5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love

Are you constantly surrounded by people on dates, engagements, or weddings? If so, it’s only natural for you to want what they have. You may put yourself in uncomfortable situations by going on dates or might even try to convince yourself that you are actually in love. But are you really? Here are a few signs you're NOT actually in love.

Writer: Ananya Sawarkar
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References
Ni’Kesia Pannell (May 23, 2018). 5 signs you’re not actually in love — even if you think you are. Retrieved March 02, 2022 from;

Kelli Ann. 10 Signs You’re Not Actually In Love With Your Partner. Retrieved March 02, 2022 from;

[karmiffy]

5 signs you're not in love
1) no talking for a few weeks
2) consistently venting about them
3) being together no longer enjoyable
4) "i love you" feels fake
5) honesty feels conditional

[Martyn_Wolf]

Love is a choice. Once the honeymoon hormones wear off, we all have a choice to continue to love someone as long as you feel it or we don't

[kyuristale]

I actually thought that I was in love with this person and even confessed to them not long ago but after I did I actually felt nothing. Everything's in this video is really on point with me (except the venting about them part). I always wanted a stable relationship and they were my first choice because I thought they were the safest option, now I realize that I was just in love of the thought of being in a relationship and not actually being in one

[anophoria]

I've actually never really been in love, I've had a few relationships but thinking back, i don't really know why I agreed on it. Sometimes i think I'm unable to love. And i am afraid of getting emotionally attached to someone

[pixie_spinda]

My gf confessed to me a couple months ago (I'm pretty sure) and I'm not fully in love with her because I'm still recovering from my trauma. We love cuddling and we text each other every and I show her a lot of affection - it's so cute seeing her happy :)
Every once in a while, I'll get excited and nervous sometimes, meaning I'm getting closer to full recovery.
I'm glad I'm happy, and I hope everyone here is happy too💕💕

[timelyseeker]

I've had that before with someone who seemed too fastly attracted to me - broke up and now I'm talking to a very nice girl from Canada (not YET in a relationship)

[ashketchum]

If you don't have time:
1. No talking? No problem!
2.Consistently venting
3.Being together no longer enjoyable
4."I love you" feels fake
5.Honesty feels conditional

[gothsinn]

Just ended a relationship where all of these things were true about me... seeing it summed up in a video has helped me to feel valid for the choice I made. I wasn't invested in my partner anymore and they deserve someone who will be. I'm going to hurt for a while, especially when they find someone else, but it was the right thing to do. I don't really think I'm the kind of person who is capable of loving so I don't think I'll be pursuing anything myself, and I wouldn't ask anyone to love me if I'm seemingly incapable of giving them the same in return.

[GetYourLifeBetter]

5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love
0:34 No talking? No problem!
1:10 Consistently venting.
2:05 Being together no longer enjoyable.
3:00 “I love you” feels fake.
3:30 Honesty feels conditional.

[fang]

Yo!! Your content helps me a lot when I'm questioning things and when i need answers. Tysm for all that you do for us!!

[MandalorianOfMiatas]

Loved how this one explained each sign well and compared what the opposite might look like. Really helps the understanding.

[itsbeeva]

The part about honesty gets me… because I rarely ever feel safe telling my (sort of) partner the truth, but with my ex it came so easily when he turned up the other day - even though telling him about my ‘sort of’ partner could make things harder… being the best version of myself comes naturally with him!

[Mel]

Well, I know I'm in love, but this definitely confirmed it more 🥰

[roziyui]

This video actually really helped me figuring out I am not in love anymore
Things like that sometimes seems so easy but at the samd time they are hard to accept, so thank you!
I really needed some advice

[ribonette_]

Not like I was looking for answers, but this helped me see that my relationship with my ex was long gone dead and took the right decision when calling quits.

[SajjadHNayem]

I have always thought that my love with my partner is Love in it's purest form.... I didn't need any assurance from anyone, because I felt it. But after seeing this video, I am surer than before that our thing is real. Because we behave totally opposite of this with one another . A little reassuring like this feels nice.

[Ilitan]

What's the difference between being in love and being emotionally dependant to your partner?

[Cristina-quug]

So... I was in love and he made me stop feeling this way.

[Voldirs]

Oh, I have felt the honesty part really well. I can't comfortably speak about everything with her just because of her sometimes insulting jokes and "others have it worse" kind of answers. And I can't really blame her for that since she has grown up in the same conditions, for every of her troubles she had same answers from relatives and some "friends". She thinks it builds the character, just because she was raised up like this, but I know her fairly well and her heart is closed in a similar way like mine, not really tightly though. She is very nervous about herself and very critical of herself and others, she kinda tries to tight herself up, but through enormous emotional strain. I always listen to her and I try to soothe her mind through calm and soft speaking and listening thoroughly. I always want her to just be better. Isn't it love?

[Yashuop]

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