How To Get People To Listen - Jocko Willink

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 211

[sank]

My professor told us, learn to just listen without thought or wanting to interject. It’s not easy but once you learn how to do that conversations go so much better.

[Antidon]

Right.
Just like Jordan Peterson said "Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't"

[Mr.P.Griffith]

I have done this naturally for years. It's extra effective in a group setting for sure. I'm just an unassuming skinny 30 something guy, but I noticed a long time ago that that 98-2 concept can make you the alpha in a group of people that didn't think they needed one.
But that point of actually absorbing what is being said around you puts you in a class all of your own.
Great video.

[josephhatten]

Been practicing this for a while now, interestingly, by focusing on listening, you become very aware pf how much Interruption actually takes place in the average conversation

[joshdabuddha]

I've got a friend who can rant for hours and hours. One time he called me up, and I fell asleep listening to him. I woke up about 30 mins later, looked at the phone timer he had been ranting for over 3 1/2 hours. And he was still talking. Lets just say, I don't take his calls anymore. This theory doesn't work for everyone.

[Rad_Duke]

Have you guys saw Jocko's convo's with people on stage? He never interrupts them when they speak to him. Never. He listens to answer.

[DDankyKang]

Jocko and Echo, please dont ever stop spreading your knowledge and truths! i need it very much and i think the world too! i really needed to hear that there are still people left who want to make the world REALLY better and TALK with other people!

[WhoIsAmaze]

More gold from some of the best humans on the earth

[sterlthepearl]

And people don't care how much we know, until they know how much we care. And people won't remember everything we said, but they'll remember how we made them feel.

[Redtailedhawk]

First time I’ve listened to Jocko’s podcast. Ironic this is something I’ve done for years. Because when I was younger I actually talked too much and it came to a point when someone had said to me that I needed to learn to listen. I took it to heart and really started to listen. It’s amazing how much you learn about people from adopting that habit into your daily life. I heard your interview with Dan Bongino awesome interview and now I’m subscribed to you as well! 👍🇺🇸

[zrjvrqb]

Yeh, I tend to get caught in the battle of the of ideas, now I'm I'll do more to listen and care on a deeper level .Thanks boys for a new approach

[NPKxquikkyle]

Once all y’all get done talking in the comment section then I’ll speak

[stevegeorge]

In the Security Field We Are Taught To Listen! 1st Step!

[aikishugyo]

Listening clearly involves detachment, very good points all, wow, so much learning.

[fireeaglefitnessmartialart]

I've actually been kinda good at this to a degree. I'm a more timid person and soft spoken. And I have learned things from not talking over too many people. On the other hand, sometimes I'm too timid about it and still cant get my voice in.

[ep]

I think a lot of Jocko's advice is very sound but there needs to be context to what he's saying.

For example I think Jocko's advice really works for him and people like him, because he comes from a world of men who live by their word. In his many years as SEAL even the men he might not see eye to eye with, he still respected and spoke with somewhat of an even playing field. I only say this to mean, in everyone else's day to day interaction, this kind of advice doesn't always work. Not everyone is a well trained or well educated person with meaningful input.

My 2 cents, Outside of a job where those surrounding you are around your skill level (give or take expertise you can all learn from one another) or outside of professional Bad Asses like Spec Ops troops (there's a mutual respect for the dudes who went through the same shit you did to get there) or a good friend or loved one, then some folks just don't deserve an audience.

Also maybe I've just got brain damage, but I can't possibly sit and let someone rant on for a while and be able to address the points they make successfully. I mean, give me a note book & pen maybe...but damn if you let some people, they'll go on for a while and by the time they're done, I've already forgotten half the points they made.

[garrett]

Leadership, Strategy, Tactics..
Get the book- be the book...

[DWHalse]

Just found Jocko's History Channel video Charley Platoon amazing story, amazing Heroes...Jocko....damn tough guy there bud. Pretty when you were young. At 70 for me...not too good! Bless you!

[clawedmist]

This is the reassurance I need. Thanks again.

[doggydude]

I feel this method only works if all parties involved mutually respect each other to an acceptable minimum level. Also you have to take in account of time and place. I have colleagues who switch subjects so often and always interject when I speak with often a irrelevant joke. It comes to a point where I'm wasting my time and it's frankly time to move on. I've gain nothing from "listening" to them anyway.