How To Argue (But Not Fight) With A Narcissist

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Because narcissists are so dominant and controlling, they have a knack for steering relationships into conflict. Do you have a game plan for handling yourself as potential arguments arise? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter discusses developing a mindset that will serve you wisely in the midst of that conflict.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author who has 38 years experience in counseling. He has conducted many workshops and over 60.000 counseling sessions. He maintains his practice near Dallas, Tx.

[stavroulap.]

How to argue with a narcissist:
Step one: stand up
Step two: leave

[leteshamckenzie]

You can't force someone to respect you BUT YOU CAN REFUSE TO BE DISRESPECTED.

[sandrastanley]

Prayers going up for everyone who has to deal with a narcissist😣🙏🕊

[LyndieLouWho]

I am not a therapist but it has been my experience that the number one rule of trying to resolve conflict with a narcissist is, DON'T.
Don't try to tell your side of the story to outsiders, time will hopefully take care of that for you.
Just move on. The people who truly love you will stick by your side.

[strugglingmuslimah]

They forget things they said. Or lie they don't remember saying any of that.

[marcelamrekajova]

Narcissistic doesn't want to find solution, they hate all solutions. Because solutions mean the fights will end.

[TwitchingShark]

You can't have a rational conversation with an irrational person.

[evelina]

“Relationship with a narcissist in a nutshell: You will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is ever good enough. You will give everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return. You will end up depleted, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and probably financially, and then get blamed for it.” – Bree Bonchay

[graceanneful]

Narcissists love putting one on the witness stand! And you better have a tape recording! Because they will twist up your words or deny parts of conversation even existed

[scottcaldwell]

Be cold as ice with a narcissist. Show no emotions or negative energy. Let them argue with themselves. Live your life like they don’t exist. Be cordial, say hi, good morning etc. other than that be bland with your responses. Don’t explain your opinions or thoughts to them. Explaining will lead to debates and arguments.

[cynthiaking]

I only wish I knew what a narcissist was when I was 20 years old.

[Broadysword]

You can't argue with someone who lies and distorts reality to their own will. They can just keep lying to benefit their own point. You can't counter a lie.

[lynettedundon]

The narcissist in my home pretends to have empathy, but it's an act.

[marywolfe]

here is a nugget for everyone. Don't waste your time e trying to explain who you are to people who are committed to misunderstanding you!

[ronniewilliams]

They never want you comfortable or happy, or if they see you relaxed, they say you don't care.

[PeopleHealthTru]

7:35 How to argue (after the 7 min. intro)
1. Does your argument make sense?
2. Use calm plain tone
3. Not defensive back and forth
4. Remain decisive
5. Assertive action
6. Goal is stating facts, not winning
7. Manage your emotions under stress

[katherineshaw]

An argument with a narcissist is like trying to drink a glass of air.

[hugmc]

How too beat a narcissist in any argument. Don’t speak. They will then argue with them self’s. Crazy 😜

[annacribbs]

Everytime I get off the phone with them. I feel like I just have nothing left. I'm sooo tired...

[asparrow]

The lockdowns this year have given me time to reflect and realize just how many of these people are in my own family. It's kind of disturbing. I have a lot of careful and gradual cutting out to do for my own health and sanity. Being alone is better than being around unhealthy people that are hurting you.