do better?"

[Vera-scud]

Update: Two months fine, and then he got some problems and shut me down. He didn' stop going to Insta and talking jokes with colleges to "cope with it". But he didn't want me in his space. At first I gave him spase. Then I realized that the more I stay and "obey", I look like a fool. So i send him a voice message that is over. He never responded on what I said, or said that he loves me or anything you can really catch on to, he just said not to leave, he needs time. I said ", if I didn't send this, you wouldn't even contact me. Love is talking about problem. And frankly I am tired of ALWAYS something being problem with you. Bye", ( 9 years down the drain). People, just stay away. I did aeverything by the book, it still doesn't work. They are immature, demanding what only they want and you look like a servant.

[renohk]

Best way to love an avoidant is to leave them alone. If they're unable to find a partner there´s a chance that they'll go to therapy and stop their abusive behaviour. Find yourselves a healthy partner instead - stay safe out there.

[danab]

I’ve been married to an avoidant for 23 years and only now am learning about our attachment styles. No surprise, I am an anxious attachment. I am working on providing myself my own validation and emotional support. I have taken up a couple new hobbies that I truly find joy in. However, it seems that the more I do this, the less close I feel to my husband. Rather than bringing us together, it feels like a wedge developing between us.

[TheSaboorAnsari]

So who is putting effort in relationship? The partner of avoidant I think. If the partner has to do everything for themselves and also keep avoidant happy, it's too much work. Why not invest your efforts on someone who comes closer to you not run away. 🤔

[mrsociallyawkward]

Wow, the comments here are so callous and reek of victimhood. I have been on both sides of the anxious/avoidant dynamic. The dynamic can change during the course of a relationship and also depending on the person you're with. I think the key takeaway here is to be mindful of your attachment style and empathetic to your partner's wants and emotional needs. Control your attachment style, don't let it control you.

[SidneyWells]

I ended up on theraphy. The basis is you feel if you mirror them back, it is game over. So you trying to act on it, this involves some critics, which triggers them and can go into full emotional abusive. At the end, she was so shut down, that even if I told her a simple story, he reacted with zero emotion. If I called her out, then she denied everything. You just cant win. Either you submit and give up yourself for the relationship, or you say game over. Pretty much like a narcissist. Cant reach her inner core, deny/avoid everything, gaslight you, controlling, maybe even hypersexual, but of course also on her terms. Nightmare. Actually I had nightmares for months after we broke up. Half year in, and still not over it. She half-killed my sexuality as well.

[brownell.landrum]

My relationship with an avoidant partner is over - and I hope I never have another like it - but I do find this all fascinating and enlightening.

[AshleyEmmerton]

I can’t believe that there are people skipping over this. This is magical information!

[lynnc]

so draining, the simple things you want them to reciprocate to show you love like simple gestures without asking or telling them to do, they really struggle. I’m a secured attachment and I can’t understand why it’s so difficult for them to show the smallest efforts. The frustration comes when you’re doing 99% of everything. They don’t offer or do if you don’t ask, and if you ask, they get a little annoyed. It’s very difficult to love them, and it will feel it’s one sided where you end up doing everything all on your own.

[surgeonvicryl]

Based on exp with DA, they will always change mind, mood and plans. its always unpredictable, today she is good tomorrow she and so forth doesnt exist. Dating a DA is like dating a ghost.

[LSGO]

Every time I see comments that demonize the avoidant, I wonder what in the world they are doing here. Clearly they do care about the inner world of an avoidant, yet the comments would lead you to believe they got to this video by accident.

[MissCarrieH]

I don't think you need to promote your other videos every 15 seconds — your knowledge itself gets people interested in watching them!