Toxic Red Flags in your Relationship

What are some red flags that we are in a toxic dynamic in our Relationship?

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
#marriageadvice #relationshipadvice #redflags

[janicekern]

Thank you, I have been in a bad relationship so long that it has changed the person I am. I have started yelling and screaming and acting just like him. I am in counciling and I have been told this change is from years of being in flight or fight mode. I hate me like this and I am only like this with the people in my life who blame me for everything. I can do nothing right and am to blame for all the wrongs, including their actions. Example: "I cheated because you made me feel unwanted." Nit saying I didn't as I myself had been emotionally abused for so long I didn't feel wanted, needed, or respected, that I pulled away. Yes I pulled away, but I didn't cheat. We are now toxic for each other.

[ndavies]

You are speaking truth here! I was in a relationship like you describe. Thankfully, I had a counselor who invited me to ask God what would be best for me. Tears immediately began rolling down my cheeks. I knew what would best for me. I was trying to "stick it out" in the relationship and it was destroying me. All the best to each of you struggling.

[candissharee]

Thank you for this. When I peruse my personal notes, this is what I journaled about on a near daily basis for 5.5 yrs. It's hard to read. My needs were either 'punished' or neglected. I was never allowed to be my own person or had a right to my own existence. I spent so much of my time harboring confusion, anxiety, stress, and eventually, adrenal fatigue. I now know what I know. But it's still healing to hear it spoken out loud; what I was experiencing and feeling was VALID.

[elevateandempower]

I'm going to listen to this on repeat, I think. It's going added to my faves list as an uplift.

[braciemoore]

Exactly. I have to listen to his day, all about work, how he is hurting...I just keep my mouth shit and tell him how great he is.

[michellemurphy]

Thank you Jimmy for that. I see responsibility for that on both sides..

[megancranford]

I have this in another family relationship (not spouse). Thank you so much for this affirmation!

[alisonturner]

this was how my life was. i just got out. but he is still in my life because of our child. the lies that are coming out of his mouth all the time now are questioning if he ever told me a truth throughout our 13-year relationship. i can now move on and do what i want and what i need for myself. just need to make sure he doesn't try and take hold of me again

[tymwillpass]

Jimmy, why u wake up so early🤤🥱Some people drink coffee to start their day. I watch Jimmy’s new videos😊

[Raydachirstian]

Thanks Jimmy I really needed to hear this because my marriage is main problem is this and I finally decided to leave because I’m alway giving and pouring into my husband needs and when I let him or explained to him multiple times what I need or bring up his inconsistencies he gets defensive and it sucks because I truly love this man but I just don’t love what he comes with and the sad part about it is I’m explaining what I need from him but like I said he’s in consist and it’s like we keep going through the same cycle if we’re ok and then I explode because I realize I’m just tired of trying to pretend like everything ok or that something doesn’t bother me

[michellebe-tp]

A malignant narcissist manipulates and disrespects …I was married to one and so glad he’s out of mylife!

[stelachongo]

Yeah 😢😢😢😢. I can’t even open my mouth, he says I’m complaining. I feel so confused coz he gives me confused signs and at the end he blames me 😢

[stelachongo]

OMg …. You just described my all current situation 😢

[jaimepiano]

Codependent No More has REALLY been helping me! Thank you SO much for your videos!!

[Star-djkw]

If my abusive partner listened to this video-
“RIGHT! when I express emotions, everyone around me has a problem with it!
If I just SHUT UP 🤐 and never said ANYTHING to the people in this house, then they might be happy. But as soon as I just try to ask a question 🙋 all hell breaks loose.” ☹️

[raven-wolf]

I had this on repeat because its soo true.. Thank you

[suzannege]

you are awesome ❤❤ thank you for your time I wish my psychologist is this kind .. he told me I'm just repeating my mother's behaviour in my life!!! and I just need to get out and go shopping or work out instead of trying to fix my husband😢

[momofegyptianbluewolf]

My middle sibling has been doing this for so long.

[colleenbucks]

Or if you feel like you have to become smaller & smaller....

[honestlythetruth]

Can you make videos like this about parent and child relationships too?