How To Get People To Treat You With Respect: 3 Simple Steps

HOW TO GET PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT//HOW TO SET EFFECTIVE BOUNDARIES

The way to get people to be nicer to you and treat you better is not as hard as you may think it is, but it's also not common sense for most of us.

Many think the way to get people to treat us well is to do whatever they want and go along with whatever they say - that will make them like us more - right? Wrong. When we act like that and neglect our personal boundaries and are not assertive in our communication or with our own wants, needs, or preferences, the last thing people will do is respect us, because, well... we are not respecting ourselves, so how can we expect them to respect us? Which is why we need to learn how to set boundaries people will respect.

In this video I talk about 3 simple steps to get people to treat you with respect. If you get a lot out of it, do be sure to like the video, let me know in the comments, and share it out with your people!

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[juliakristinamah]

Which one of the 3 are you going to commit to doing more starting now?

[briannaw.]

every time I try to set boundaries I make a life long enemy.

[maryellen]

I notice a lot of bully's get more respect than nice honest people

[catmcalear]

I don’t think cutting people off is a bad thing. I think sometimes it’s necessary. Avoiding toxic people or behaviors is necessary to just avoid. We can make ourselves better and love ourselves first. Sometimes we can’t help others that can’t help themselves.

[terrychadwell]

"It's not their job to set your boundaries for you--it's your job to set them if you want them to be respected." Absolutely true. Too often, we inadvertently let other people decide for us, rather than us deciding for ourselves. Great content as always, Julia!

[ExtraordinaryLiving]

I am very nice and good to people, and I can tolerate a ton, yet in the end, if the person is not deserving of my niceness, then I have no qualms cutting him/her off.

[mariamistretta]

Set boundaries
stand up yourself.
Self respect
Know your worth, value.
Express yourself people.
Speak up say no to things.
Stay postive be happy.
Be confident enough.

[curtistinemiller]

The worst is family.Nobody else trys that crap.My way of dealing with it is to not see them as much. I keep them at a

[Achilles]

Couldn't agree more.  If you're not happy in a situation then change it.  Take control of your own life.  Don't allow yourself to be at the mercy of someone else.  I recently ended a long distance 'romantic' friendship with a girl because I felt I was getting a lot of mixed signals and strange behaviour on her behalf.  It was just emotionally draining.  Sometimes you can put up with such behaviour from people for months without even realizing it.  It's very natural to make excuses for people whom we like.  But eventually you wake up and smell the coffee and take action.

[carlos]

I wasn't raised in this country but since I arrived here I noticed people love to just manipulate other people or take advantage regardless how the other person feels, they feel superior because of their financial status or position they're in or because they know more about life they're heartless

[dawnemile]

I don't agree that people take a cue from the person they are ill-treating. There is a moral responsibility for each person to treat others with respect. It is a lack of ethics on the part of the bully which is actually what is occurring - bullying behaviour or taking advantage of someone whom they perceive to be weaker than themselves in some way.

[songsforsale]

Human boundaries are all roughly the same. We shouldn't even have to set them. If you're forced to, it's already over

[beaulieuc]

Thanks for this. I met my boyfriend's flatmate for the first time, and she was so rude (even before we introduced each other) I recognised by her deameanor and tone, and disrespect, that she was going to be a problem. I stood my ground and walked away. I actually made it clear that I will keep out of her way and have nothing to do with her. I think she was surprised. Fortunately I don't have to speak to her at all She tried to make me feel bad. She is a childminder and treats adults like naughty kids. I have confidence enough to accept not everyone likes everyone and if the feeling is mutual then it is clear for both of us.

[megb]

I work in the service industry, and this is so valuable in every moment. Servers learn to accept abuse, and are used to walking on eggshells and participating in uncomfortable exchanges. It needs to change!

[charlottedeaves]

I’ve had to cut a few people out of my life. Particularly those who always made false promises, or wanted me to do stuff for them all the time. I think also when you have chronic illness it’s easier to say no.

[lashornawashington]

Stop worrying about people.Don't care just do you express you you are unique with a purpose and eagles fly alone .You love you and everything else will fall in place.

[stephanielane]

Sometimes the people who don't respect boundaries, are elderly relative's, like mother's, and you feel you have to put up with it as to not lack in respect for your elders

[zzulm]

One I'm doing right now is say my needs first thing. Right after the right greeting I go straight to saying what I need from the person in front of me. Needs are what make us feel like a person and not an object.

[Denise-wjyy]

I love this advise..I realized that I needed to put distance between a friend and myself..it was such a hurtful relationship. This is confirmation that I am doing the right thing..thank you.

[marywolfe]

I do t want to be talked into doing anything that I don't want to do. I had an elderly lady trying to get me to go to a particular church. I told her I don't want to go there at this time and she kept on. it was all her agenda. I didn't appreciate it at all. I had to keep repeating myself. then, this same person knows that I don't want phone calls after ten PM. But, then she will call at 9:55 PM and not ten PM yet. She knew that five minutes before ten is pushing it. This is all crazy behavior and I may cut her off!