5 SIGNS you are NOT a FJ (INFJ, ENFJ, ISFJ, ESFJ) Personality Type | Fe Extraverted Feeling

Diane and I list 5 signs you are NOT the FJ personality type (INFJ, ISFJ, ESFJ, ENFJ).

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[hfortenberry]

INTJ here. This was fantastic! ❤ The concept of emotional appropriateness is something I never considered when typing someone. That’s so true!

[RetroXRicardo]

As an ESFJ, I learned a lot and can confirm these statements are true about the FJ tendencies. Great discussion!

[adamahoonie]

You’ve nailed why I get frustrated by IxFPs. As an ENFP I can relate to how they feel being “swept up” in a current emotion, but I’m much more conscious of when the emotion isn’t appropriate, and I’ll “store it” for a better time. The IxFPs in my life seem to struggle a lot more to do this.

[getreadywithmemamma]

Oh my gosh my hubs and mom do this! They are right and will then consider the group members opinions, but I see this as a super strength. Holding their personal truths in a side holding tank can actually filter the real truth out ti style. I just trust them more though since they aren’t going to landslide me, or if they do I’m really really wrong. Their patience and ethical meters are insanely good. The direct thinking of Te we need sometimes, but ENTJ father exhausted me of this and while I do think we need that it can be hard to live with 24/ 7. My parents balanced each other way out and their dynamics were truly interesting. It was like having the whole world of Mbti cognitive functions in one house.

[ryank]

Thanks, Joyce, these videos have been very useful! I was surprised by the last two personality tests I took, ENFP and then INFJ before I had always gotten INFP. INFP makes the most sense based on my understanding of cognitive functions and these talks definitely helped clear things up!

[rose_yts]

Interesting. Thanks for bringing light to this section of the FJ personality types. I am within the FJ bracket, definitely.

[leogrrrl]

That’s so funny about the Dopamine comment! I was just texting someone about the difference of Te & Fe in this the other day, too.

[sns_taunoraka]

My mother is an esfj and one thing I've noticed is her opinions come out in very immature ways. Like a child begging to he listened to even if the opinion isn't thought out at all. And with all fe I've met their bluntness often comes out in comoletely random ways cause they have No control over it, it's quite entertaining 😄

[cazbee]

As an INFJ I don't doubt my own opinion (point 1). I'm very open to taking in fresh knowledge, and debating an issue, but my prior conclusions (now knowledge) are unlikely to to suddenly be invalidated by someone else's beliefs.

Of course social decisions are a VERY different kettle of fish. It's pretty well always someone else's choice 😄. But that Ni-Ti powerhouse is not often swayed by the incessant ramblings of other random hoomans 😂.

Great content x

PS. I grew up in an NT-dominant household, so...

[VortexThePrime]

So, I've always liked this video series, and I identify as INFJ. However, number 1 really makes me wonder. I'm all about the truth and I am very much an independent thinker. But I will prioritize social harmony since as you said "It's just not worth it" in most cases. Not to mention you can't change anyone's opinion if you just upset them more and more.

I however won't change my opinion unless I believe it. I'm always open to what others have to say and don't assume I'm right. It bothers me if the majority of people disagree with me of course, but not because I think I'm wrong but it makes me feel less connected to humanity, more alien... Or that there is something wrong with me or humanity.

It's not that the truth is wrong so much as the negative feeling that comes with it. I feel like I'm the only one who can see the truth sometimes and I hate that feeling because I know that can't be true. I'm not super special or anything, but it sometimes seems or feels like I'm alone in my observations, like I can see more layers of the situation than most. I've always identified that feeling as having dominant Ni.

So now I'm a bit confused, I definitely feel like my Ni is dominant, but I have always had concrete opinions that only change if it sounds right to me. Of course, I will prioritize harmony, but that just means I'll bite my tongue or remove myself from the situation if possible.

Im 35 now, but when I was a teenager I got INFP, but we all know how reliable those sites are. I definitely don't see myself as an Ne user because I may brainstorm a lot, but I'm always trying to narrow those ideas down, pair them down. An example being designing a board game or tabletop game. My friend who uses Ne, just keeps adding stuff to his game, a million ideas which are all cool but my job ends up defaulting to the editor as I try to cut away the fat to simplify the game, to distill it into the vision that we had.

Apologies for the long winded response, and great job on the video.

[leilacarpenter]

I love this series of video discussions. The description of Fi as not being related to context was fascinating.

[ninibugg]

After years of being mistyped as an INTJ (I was in middle-high school, tbf) and studying the cognitive functions, I've realised that I'm definitely a Ti Fe Ni Se user, mostly INFJ or ISTP. All the loops I get into have to do with me overanalyzing how I may have interacted with someone, if I said/did the wrong things, and how that'll affect what happens (Ni-Ti or Ti-Ni loop or Fe-grip). I want an opinion on my typing based on this and the TP video

1. Normally, I definitely am opinionated, and I typically "march to the beat of my own drum", according to my mom. The only time people's opinions may sway me or make me doubt myself is if I say something, and then EVERYONE in the group looks at my like "wtf, that's wrong" or they may come with tones of evidence, while all I did was make a logical assumption. Then I start to feel like "wtf did I do" and I loop or grip

[dxfifa]

SFJs are extremely indirect in all ways. NFJs on the other hand are straight to the point even if it is a sugarcoated point. Beta quadra are very direct in that way, they rarely ramble or give too many details

[Claego]

Yeah, I guess I instinctively check if everything I say is considerate of someone else's feelings. It's really annoying 😅

[ErikAdalbertvanNagel]

As an ENFP I really can't relate to these 😄. Rules are made to be broken. Especially #1, I would burn from the inside if I had to follow others' opinions.

