Is This Relationship Toxic? | Therapy & Theology

In this episode, Lysa TerKeurst; Licensed Professional Counselor Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, tackle the hot-topic word "toxic," defining what it is, what it isn't, and how to respond to toxic dynamics in a relationship.

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0:00 Intro
1:05 Is this one bad day or a toxic pattern?
4:40 What is spiritual and emotional toxicity?

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[cathyharris]

I am so thankful for this ministry. I am a Christian woman who has stayed in a toxic relationship for 42
years. My husband is a minister. I stayed quiet to protect his ministry for years. I finally started revealing the truth of our home life when my teenage daughter went to ministry in the church about it and was accused of lying. No one in this church group stepped up to help. The continued verdict has been you have to work it out. Divorce isnt an option. You can't fix a relationship with a narcissist. I have filed for divorce and pray it will be over soon. Listening to your program has enlightened me and encouraged me. Thank you.

[jillybeans.]

This episode is so so so good! I’ve been in therapy for 14 yrs and in the divorce process for over 10 mo… THIS video has helped me tremendously to know that God doesn’t want me to stay in this abusive marriage, and to not let my soon to be ex husband brainwash me to think his treatment of me is my fault.

[sreed]

Thank you so much for this session. Have been dealing with this for so long. Spouse who has refused to discuss anything. Red flags I've tried to address many times. Finally hit my limit after my healing. He was enabler to longtime friends who were abusive/toxic. So much hurt. God has given me the gifts of empathy and intuition and unbreakable strength. Husband is showing some signs of willingness to deal with toxicity. Time will tell. God knows his heart and will continue to reveal what needs to be seen. Have endured way too many narcissistic tactics and traits. Thanks be to God for strength and faith!

[kelgon]

Could you do a podcast on spouses with ptsd? When loving them through it is hurting you and kids.

[hummus]

To understand goodbye to mean, "May God be with you!" is very helpful to me.
I've had to draw some extreme boundaries with several people in my life. I still talk to them, but as little as possible. I keep the relationship on the surface;as, I feel, anything could be used against me.
Even though I am certain that there needs to be boundaries, I have really struggled with feeling guilty over this.
Thinking of my boundaries (which is basically goodbye, in that there's a loss of any intimacy) as, "May God be with you !"
helps me see that I am not a terrible person for letting them go .
Thank you ❤️This is a huge blessing for me.

[sherrydickie]

Thank you so much for this! Im always praying for discernment and this is it! This whole discussion unfortunately describes my own child, my daughter. It is heartbreaking to remember how she was as a baby and toddler and to see what she has become. The worst part is that she has a 6 year old daughter that she has now isolated from me and most of her family. It is scary to know what kind of mother my granddaughter has! Controlling, lying, deceiving, slandering, one who stirs up trouble, promiscuous, all the things you read! I pray for my daughter, but my granddaughter is the innocent one she is hurting! I am trying to fight for my granddaughter through the court system and could definitely use your prayers! Thank you all! 50:44

[twiceadopted]

My ex was always boastful, a liar, arrogant, and refused to listen to anyone in authority. I was a young naive 16 yr old and thought he was awesome. Eventually he got to the point where he believed his lies and started to believe in delusions. He was diagnosed as schizo affective about 6 yrs ago. He does not stay on medicine and make any effort to get counsel. He believes he does no wrong and misused scripture to belittle me and tell 'to mind my place woman'. Finally divorced after 32 yrs the last 10 we were separated but I'd feel bad for him and let him live with me. So upset that I was so naive of scripture and what forgiveness really means. It takes 1 to forgive but 2 to reconcile.

[leonapietsch]

So glad God set me free. I have my son, daughter and grandkids! Living with a toxic person is a sad way of life. Rather be in my own peaceful place!! Praise and worship God!! ✝️🙏❤️

[karendouglas]

Toxic narcissist husband. I am 50 years in and just understanding why I have been so unhappy. I have been in this unhealthy relationship for a half of a century.

[debstrunk]

Love this trio of treasure. Thankyou for blending biblical truth into counseling gold!!!

[sabbya.]

My mother is a very difficult person. I just wonder sometimes WHY do they need everyone to think they are wonderful. But when we are home alone there is no issue shouting . Argueing and wanting to control every second of the day. I know more than one person who is like this. I do not see her as a safe person. I live with her but it drains me. She does not understand normal conversations, she gets insulted and then blames everyone except herself.

[trishbech]

So timely ❤ Thank You ! So incredibly helpful - all of it and the 3 of you! ❤ Very clarifying

[lynninmichigan]

This has been one of your most helpful videos! I’m really connecting the dues in a relationship that has had me so completely confused and disoriented. THANK YOU.

[iw]

Wow, this is deep. Thanks very much for this teaching. We were seen & not heard and as 10th child became tail bearer, God is showing me to go to Him with my frustrations and all things I'm dealing with.😮❤🙏

[smileytheresa]

Also Toxic because things don't change. Angry from the spouse continuously saying things will change

[tabbywaithera]

I just love this episodes Lysa my favourite love love her.God has me listening to this now for good reason I really needed this...from Kenya 🇰🇪 thank you so much.

[bojos]

❤Lysa Thank You for sharing your wisdom

[sallyvanof]

Thank you very much for your ministry I wish I learn all this in the early age and year God bless

[shinrin-yoku]

Spectrum of severity and spectrum of occurrence.

[suzesinger]

Had a finger wagged at us by our parent...usually Mam...n spoken sternly to with a ... ' Beeee suuuure your SINS will FIIIND YOU OUT ' !

Never grew up..feeling forgiven.
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