You can’t “fix” the avoidant

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[rapthemusical]

Thank you for saying what nearly every other “love coach” won’t: Avoidance is serious and, without therapy and long term commitment to change, will only continue over and over. Our lives are painfully short; telling people to stick it out and work with an avoidant is borderline malpractice. Suffer for the 5-6 months of no contact with them, heal, and never look back. It was a bad dream. Nothing about it was real.

[walkertranger]

I want her to find healing and peace.
I love her whether she returns or not .

[KoiBikaneri]

I know a psychologist (therapist) who's an extreme fearful&dismissive avoidant... I can't see how they can help others when they refuse to improve upon themselves... 😕😆

[Bee-lpwj]

Former Fearful Avoidant here. This is so true. You have to WANT to heal. Not everyone does. It has taken me YEARS of therapy and the desire to heal for me to become secure.

[dennisassini-pwic]

It’s true! Save yourself a lot of time. Move on and respect yourself. Your dignity by itself will propel you forward! 👌!

[petersouza]

We need videos on the extreme difference between an extreme avoicant and a ... "normal" avoisant, i was married to a normal avoidant who struggled thru and showed up and did the work with me and we both grew, until sadly died 4 years ago. we did have a good couples therapist and are in 12 step recovery. More recently i was in a situationship w an extreme avoidant who tore my heart to pieces

[livewires]

Someone can have an avoidant attachment and chose not to get involved and injure another person. The bad behavior and the attachment are two different things. Bad behavior is a character flaw regardless of attachment style. Stop giving these losers a pass for bad behavior.

[SSJavenger]

Is BPD and avoidants corelated? My ex had BPD, i was either a saint or the devil. Every time there was emotional closeness she would pull the rug, she cheated with an utter disgusting piece of trash then had a panic attack when she was losing me, it was traumatic.

[gregorystinette]

People expect way too much from other people. Just love people for who they are & don't expect anything else beyond who they are. Shalom

[marguskiis]

The same story is talked buy Red Pill gurus about large majority of women.

[paracoco]

Tell this to the anxious men who think that they can force avoidant women into relationships by being pushy.

As a dismissive avoidant woman, I've never seeked out relationships and have never been open to being approached by men. I have only dated and had sex with one guy (also an avoidant) in my lifetime, and that was 8 years ago.

Still I keep encountering these extremely persistent and seemingly anxious men who are hellbent on forcing me into dating them.

[marguskiis]

You can say it about all menopausing women.