[allyson]

i'm pretty sure i'm an INFJ, but i don't back down from a debate if i choose to engage. but i also choose my battles and don't generally seek them out; guess it doesn't happen often, maybe 1x a month now, if that, but it gets intense. if i'm engaging, it's something i know i'm correct about and likely around a theme of injustice/protecting others... like i've gotten in trouble for refusing to stay quiet and "keep the peace" while a family member, or someone from my hometown, spews hateful misinformation, especially when it goes from prejudice and stereotypes to have an undercurrent or tone of violence. i'm also very sensitive to pick up on dog whistles, which i think makes sense for Ni-Fe-Ti... they often get surprised by how well i understand their rhetorical games and that they're very much emotion trying to look like logic (and I don't just bring thinker data or run around chasing what-about-isms)... this has made some people afraid to talk about certain "issues" in my presence, and i'm more than ok with that... that was actually my goal; gave up on changing their minds long ago

[stevepeterson]

You two have a real good rapport, just my opinion : )
Not much wavering from infj self assessment so far, these videos really help. And especially, that you compare the opposites! if you get what I mean. Some typers miss that, so it gets a little ambiguous, could be, maybe, kinda . . . Argh.
Yes, (#4?) the juice from interactions "vs." goals. I'll happily work alone for hours and hours to an end, but one quick stimulating text or phone call is like a soul vitamin!! I'll replay it as I go along, definitely fuels my spirit. : )
Thanks as always!
Infj, I believe, it seems . . . .

[dogdonut]

This video pretty well convinced me that I'M not an fj...but most likely everyone's mom in the comments section will be.

[sara.the.muggle]

Sometimes Fe gets so intense that absorbing another persons emotions feels debilitating . I recently felt like I was feeling someones emotion so strongly, that I couldnt get out of it. It made me physically sick. When I described it to them, they confirmed that they were feeling the exact same way. Weird! It feels like you're not your own person, that you belong to the group. That sounds dramatic and sad 😅

[yokami]

Hi, I was wondering if you can maybe give me directions how can I discover my mbti better?
I am very calm, quiet and peaceful person, who loves people, animals and plants. I love art, and I draw, I love to play my piano, and music (I can't live without it), take photos with my camera, ... I also love to read books and to learn languages. People often call me "artistic soul" because of that, likewise, I am creative, full of ideas and etc. People always say that I am well-mannered, kind and always willing to help and to sacrifice myself for others.
But, I am introverted and I can't really always be with people, it's important for me to have a alone time for myself. Also, even though I am friendly, I barely have any friends (but I am happy that I have them), because people usually misunderstood me, or think that I am too much.
Okay, there's of course more to it, but here is what I think so far.
First test was: INFP.
I can see why I could be INFP. But I am not always in my head, but I wouldn't say that I am down to earth too. I'd say that I am both imaginative and realistic.
And also I know for sure that my friend is an INFP, and we have a lot in common, but our ways of thinking differ from each other.
And I also can't really relate to them.
So I've decided to try doing this test again.
Last time, I missed "planing thing" and "procrastinating" I don't really understand why I put that those things are true, when they are not.
I finish my tasks on time, I am lazy sometimes so I can say that I delay some things sometimes, but It's like for 2 or 3 days, and then I get down to do it.
I don't like routines, because I can't really keep up with them because, someting always jumps in and destroys my routines, and I don't see point in it really (for me at least). But I do plan my days, and always look at the future.
Also, my INFP friend will always say that she needs more time to recharge ( like a whole week and even more); she is very introverted, while I need just 2-3 or 4-5 days, it depends.
I am friendly towards people, but I can't really trust anyone so I am really reserved. I heard that some people say that I am sophisticated, so they are either afraid of talking to me, or they just don't notice me. I am okay with anything really, because if I don't have anyone, I can be alone. But I prefer to have people around me.
Also, I analyse everything, like every single stuff (not to mention overthinking too and doubting myself). I am also trying to be moral. And also justice and freedom, two things that go with me.
Second test result was: INFJ.
But I always read that they don't have a lot of energy. Around people, I am really like really quiet, you won't hear a word from me, unless you ask me something then I'll be glad to talk to you or answer the question, but when I am alone I can be quite crazy. I can't even explain it. Or when I am with my friends I am the one who cracks jokes, makes them laugh and etc..
So my guess was, maybe ISFJ. But then they are down to earth, and they are like "mom friend". But I wouldn't say that I am a "mom friend", I more like: I will listen to you, try to help you if I can, and give you some tips, but would also tell you that you are the only one who can save yourself, I am only here to support you.
So I don't think that I am ISFJ either, especially because they love routine and loves to be in their comfort zone. While I am always opet to learn something new and to experience something new. And I also put others first, and hide my emotions all the time, and I have a hard time understanding them too.
So now I am wondering if I could be ENFP.
Also, putting my diagnosed depression aside and anxiety as well, cuz that can only make things harder. (I am working on it every day because I can't stand negative feelings, am I always trying to be optimistic).
Sorry if this is long.. But I hope that you can help me. (: